What do you feel when you are compared to other people?

@fawcey (928)
Australia
April 8, 2007 9:16pm CST
I hate it when you tell someone something you have achived or done and thet say, well I know so and so and they did it better. Or they did that already. Why can some people not just give praise to people. Were you ever constantly compared to an older sibling or friend. 'Why cant you be like so an so. You are so excited that your son has just starting writting his name and tell someone and the first thing they say is oh thats nothing I know ***** they did that ages ago, what took your son so long. It annoys the hell out of me.
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@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
9 Apr 07
Comparing to others is really annoying, but maybe I'm through with that phase, I'd learn to ride on other people's criticisms and comparison thing. As years had passed and I aged, It's something I'd learned, to be satisfied and contented on whatever I have and just let people have their own. When they criticize,I just remain quiet , it's their opinion but I know inside what's the real score. learning to be contented and accepting things as they come may be the best key.
@fawcey (928)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
It is annoying and I think you do get to a stage where it is like water of a ducks back but I feel for younger people and kids when I see it happen to them and feel uncomfertable when friends do it their kids in front of you. I agree learning to be content and accept things as they come is good but younger children are not yet equipt with these skills and it can be very damaging to their self esteem and make an impact on them trying knew things.
• United States
9 Apr 07
I think that we need to make a concious effort not to compare each other to other people. Even more important is that we NEVER do it with children. It is crushing and often times it is like comparing apples and oranges. They both have some good qualities, but they are still going to be very different. All in all, I like people that are individuals and I like to be treated like an individual. I bet that is true with most people. Great Topic
@fawcey (928)
• Australia
9 Apr 07
Thanks for a great response to my discussion. I agree totally that we should all never do it with children. I always make sure I praise my son and tell him that what he did was great. I know from experiance that it can be damaging to your self esteem as a child if you are constantly compared to others. I tell my son when he complains if someone runs faster than him that it doesn't matter because he runs the best he can and I am proud of him. Everybody does things different and should be made to feel accepted and praised for the way they do something, as you say treated as an individual.