Irresponsible parents

YOu should find another option for childcare. I would also let him know that it is unacceptable for him to keep her out of school unless she was sick and he should notify you if that was the case. I think he has proven to be less that reliable. Could you take off for the day to find other childcare arrangemants? You must have something stable in order to keep your job and family in line.

It really sounds like you need to sit down with your ex and lay down some ground rules. Children need to be in school as often as they can do get the quality education that they need. Sickness is one thing, being out because of an irresponsible parent is another. The school could also decide to call in your ex for keeping your daughter out of school as a form of abuse. I would be really careful about this. I don't want to scare you, but this same thing happened to a friend of mine last year. I would kick him out and try to make it on my own and find a different baby sitter for my other child as well, one that I could actually rely on to be there when needed. Do you have an visitation/custody papers arranged through the courts? If so, I would enforce them. If not GET THEM. That is the most sound advise that I can give you. I have went through all of this over the last 9 months with my own irresponsible ex and am finally glad that I did. I can now say YEA OR NAY whenever he is not allowed to take them and when he is not back with them when he says he is I have the authority to call the authorities to get them back for me. No more worrying about where my children are. I sympathize wholeheartedly and hope that you find him and your daughter soon.