Would you pick perfect or flawed in a partner?
By DesignDiva
@DesignDiva (379)
United States
April 9, 2007 9:47pm CST
Here's a question for both women and men. If you could pick your ideal romantic partner, which of the following would you pick?
1) This person has always had an easy life and doesn't really know what it's like to have bad things happen. They're fun-loving and easy going, but don't really understand it when bad things happen to people because they assume it must be "their fault" since nothing's ever happened to them.
2) This person had a lot of things happen to them in their past and thus has some baggage. However, they've learned a lot and overcome a lot and tried to make the most of what life dealt them. They're more sympathetic and hard working because they know what it takes to survive.
Of these two, which would you pick? The one who's had the perfect life and who doesn't understand how hard life can be? Or would you pick the one who has baggage but also is a survivor because of the things he/she has overcome?
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6 responses
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Given this limited perspective I can't imagine anyone in there right mind picking number one. While number two may have baggage to deal with they would be far less of a problem.
Because there is no perfect person I would pick the flawed. Anytime. And no matter what anyone says so would they.
@biznizman01 (581)
• Philippines
10 Apr 07
The answer to this question is quite obvious to many. The choice would be number 2.
But the obvious answer is not always the person we pick for real. Its different when it is written in softcopy or hardprint vs seeing the choices in real life. Being human that we all are, we tend to look at the external or outside appearance of a person. The person who had it good in life will tend to look more pleasant and attractive than those who have endure a lot of hardship in life.
@Yestheypayme2dothis (7874)
• United States
10 Apr 07
Without a second thought, I will take bachelor number two. Bachelor number two would drive me up the wall. He is clueless.
@aprilsong (1884)
• China
10 Apr 07
I 'd choose the second one.Cuz life can't be plain sailing all the time.You must get the skills to survive.
And i 'd rather to have a friend of the first kind of man.But they are absolutely not suitable to be a husband.A husband should have the ability to take responsibilities and support the family.Marriage is not a game.It is very serious.
@dcroome2005 (1210)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I would pick the flawed guy. I don't want a perfect man, I just want the perfect for man for me. Does that make sense? I want to be with someone who is a survivor like my husband is.
@smartmom (826)
• United States
10 Apr 07
I would definitely pick the guy with the extra baggage, as life experience means so much in any relationship. I do not think that a person, who have sailed through life, would be able to understand what I am all about, and neither would he be able to understand all the flaws that I have.
