Had a weird dream
April 10, 2007 9:13am CST
I had this dream about my ex again. Out of nowhere cause I haven't even thought about him. In the dream he told me that he still loved me and we were going to be together and then I had to decided how to tell my husband. When I woke up I felt horrible and was crying and upset. I told my husband bcause he kept asking what was wrong. Of course he got mad and now he wants a paternity test on our baby because he thinks I am still sleeping with my ex. I mean this happened on Friday so I don't know if he still feels that way but we have gotten into a few arguements and he has brought up how I dream about my ex. It's not like I can control my dreams!!
10 Apr 07
dream is a dream. in most cases it doesn't mean anything. sometimes my ex comes into my dream but it doesn't mean i still love him. since we ourselves know our dreams have nothing to do with our feelings, we needn't tell others about our dreams. i think if you hadn't had told your hubby about your dream, you wouldn't have had the trouble. tell him your other ridiculous dreams to assure him that your dream doesn't mean anything.
10 Apr 07
Hi dear. Please don't feed your husband with more than he can bear or chew. Please keep those dreams away from himand as much as possible, don't dwell too much on them. What's important is that you're remarried and have a good home. Please forget about your ex. It belongs to your past and you can decide to either bury that past and go on to enjoy your beautiful today and glorious tomorrow or allow your past keep haunting you and preventing you from enjoying your love-life!
• United States
10 Apr 07
You are absolutely right you cannot control your dreams at all. This is something that is really small that seems to have turned into something big. If you have this dream again, just remember that it is not something that you have to share with your partner. Love is a strange thing. You may have completely moved on from the previous relationship that you were in, but it does not change the fact that there were some serious emotions involved in that relationship. Your having a dream about him is not a hope. Its not a wish. it is your unconsious self replaying the emotions that you had felt in the past. im sure that you have had some wonderfull dreams of your husband as well! Probably some old memories and dreams of childhood too. You have done nothing wrong, and just dont let it get to you. If your husband really wants a paternity test, dont blow up about how he does not trust you. Prove to him that you are in the relationship for him, and if he wants the test do it. Im sure that it will not come to that though.
• Garden Grove, California
26 Apr 08
angelface its so sad that your husband would get upset over a dream. Nobody can control their dreams. the dreams just happen so he should realize that that is not something to base his feelings that you were sleeping again with your ex. But perhaps to stop him from getting any more upset you could have a paternity test done but again that may just be fueling his upset. You should remind your husband of the fact that you chose him and you are with him, and your ex became your ex because you no longer cared for your ex.