Is it perfectly logical that parents who abuse their children have also...?
April 10, 2007 11:05am CST
Is it perfectly logical that parents who abuse their children have also been abused by their parents? the reality is that,most parents who abuse their children were also abused as children.it's not so easy as learning from our mistakes because our emotional psyche does not work that efficiently and children aren't equipped to think that way.
• United States
10 Apr 07
My mother broke the cycle of abuse, her parents, her grandparents, her great grandparents, and so on all were abusive. She didn't want to raise us like that, so she chose not to do so. I think she is a great parent because she saw what was wrong and chose to try something different. Many parents do what they were taught as far as parenting.
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• United States
10 Apr 07
Probably there are some cases that this is quite true. But then, many of these abused children knows how bad it would be and vows that they will treat their children better that what they had gone true. They would show love and take good care of their children because that is what they long for when they were children and their parents never showed it to them. This is just my opinion though because I will certainly take this path. I am just lucky that my mother is the best mother there is. I have a great relationship with her and I want the same thing with my daughter too. I just can't understand parents who are abusive to their children because children don't come looking for parents but parents are the one who are wanting children...so as parents, if we wanted these children, we should know how to take care of them and show them lots of love.
12 Apr 07
Its a truth that hurts. Sadly in most cases what you said is definitely the reality. I was also being abused when I was a child. I heard a story from my mother that when she was a child my grandfather spanked her most of the time. Like you said although she wanted to learn from that experience still she could not helped herself but did the same on me. Now I have my own children and trying not to do the things I know would hurt them like what I've experienced. Sometimes I'm temp to hurt them the way I was being hurt but I refrain myself and let my love for them take over my bad experience from the past. Its the only way to stop that chain reaction. So when they grow up and have a children of their own, they will never do such things.