Will you share the news?
By noyida
@noyida (795)
Singapore
April 11, 2007 3:56am CST
One of my friend grandma passed away recently. She told another friend not to inform us, her group of friend, about her grandma demise. I find it wierd though. From what I understand, her grandma passed away because of old age and stroke. I dont understand if telling relative and friends of the demise of our love one is an offence. I think, if we share with someone, at least that person can say a prayer or two for the soul of the dead. Or even give us some emotional support during our sorrow to lost someone dear. Don't you think so?.
Btw, I actually only get to know about my friend grandma demised through the newspaper obituary which the family had put up.
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@velvetprinzess (1064)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
I understand that as a friend you would want to offer emotional support during this difficult time. That's very nice of you.
I've come across such cases as well. Certain friends did not want to tell us about their close relatives' demise.
This is usually because of superstition. I've heard of people who dislike being informed of such things because they feel that the mere mention of these things would bring them ill luck. So that's why some people decide to 'play it safe' and not inform too many folks, just in case they accidentally offend someone in the process.
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@abbey19 (3106)
• Gold Coast, Australia
11 Apr 07
I can't understand why your friend didn't tell you about her grandma; the family obviously wanted people to know because they put a notice in the newspaper. Had you known, you could have given her the support she needed at this bad time in her life. In a few weeks, you should ask her for her reason of not telling you, but in a nice way, and explain to her that it was upsetting to you reading the news about her grandma in the newspaper.
@noyida (795)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
I forgot to mention that my this friend is a very reserved and private person. She dont like people to know about her family very much unless they are very very close to her. But then, to think that this is the last time that we can see her grandma..hmm. I'm lost for words. I wouldn't want to talk or ask her why she did not informed me. Let it be!If she really want to keep it to herself, let her be. Anyway, I had send my condolence through SMS today.
@minty3 (592)
• Nigeria
11 Apr 07
I wonder why she would hide this information from you except you're not really friends. Otherwise, it could have being an oversight. I think you could call her up and let her know you saw the advert and comeserate with her first; then later on you can just mention it in passing why she didn't inform you. Be nice about it, it could just have been an oversight not intentional. As much as possible don't let it destroy your friendship. thanks.
@noyida (795)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
Maybe, ya maybe she don't regard me as one of her close friend. But even then, she could just don't stop another friend from telling others though. Anyway, I did not called her to offer my condolence or to question her on it, but I just SMS her my condolence. That the least I can do rite now. Not going to ask her though. Let it be!
@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
This is very weird. If there is no intention whatsoever to tell anyone about the demised, why bother informing people about it through the newspaper orbituary? I guess maybe they do not want to trouble others about it... You know orang Melayu kan suka the term, Jangan sibuk2 susahkan orang..... Maybe just take it that way... If I were you, I buat muka tembok and visit the family out of respect for the demised. Maybe kita salah tafsir their intentions... That's my opinion..
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