Do you talk a lot?
By raijin
@raijin (10345)
Philippines
April 11, 2007 5:50am CST
Are you the talkative one's, those who always prefer their mouth open at all times or you have met others like them before? Like 7-11, who never closes!;)LoL
There are different types of people, like those who simply observes their surroundings, listens to nature and those who likes to talk alot!;)
But do these people care on what comes out of their mouth, that it doesn't matter to them if they are already hurting someone?
They speculate, gossip, make judgements, inventing stories, over-confident most of the times and impress someone to the extent that it is already WAAAY off the topic.
Are you a good listener, especially to these types of people? Can you stand being with these types of people?
Well, I just want to know how you feel about them.. So please, do share some of your experiences!;)
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55 responses
@acquaria (719)
• Italy
11 Apr 07
I prefer listening to the people.I'm curious,so I prefer more listening than speaking.
My mother says that I'm a not-comunicating people,but I think that listening is good way to communicate,you can know better the person in front of you.
I' don't like the person who always talk about gossip and similar arguments;I fin them bored and they are the only category of people that I don't like to listen
@nady100011 (594)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Apr 07
I do the same exactly!!!
I prefer to listen more than talk.
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I love to talk, but most important I try to listen as well. My friend and I could talk for hours and hours. We both listen to each other's problems and understand how we talk to each other. It is difficult to find someone who can do that. I don't make judgements, or gossip. That is not for me to do. I like to talk about life and many different topics, if something is bothering a friend I like to listen and try too offer comfort and advice. And I like my friends to do the same for me. I do'nt like people who tell stories to make themselves look better, that is very upsetting and I try to stay away from people like that.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Same thing also goes for me, I only talk when I know I have to say something that I know can be helpful. Of course, not when I try to have fun with my friends.
The examples I've given above are simply of exaggeration, just to make the conversation more colorful and to keep the topic wholesome!;)
Thanks..
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@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
good day rajin, it's me again. sensitive persons like me avoid people who talks too much. i am a man of few words but more on actions. but i am a good listener depending on the quality and type of conversation being raised. in fact i watch talk shows, again depending on the topic being discussed.
as they say, LESS TALK LESS MISTAKES. lol
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@lossforredwords (3620)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I love to talk but I have limitations and only with my close friends. I like gossips but only with my friends and I don't fabricate any stories just to have something to say.
Whenever I encounter people that has no low volume and plays there mouth 24/7 usually I just stare at them and try to control my mind that she is not there..lol.. kinda lost in space.
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@webeishere (36313)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Good Lord.
Why did you start a topic about me?
Yes I am a very big talker as most here probably know by now.
I have been told by many a stranger to shut up already in public places.
I always have been a big talker all my life.
I didnt talk till I was 2 and the Dr told mom once he starts he wont stop. How true thats turned out to be. I can be in a crowd with total strangers and easily start up a conversation about mostly anything and everything. I have the gift of gab I've been told. Why is it a gift when people say, "shut up already"? Hahahaha.
Thanks for the discussion also.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I knew you'd come here GrandPa!;)
I guess you're doctor was also some kind of a visionary, as he really made a good conclusion about you!;)
Well, as much as possible I prefer to talk to people like you. Because I know I can learn something more important to you guys, and how I wish we were just like talking at each other, personally.
Thanks for the time GrandPa, and good day!;)
@jencai (3412)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Ohhh no, it's not me my friend. To be honest with you, I am a silent type of person. I don't talk that much specially to those person I am not mutually close. This is by nature, I grow up as is. I just started talking with other people when I was in college, I'm a sort of weird before. But I don't change that much, I am still a silent type of person. Those kind of person you are talking to were almost around me. They are my neighbors, I have been a victim of their gossip. I just ignore them, I know the truth so I don't have to worry about those issues they are trying to spread out in our community. I believe in karma.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
LoL I am not pertaining to someone here, and definitely not from one of my dear mylot friends!;)
Well definitely our neighbors do make it a diffirence, all they do is spread rumors all their life. They even dine gossips for breakfast, lunch and dinner!;)
@sarapooht (271)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
Hi Raijin!
When I don't know the person I wouldn't talk too him/her cause I really don't talk to strangers. Some people think that I'm a talkative person at school but when you ask my friends they would say that I'm a quiet person because when I'm with my friends I often shut my mouth up because they often talk a lot, they even change their topic very quickly because they often talk very fast.
Some times I'm talkative and sometimes I'm not. I'm a very moody person. I change my mood every time. That's why my friends often don't understand my mood. Sometimes I feel that it is so tiresome to talk and sometimes I feel like a armalite mouthed girl. I really dont know if I'm talkative or not.
What do you think? am I talkative or not?
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
Oh yes, just like what momma always tells us.. don't talk to strangers!;)
I also have mood-swings, split-personalities as what other people thinks of me. But I guess, it depends on what they really say. As long as they do not put it under my throat, I'm good to it..
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
11 Apr 07
Yes I am very talkative. I do not prefer to listen to others, because they usually have nothing interesting to say to me. I do not talk non stop and I try not to gossip, but sometimes it can't be helped, I work in an office full of gossipy women!
I have a boss who has the last two traits, I don't think I invent stuff or that I am over confident, but I do talk and probably do my share of gossip. I only make judgements on those things that pertain to the job not the person.
@vivasuzi (4127)
• United States
11 Apr 07
I am both. When I'm with people I don't know real well, I am an observer. I try to pick up on the people around me and listen and learn about them. But once I know you, you better watch out ;) I love to talk! I try my hardest to keep my talking short and give other people a chance to respond, but sometimes I'm just moving at a mile a minute (mostly when I'm excited or stressed about something). Even though I talk a lot, I don't gossip a ton except with close friends, my fiance and parents b/c I can trust them :)
I can stand listening to people who gossip a lot b/c I feel like I get "the scoop" without having to be outwardly nosy. I'm pretty nosy, but I just wait for people to come to me with information and try to avoid asking a lot of questions.
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@nady100011 (594)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Apr 07
I prefer to listen more than talk most of the time.
By this way I can deal with others better but, you know sometimes I have to use the opposite when to find the other side talkless.
Yes, I can consider myself one of the good listeners for all types, about talkative one's I listen to them but each little period I give myself a rest but not to feel him/her that I don't listen to.
Super subject ;) .
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@joy358 (491)
• Philippines
11 Apr 07
I'm the kind of person who prefers listening to talking. I think that I actually learn more from just listening and observing rather than by doing the talking myself.
I love listening to people talk if they really know what they are talking about or if they are an expert on a subject or a topic that I find interesting. However, I detest listening to persons who talk nonstop about topics that are completely senseless and those persons who pretend to be a know-it-all when in fact they don't really know what they are talking about.
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@RogerTheRabbit (1271)
• Portugal
11 Apr 07
I don't like to talk too much. Usually I'm a quite person. I prefer to listen then to talk. But sometimes I start talking and talking, usually nonsense talk just to make fun. My friends sometimes get scared with the quantity of nonsense I can talk in just one minute.
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@natalie1981 (1995)
• Singapore
11 Apr 07
I'm actually pretty quiet. I don't talk unless you initiate it and I'm just talkative if the person I'm talking with is also talkative. I actually like people who are talkative, i enjoy listening to them. They're actually a lot of fun. I really don't think they're hurting others intentionally, sometimes, talking is a person's coping mechanism.
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@wondericequeen (7876)
• Hong Kong
22 Aug 07
I don't talk a lot and I feel most comfortable if I don't have to talk at all. But I am not a shy or a total quiet person, I know sometimes I HAVE to talk and I would do it. I have friend who talks really a lot and once she even mentioned that if we wouldn't let her talk, she would die (yes she is that serious). I am fine most of the days listening to her if I am in good mood. But I try to avoid her when I have a bad mood because I would rather be quiet and alone than with someone who talks blah blah blah next to me all the time.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
22 Aug 07
I guess most people thinks that talking is like a form of mouth excercise, maybe they are just eager to share whatever facts they or might be because they missed the person that they are talking with. Most of the times I really get bored when the topics are already getting no sense at all!;)
@suwandilee (280)
• Indonesia
11 Apr 07
i think i am talkactive person, but i only talk with people that i know well, when i havent know people then i prefer to silent, when i really know those people then i'll talk so much, :) never lost my word to talk to those people i know well
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@00fear (3216)
• United States
12 Apr 07
well i try to be a good listener the possible i can. if they are those who talk a lot i try to listen to them but no, i dont mind being around those type of people because the ones ive talked to never hurt me or judge me. although there are also some times where i dont know what that person is talking about and i just say things like "oh really?, yea?, ohhh, etc." but i can stand them. as for me, i dont think im those who talk a lot, in fact im probably the boring one to talk to. when adults talk to me, i try to keep the conversation going but i cant. im just like those who give easy answers, yes, no, i dont know, etc. like if someone asks me, what tree is that? i simply answer apple, but i know there are words i can say to keep the conversation going. i just cant.
@happymommy3 (2012)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Well first of all, I am not one of those that talks alot, especially one like you described, lol. I will talk more once I get to know a person and am comfortable with them. Most people would probably say I'm stuck up if they don't know me but I usually am a person that like's to listen to others. That is if they are only saying good things. I know some people like that, who will talk alot and gossip, over confident, and all the things you described. Those, I don't like to listen to, lol. I prefer not to surround myself with people like that. I like to be around positive people.
@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I'm one bunny who is not a talker. I prefer to stay in the shadow and perfectly content to observe the movements and activities going around me. I'm also a good listener. A friend can easily holler me and I will hop in to their side right away.
The only time that I can be more open when I'm with my few close friends. I'm a very shy one but I can uttered some few words with new acquaintances. I guess I was born like this. :)
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
13 Apr 07
I happen to be a person of few words, and has the ability to shut my mouth for the whole day except for food. Hence, I prefer the company of some who operates 7-11 stores, not too many but perhaps one or two. It doesn't matter what comes out from their mouth as long as they can keep the group alive. I can said to be a listener most of the times, but, I avoid the company of those seek to show off. They are the ones I tend to rebutt and give them a piece of my mind.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
19 Jul 07
I am not very talkative but I am very outgoing. There is definitely a difference, IMO. I listen and talk when I have something to say. I usually don't have a problem talking to anyone but I won't just tell my story to anyone. I learn a lot more and get a lot more out of life by listen more and talking less.
I know exactly what you are getting at. Though I am a good listener, I don't like listen to people who just like to hear themselves talk.
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