Why Some Men Just Can't Commit.
April 11, 2007 9:04am CST
The tenacity of some women in relationships amazes me. Women are often the more giving partners in the relationship and will do just about anything to win their man's love. The question to ask though is, "Is he really your man or is he just biding his time until he finds THE ONE?" Having been a victim of a man who just couldn't make up his mind about where our relationship was going, I think I know what I'm talking about. Seven years later, I'm a happily married woman and a mother who sees things a lot clearer than I did back then. I loved him completely, but the fact is I just didn't do it for him. I was not THE ONE and he couldn't figure it out for himself either. The straw that broke the camel's back though was his inability to be there fore me when first my aunt (who was like a mother to me) then 1.5 years later, my best friend died, even though I hopped on a plane and rushed to his side when his dad died. His excuse for his emotional unavailability? He couldn't leave his mama when my aunt died and he didn't want him mama to know he was still in a relationship with me when my friend died. When I finally told myself that enough was enough and told him I'd had it (what a wonderful, liberating feeling), my life improved dramatically. When I left the relationship I left all the baggage behind that had been building all those years and came out intact. The result? I met my husband a week later and we got married 10 months after that. The difference between the two? My husband knew very early on in our relationship that I was THE ONE and let me know it. I knew early on that my husband was THE ONE and the difference between the 2 mean proved it to me without a doubt. So, if you just can't get him to commit, it has nothing to do with you so much as it has to do with, he just doesn't feel it. You're not the one for him and he's too much of a coward to tell you and is probably not mature enough to do so either. He wants all the benefits of being in a relationship without having to give anything in return emotionally. If you find yourself in such a position, grow a backbone. Realise you deserve better and he doesn't want you. You deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you and will give anything to do so. Leave the loser and get on with your life. Mr Right might just be waiting around the corner!