Help!! Big problem!!?

@getjimmy (2245)
India
October 19, 2006 1:23pm CST
This guy and I have been emailing almost daily for 3 months and dating for 2. We really like each other and he mentioned it would be nice someday if I could perhaps move in with him. Now the problem. His house is the messiest, most cluttered that I have EVER seen! There is no way I could ever live there. He says he will fix it up but think he has a severe pack-rat personality and will never change. I am starting to lose respect for him. Should I continue to see him? Am I wasting his time + mine? I just can't think of a possible solution to this dilemna.
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5 responses
• United States
19 Oct 06
First thing you need to think about dating someone that you would like to marry one day. Keep your diginty, respect for yourself, and interity by keeping your own place to live. Once you give up that freedom of just living with someone you have defeated yourself. God Bless
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@getjimmy (2245)
• India
19 Oct 06
Thanks 4 ur reply
• United States
19 Oct 06
Your welcome. God Bless
@getjimmy (2245)
• India
19 Oct 06
Thanks again.
@Schubler (1530)
• Romania
19 Oct 06
How about talking to him seriously about this problem... it seems it`s a to be or not be sort of problem... either fix it... or bye bye... just tell him how you feel ... how bad do you consider the problem to be and see his reaction... I don`t think he realizez if there hasn`t been any change in his behaviour... because this is the kind of thing that leads to breakups...
@getjimmy (2245)
• India
19 Oct 06
Thanks 4 ur reply
• India
19 Oct 06
My advice to u is that listen to what you heart has to say. Give him some time if he does not change his way and there is no way you can change him or adjust with him then it would be better to bereak with him. But, first question ypurself is he would the try, do u really like him and r u really serious
@getjimmy (2245)
• India
19 Oct 06
Thanks 4 ur reply
• United States
19 Oct 06
I can save you al ton of stress. Never leave your home to shack up with a man. You said dating months not years. How dare he have you to live in filth. If he was going to clean his home? It should have been while youwere living seperately. he is a slob and I hope he bathes. Never ever ever leave your independace for a promise in the sky.
@getjimmy (2245)
• India
19 Oct 06
Thanks 4 ur reply
@shi_2000_21 (2681)
• India
20 Oct 06
Do you seriously love him or not. If you are in serious love, then you would clean that house for yourself not for your bf but for yourself. Because you are the one who is going to settle there, so you should not have any second thoughts on that.