How do you deal with people that comment in your discussion and you are not sure
By RobinJ
@RobinJ (2501)
Canada
April 11, 2007 10:09pm CST
Who they are talking to or addressing, I find this very aggravating, When I post discussions, and people are kind enough to answer them, and then some one I do not know butts in and asks questions of that person, or makes remarks that are not appropriate I have had this happen two or three times in the past few days and I can not even give them heck in private because they are not on my friends list. So if you have a point to make on my discussion direct it to me, if you do not like what some one wrote on my discussion tell them don't add your venom and wrath in my discussions.
Also in case you are not aware all you comments come to me even if they are not intended to.
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11 responses
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I just ignore any weird/rude comments I get. I dont want to add the person as a friend, so there really arent any more options that I know of. You could always rate - or report if its something thats a violation. I don't minus anyone unless it's a spammer. I would feel guilty. But if your ok with it, i'd go ahead and do that.
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@fuzzEbluebathrobe (378)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Robin, the whole idea of this site is to answer or respond to other people's comments. If you start a discussion it takes on a life of its own. Honestly, do you think you actually know anyone on this site or that you can insist on keeping discussions private. That is not what this site is about. People not on your friends site are free to answer as well. "friends" are people that you especially enjoy what they have to say, but that is all, and of course people know anything they write can be viewed by you or any one else.
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@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
Yes you are right, sorry i am just upset because I try to keep my discussions prejudice free, and I get a bit up set when some religious fanatic starts sounding off about how the poster in my discussion has written his post. I agree every one should be allowed to discuss any thing they want to, but if they have such strong feelings wouldn.t it be better for them to start their own discussion. I totally get once it is out there its out there for every one. And there are certain posts I will not answer because they are just baiting everyone. Perhaps that is why they do this because no one will take the bait when they themselves throw it out. . Again sorry just a bad night,
@fuzzEbluebathrobe (378)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Just remember we like people who can really ask a question that stimulates a lot of responses even if some of them are out of control. We get to see the range of thought and ideas out there. I hope you don't get discouraged and stop posting discussions because people go off on tangents.
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Don't you wish we could control those people from not responding to our discussions? Everyday I am presented with such challenges and I always say the Serenity Prayer to help me deal with such people. I know it is hard, but this is an open forum and hence we will have such conduct in the discussions, if they are too vulgar you could always write to myLot and tell them to contact them and supposedly they give them a warning. I have been so bad that when someone says something derogatory in my discussions I make them my friends to tell them I don't appreciate their behavior, I know it is childish but I have only done it once cause someone really upset me.
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@xiaodongpan19831110 (67)
• China
13 Apr 07
Do not worry about that,Robin J, you can just ignore these venom and wrath words, because the operator of Mylot always inspect the post, if the guy always use the remarks that are not appropriate, his credit-ranking will be very law, and he can get nothing here. Actually, if I was you, it will be OK as long as the answer is not fuul of cussword...
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Well people do tend to comment back and forth to each other and also sometimes they disagree in someone's post. There is really no way to avoid that, and I always though expressing opinions (even if we dont like them!) were the point of message boards like these. I do get posts like that, and also posts that I cant understand or comprehend at all. I just ignore those and move on to reading the other posts.
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@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
13 Apr 07
Sorry, I meant to add this post as a comment to someone else's post (to agree with them, not to start a fight or disagree!) but it posted at the bottom!
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@wolfie34 (26770)
• United Kingdom
12 Apr 07
The best way my friend is to ignore them, I just glaze over those, because what they want is a reaction, ignore them and they don't like it, respond to them only fuels the flames and they enjoy it all the more! Rise above them, you are worth more!
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
while I agree that meanness or nasty comments are not called for. A discussion is open and anyone can address any part of the discussion. My lot ended it that way just like in the real world. We are not moderators of groups and have control over who says what to whom, we open a discussion and that is it is. Otherwise it is not a discussion, but more like school, the teacher asks a questions students respond directly to the teacher and everyone else shuts up. In a discussion people respond to each other.
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@estherlou (5015)
• United States
12 Apr 07
The only satisfaction you can get is, when someone "comments" to someone else's response to your discussion, they don't get credit for it. You only get credit for "responses" made. Depending on the subject of your discussions, sometimes being controversial, some people are going to disagree with someone else's response and they will go back and forth. That's a good time to just stay out of it. You're not responsible. Just use that good old delete button when you get the garbage you didn't want. It has happened to all of us.
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@ricknkae (1721)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Well you can always comment their comment and/or ive them a "-" if they are way off or even unrespectful
If they violate mylot guidelines, simply report them!
It is a pity there are always people to spoil the good things
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