Time do really heals broken heart....

@cheenlly (3477)
Philippines
April 11, 2007 11:14pm CST
I have proven that time do really heals broken heart. I have already found a space to forgive my ex bf for the pain that he caused me. The last time he text on me begging for my forgivenes, the pain is still there but now not anymore. The anger is not there anymore. Now i can move on and free myself from the pain that suffer me for almost 1 year. Im ready to forgive him but dont get me wrong i didnt mean getting back on him. The love that i feel for him before has gone and im living a new life now. Well i realized for me to move on i have to forgive myself and forgive the person that hurt me. Im glad i have already overcome it. What about you, do you believe that time do really heals a broken heart? Who has the same experience like me? Is it difficult for you to forgive?
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17 responses
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
Actually not the same as you but i can relate to what your trying to imply my friend, i too have suffered with a love one who have just leaved, tis have been already 3 years, i managed to move on, but i do still remember her sweet ways, but dont get me wrong, im not inlove with her, i just remember her, yah you can say that i have actually move on, but the sweet memories that played in your life stil shines within you, actually, you might dream of your past special someone unconciously, tis just a proof that he or she is still in your heart... :-)
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
i agree with you. like what i told to my ex, when he said he missed the times when we are together. i said its already a part of the memories, i had already move on. he regret and try to get back on me but because of the pain and now the love has already gone. Those sweet memories are only part of the memory. I admit during the time i was struggling with the pain and somehow cope up. i still remember the happy moments that we were together but everytime i remember what he did. it really hurts but now it doesnt hurt anymore. It does mean i already forgive him but it took me a year to overcome it. Maybe we are not really meant for each other.
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• Philippines
12 Apr 07
The first six months of the break up is the hardest thing to get through with, its agonizing and torturous way of leaving without your love, yet within this timeframes, it is where yourself is recovering from the wounds, and thus creates a more mature and stronger you. Its a phase of self realization ... after that, month by month, i focused my self to become much stronger, in a way i can live with my self alone... and until one day some one so special will come in your way.. and into yourself you'll realize that it is the main reason why your past relationship should be broken... cuz a much better person has been prepared for you by God... :-)
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
yeah exactly, you can really relate pal.
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@jyksnow (45)
• China
12 Apr 07
Time can heal broken heart,but how long?How long?How long? As I thought those grieved bygone things,I still felt heartache.Those heartache things hadn't gone.It still in my base of heart.Just because I dared not touch them in my daily life.It will be my forever heartache. Broken heart is broken heart,it no longer intact.I wish I can forget those things in one day.
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
you will my friend and that is up to you. help yourself. I've been through that believe me. its very difficult but in time you will overcome it. if you dont help yourself it will be forever im sure but of course you dont want to be stuck there forever, right? Meet new friends, dont set and broad. Reflect and give yourself a chance to move on. first you ust to forgive yourself then after that you can find a space to forgive that someone who hurt you. NOt all are the same time frame in healing but it depends on how you help yourself.
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• Philippines
13 Apr 07
just be happy with the way you are.. and eventually youll find your special someone in God's time, we just have to be patient for special things to come. :-)
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@mlgb_24 (638)
12 Apr 07
time certainly heals a broken heart..it is easy to forgive but hard to forget..but it feels really great when you've forgiven somebody and moved on with your life. you feel light and contented. it is easier to move on when you have unloaded your burden. well done to you!!
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
18 Apr 07
it's never easy to forget. that sad part of our lives will always be a part of us forever. but it's nice to be able to forgive and move on after sometime.
@myklaire (437)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
I strongly agree with you that only time heals all wounds. I know it's not easy to forget and forgive. So we really need the space and time. We can't move on happily with our lives if we completely forive and forget the past that hurt us. We should not also forget that we must forgive ourselves too. Others would go on with self pity and it's unhealthy. Wouldn't you agree?
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
yeah i agree, its very unhealthy. we should remember the feeling self pity will not help us move on instead it will worsen the feeling of pain. we should not hold back to the past that was not there anymore. its a way of acceptance.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
i am going through the same thing as you did go through and you know what i can not forgive my exbf for what he has done to me and still is doing to me. i am trying to move on with my life and i am trying to work on this other person for a friend ship and mabye take it to the next step but the both of us have been really hurt in the past. my exbf will not leave me alone he still comes over with out calling me first and he still tells me that he loves me but at the same time i see him with someonelse and when i confront him he lies about it. how can you forgive and some what forget the exbf? if you can help me on this part i would love it verymuch.
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
you have to know that in order to heal you must choose to let go of the person. As i understand you still not thats why its still hurts. Your ex bf sense that you still love him thats why he abuse it and know how to handle you. You must to let go and free yourself from him. Then after letting go you can move on and try to build new relationship with that someone your making friendship. i will share this statement that my friend told about me during the period i was struggling. This person cares for me too much and love me but sometimes he said that a person cares for another, has to take ons step backwards, in order to get two steps ahead. I shall explain with an analogy. When a person loses a love one, for example, a mother loses a child, the mother must go through a period of mourning which involves great suffering and often a long period of time before she can be mentally and spiritually whole. The same period of mourning is necessary when a lover victim loses a lover. Before the victim is healthy and her wholesome self, she must complete a period of mourning which is ever so painful and time consuming. But what happens when her period of mourning is interrupted by a new boyfriend? She is stunted, she cannot grow and return to full helath. she cannot give herself becuase she is afraid, she cannot be at peace with herself. her boyfriend will love her but she will not be able to return the love in the same way. she will be afraid and mistrusting because her past lover has stolen her heart and she hasnt got it back yet. what you do need is to find a reason to live and a reason to love again. so you have to let go. Dont dwell on the past instead learn from it.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
I believe that time can heal a lot of things, however, there are some things that time cannot heal because the pain is too great. I think part of it is, you have to allow yourself to open up again. You have to allow yourself to heal, and some people never do that. I'm glad that you've opened yourself up to healing and will let yourself move on. You have to remember that time can mend even the deepest of wounds, but you'll always have a scar there. Remember your experiences and learn from them.
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@lpetges (3036)
• United States
12 Apr 07
i think time heals alot of things. its the best medicine to take! you might always remember, but the pain goes to a smaller degree. you learn from all of these things that happen to you. you might not really know it now, but there is a reason for everything, and you just have to go on and not think about it anymore.
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@akumei1269 (1749)
• India
12 Apr 07
In most cases time heals .You find yourself busy in diverse life activities .Gradually the thought of what you have lost , who has inflicted pain and trouble on you etc. withers away in the wave of normal day to day activities . Moreover , since the world itself is a manifestation of positiveness ,you cannot remain depressed for long even if at one point of time you feel that everything is lost .
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• Philippines
12 Apr 07
This makes me smile for I have been in this situation before it may not be about pain but its more of forgetting someone that brings me to so much danger. Before I thought that time can't help me with this, I though there are things in this world that even time cannot erase but then I realized after a long time of holding myself back from moving I still find myself at the side of my bed thinking that the time has come save me from all this only by letting me know how hard it is to hold back... I can't convey it in a more clear manner but now I do believe that time do heals.
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@dbeast (1495)
• India
12 Apr 07
it is indeed true that it takes time to heal even the deepest of scars.i once went through a time where i lost my friend and i was in a state of depression.i thiught i can never come out of this state.i was in a psychotic state of mind and i wished i was left alone.by the pain now has reduced and i have sure recovered from the shock.though it is really hard at times to overcome the pain things have definitely got better with time.i just hope things never happened but that is fate guess.i really do believe that time can heal a broken heart.and i think with time we can tend to soften and forgive people who have wronged us no matter what they did.
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• India
12 Apr 07
i mean i have never gone through this but what i feel is that i dont feel one can forget and forgive because as they say the world is a small place and if you meet anyone ever again in your life then it may be possible that the bad memories of the past may rush back to your mind and you may feel sad and dissapointed and you may also feel to embarrassing to face the guy again.....
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@cherriemae (3370)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
Being broken hearted is not forever girl. But it needs time to heal and forget all the pain you felt in this person. I know your sentiments and heartaches that you felt with this wrong guy, this coward cheater x-boyfriend of yours. It's good that you already forgiven him because it can help you to forget all the pain that you felt inside your heart. Just move on and face the world with all the smile..Goodluck girl!:)
@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
thanks girl. You do help me overcome it. thanks for the shoulder to cry on hehehe. Now i can face the world with a smile.
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• Philippines
12 Apr 07
That statement is really true. I, myself also experience that same instance. The key to forgiveness is acceptance and the willingness to move on. Youshould choose to move on and leave the past in order for you to recover and have a better life.
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@cheenlly (3477)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
yes definitely. we should really dwell on the past so we can move on.
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@kurtbiewald (2625)
• United States
12 Apr 07
its different for me forgiveness is easy for me unless somebody was intentionally hurting me, even then I can usually work my way to forgiveness eventually however, If I fall for somebody , they kind of stay there in my mind and heart time helps a little
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@jc_star10 (953)
• Indonesia
12 Apr 07
I believe that too cheenlly. I think that time give you moment to cherish what life is about, rather than just regretting for what you have miss. Well, as for me,I haven't experience any broken heart yet, because the guy that i fall in love in few years ago..(little crush actually) had left away from this country. And I never knew where he is right now. But after few years struggling for missing him a lot, I saw him for the very first time after few years gone by. And there is not a single feeling from me. I just smile at him and greet him like an ordinary friend.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
18 Apr 07
i had been in an 8 year relationship before. i struggled for 8 years because i have a cheating boyfriend. i kept on forgiving him even thinking and hoping that he might one day change his ways. but 8 years had passed and he's still the cheater i used to know. i broke up with him even if i love him so much. i cried for months and after which, with the love of my parents and siblings and their support, i was finally able to forget my feelings towards him. i forgave him but i haven't forgotten the things he had done to me. maybe i'll consider it as the learnings i got in life and will never be forgotten. it's always better to move on and forgive. there is life after the pain... and always, a better one.
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• United States
18 Apr 07
Time really does heal a broken heart. It is no easy thing. For me it took a very long time because of what the person did to me. When it first happened I could not believe that a person could be so cruel. My friends had said get over it and that he wasn't worth it. But when you are love getting over it is not that easy. It doesn't matter if he is worth it or not. He had taken my heart and stomped on it. It took many months but I finally forgave him and then the healing was able to take place. We became slowly friends again but I never placed my heart in his hands again.
• India
12 Apr 07
i have had experience with this. There have been instances where I the differences of opinion between me and my reltie were too huge that we decided to be apart and enver talk even. Butin the long run as time went by, either of us started forgetting the differences. In a few years, things changed. Thoguh it was not the same what wasearlier, we became closer and the grudge that we had for each otehr disappeared. After all we are humans and to ewrr is human. but we can forgive live and let live!