What's Wrong With This Picture....?

Canada
April 12, 2007 2:22am CST
Okay, all the time i hear women complaining about their hubbies, and sometimes not complaining, just stating the facts, and then i see women shocked when they do something nice for them... And it makes me wonder... Is there something wrong with my hubby? with my relationship, like not in a bad way, in a good way... Here's the thing.. We have our problems sometimes, as every couple, but usually it's about the bills, or the fact that he's working too much and not giving me the attention, as I'm pretty high maintenance haha. But he always helps me, always does things for me, and always treats me like a princess when he can, i swear, there's either something wrong with him, or he's just the nicest man in the world... I won't complain, i don't think i do much, sometimes i get into these moods like he doesn't want me, or I'm just becoming a burden for him, or he doesn't listen to me, but it's all better again right quick like. And i would think it wasn't real, but he hasn't changed a tad in the entire time i've known him. I know it's a shock to have someone actually say that they can't find anything wrong with their better half, but i really can't, he gets on my nerves at times, i get on his, we bicker at times, we laugh it off, we have a problem, get frustrated, and work it out. He helps me, treats me like a princess, if i say i want something, i have it, even if we shouldn't, thank god i don't want much, he even makes me relax, sleep in, get out, and do the things i love, even if it means i haven't done anything around the house, and hell, we don't even have kids yet. So what's your take on this? this just odd? You thinking what's wrong with this girl if she can't find anything wrong with her man? or anything to complain about at least? Damn i feel lucky, and special! haha, you know what, lets further this discussion, I want you all to do something, and if you don't, then I'll take it that my discussions are way too long and no one reads them all the way haha... Do me a favor and write out 10 things you genuinely love about your partner.
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15 responses
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
12 Apr 07
Wow, that's uncanny.With everything you have written, I could've mistaken you for my wife!And sorry, your hubby can't be the nicest man in the world. I am! Hehe, no, just kidding. I agree that you often wonder why some of these women got married in the first place. We, too, also seem to have our main arguments about money and bills, but we don't stay cross at each other for very long at all. We communicate really well, which saves a lot of time on wasted energy getting cross at one another for petty things. You're lucky to have a guy to treat you as a princess, so enjoy, make the most of him and just know those other women are probably green with envy!
• Canada
12 Apr 07
thanks hun, yeah I'm pretty sure most women are, i have everything i ever wanted in him, and it literally brings me to tears to see the man i've got. Thanks for the response hun.
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@Cyklo1974 (351)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I can't speak for my wife but we have a very similar relationship. We have been together 2 1/2 years and i cant name one time where we had a huge blow up fight/argument. Normally one of us will collect our thoughts and talk about what happened or why we are upset. I love my wife and respect her with all my being. I care for her too much to make her life miserable like some other relationships we see.
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• Canada
12 Apr 07
you sound just like us yeah, we've never had a fight, just little teensy weensy bicker fests i guess, and sometimes we snap at eachother, but even then, it never goes anywhere other than us sitting down talking it out, and i love that. Don't let the stresses of life broadside you, we had a little bit of a hard time for a while, like a communication barrier, and it was because of all the stress, i thank god we realized what we were doing to eachother. Thanks!
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• Malaysia
12 Apr 07
Wow, I really think that you are one of the luckies girl on earth! When I read the last line on listing out 10 things that I genuinely love about my partner, my mind gone blank. It is not that I don't like him at all, or I am a full-time complaints maker, but I really don't know. 1. We are not married. So we don't have argument on bills, he pays for his, and I pay for mine. Occasionally, he pays for my dinner :p 2. If I couldn't get asleep, he will try to help by his snores. He said it helps. But... 3. He got tired of always helping me and our recent lifestyle is i am living independently. He used to fetch me to work, but now, i am owning a car and 4 years car loan repayment. He used to help when i am running out of cash, now, whenever my wallet tight, he will question where's the money gone, if it is for investment, then it's bad investment and I should get my lesson learnt. I am thinking we are going backward in this relationship.
• Canada
12 Apr 07
Maybe you should sit down and talk it out with him hun, the best feeling in the world is loving someone yes, but you have to make it work, communicate your feelings to him, because without that, it will cause a rift between the both of you. Best wishes. Thanks.
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@Bizziebod (3526)
12 Apr 07
I think you are genuinely lucky to have found a guy you are so in tune with and love. I can't write 10 things about mine as I don't have a partner but if I did I would want one like yours so in response to your question, no there is nothing wrong with it at all, thats how marriage and relationships should work!
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• Canada
12 Apr 07
God, every moment, i feel more and more lucky, can't stop the smile on my face when i think of him, and to actually think i thought this feeling went away after you've been together long enough, GO 4 YEARS LIVING TOGETHER - Easter monday it was 4 years! And i've never loved him more! Thank you so much.
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@brokentia (10395)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I think it is great that you can find nothing wrong with your partner. I am sure that makes your marriage a very happy one. There are many people out there that are like this. You just don't read many on here on myLot because this is where people vent. So, the venting does not bring the praise. So, congrats on giving your partner his praise. :) As for naming the 10 good things about my partner....sorry, I could not do that at this point. One, because my head is in a haze due to a pretty messed up migraine. And two, because we have been having issues lately that I can't think of a nice thing to say through the haze. Sorry.
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• Canada
12 Apr 07
that's okay hun, you've had it tough anyway, and even when you love someone, sometime, you just can't bring yourself to work through the issue, especially if it goes against everything that's truly you. Take care, and thanks for the response hun. I really appreciate it.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
1) I love the way he makes me smile with just a grin; 2) I love the way he is always so positive when I am not; 3) I love the way he looks in jeans; 4) I love how he is a baseball freak and is always watching it; 5) I love how he laughs at the silliest jokes: 6) I love what a good father he is to my daughter and all his children; 7) I love how he calls me in the middle of the day just to tell me he loves me; 8) I love how he sends me jokes in the mail during the day; 9) I love how he will change his plans just for me; and 10) I love how he takes care of me like no on ever has.
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• Canada
12 Apr 07
awwwwwww That's sooo sweet, you go getem gurlie! Thanks hun!
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• Canada
12 Apr 07
You are SO lucky to have such a great hubby and relationship. Nothing to complain about as far as hubby is concerned would be heaven for me lol. The 10 things I love about my hubby ... hmmmmm this is probably the hardest response I've ever done. You really picking my brain here! 1) I love that my hubby is a great father! 2) I love that he gets just as excited as I do about holidays (birthdays, anniversaries, christmas, etc) 3) I love that he likes to cuddle 4) I love that he takes care of my daughter and I. 5) I love that he doesn't leave the toilet seat up. 6) I love that he usually remembers things that are important to me. 7) I love that every payday (every 2 weeks)he takes me out for supper and I don't have to cook! 8) I love that he loves me! 9) I love that we have dreams and goals as hubby and wife 10) I love how he always holds me when I'm upset That was a tough one, now my brain is mush! Thanks a bunch lol.
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• Canada
12 Apr 07
haha sorry bout that dear, seems like you really did good though, because those are all things that can be spread into hundreds of little things you love about him, and then more, once you start, it's easy to keep going, just never take him for granted, one day without that person, may be one day of insanity. Thanks for the response.
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@coffeechat (1961)
• New Zealand
16 Apr 07
Coffeemate loves me and is devoted to the children. The other 9 through to 999 things stems from the above. If the fundamentals are strong, then you weather everything, both the ups and downs. When the downs happen you do not turn on each other but deal with the things causing the downs. I do realize that not all men are like Coffeemate, nor that I am easy to put up with. He has his moments though, and when we are in conflict, we have a brief explosion (away from the kids) and that's usually settles it. We have had no abiding issues though. Cheers to all those couples that can look at each other with love, compassion and comradeship.
• Netherlands
12 Apr 07
Well it really depends on the people of course. There are the rare exceptions like you husband and you are a lucky woman! It is good though that you posted this to encourage other women to actually stop complaining and go out and find a nice guy.
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@martinha (631)
• Portugal
12 Apr 07
10 things I love about my partner? Only 10? Let's go then... 1 ) I love the passionate way he looks at me 2 ) I love his intelligence 3 ) I love his strengh 4 ) I love his sense of humour 5 ) I love his kisses 6 ) I love his sweet smile 7 ) I love to know he is my friend and I can trust him 8 ) I love when he decides to surprise me 9 ) I love they way he takes care of me 10 ) I love when we are together and have lots of fun
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@Mickie30 (2631)
12 Apr 07
Awww wow you have found love girl. I love my husband too even though I do complain about him and he does get on my nerves but, I love him and we help each other out with our baby. I love him he is so special to me we do silly things together like posting silly posts of mylot for each other to laugh about. He wrote one saying that I wet myself every time I laugh. I was so embarrassed but, also laughed a lot. Here goes for the 10 things I love about him. Before I do I just want to say what a great post this is. 1 He is kind 2 He is genuine 3 He always tells me the truth 4 He puts up with my bad moods 5 He tells me that he loves me every day 6 He loves animals like I do 7 We work as a team 8 We have the same sense of humour 9 He helps me round the house 10 He never takes me for granted 11 He loves Jesus as much as I do 12 He buys me flowers and nice jewlerry 13 He never forgets our anniversarys or birthdays 14 He is daft and makes me laugh 15 He goes to the shop to buy me muller corners Oh I better stop now since you only said 10, but I could carry on forever.
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Ok lets see if I can give you 10 LOL your hubby sounds like my brother in law :) 1) I love his temperament (always calm, cool and collected in any situation) 2) I love the way he takes care of my son and I 3/4) I love that he is hard working and will do almost anything to make sure that my son and I are always happy (thats two things I said there LOL) 5) I like the way he thinks (thinks things through thoroughly before acting on them) 6) I love the fact that he will take time out from a busy and hard day, to spend time with his son (even if its only for and hour or so) 7) I love it when he spoils us (dinner surprise, shopping surprise or even some $$ to spend on whatever I like :)) 8) I love that he can cook (way better than me!) 9) I love the fact that he is a computer techy/geek as no matter how hard the problem is with either laptops, he always manages to fix it or solve the problem within a short time frame 10) I love the fact that he loves me for who I am, my flaws and all:)
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Well, it sounds like you just found a nice, stable, happy relationship. I've met quite a few people with those, and maybe it's just a kind of perfect compatability. Good luck to you in the future, though you probably wont need it, and well done, finding happiness.
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
While i dont have time to write 10 things out...my hubby is much the same as yours... we do have kids, he is a big help there, he does a lot around the house (we both work and i have really bad knees) we are pretty lucky to have such great guys :-)
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@rubiana6 (270)
• Brazil
12 Apr 07
well, its great to hear that there are relationships that actually works and people still ove each other. I agree totally with you. I really cant complain that after my marriage things did change, my husband is the same like before, charming, loving and takes care about me. i know that many people would have a problem to write down 10 things what they like about their partner, but would need only one minute to write down 10 things what they hate about him, but me not. I dont get 10 things what i hate about him, but easily ten i love: i love that he is always there for my our children. this was so when i was pregnant and in the first hard years and is still so. i love that he is a hard worker. i dont like lazy men i love that despite of all work he never forget me, not a birthday, no weddingday, no childrens birthday, no valentines day, no date i love that he is smart. there are only few questions i ask him and he dont know i love that he is man enough to show feelings i love that he knows about things and likes to do things what i hate (for example changing diapers!!!!!!) i love his body! i love his style, he is the man you dont have to clothe like a child, or he would go out of the house like a clown. no, he has style, always had. i love that he is no mothers son. first comes me and the children, after his mother. i love that he takes showers everyday! yes, thats not the normal thing of most men, i heard! i love that he is religious person. i want that my children know something about good and bad.