how to be a better person?
By maggie Sun
@maggiesunjuan (561)
China
April 12, 2007 6:50am CST
I'm a shy girl, i always cared about what people around me will think about me, and this burden my life. i really want to be a popular one, but people just keep a distance from me, i'm sensitive and i'm not a person who can easily say 'no', i think about too many things before i do anything, sometimes i feel that i'm strange and don't want to see anybody, i even hate myself. could anyone tell me how should i do? how could i get a better personality? thx a lot.
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6 responses
@Stiffler07 (1356)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Keep a positive internal dialogue. Believe in yourself is the first thing you need to work on. If you're walking around saying to yourself, "I'm not popular", then that's just what you will be ....."Not popular". No one can make you feel inferier without your consent. You & only you are the keeper of what you feel & when you feel it. You are in control. Don't give that power away to anyone, by letting them kill your spirt:-)...... You are very popular, & you just happend to have made a new friend ...... Hi:-)
@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
18 Apr 07
that's really cool to look at myself in another way! FROM NOW ON I will always keep smiling and say "I'm the best one" all the time! Thank your for your advice Stiffler!
I'm glad to make a new friend in mylot, that's you!
@cami_love (87)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Oh girl, you seriously have to get out of being shy. I used to be shy as well and it is an incredible burdon. I was taught by someone who didn't care one bit what other people thought about him.....If you have something to say, say it. If people don't like you for who you are, it is their loss, not yours. By opening your mouth and saying what is on your mind, you will find true friends and people who care about you for who you are and anything and everything you have to say. Keep your chin up and push forward. Be positive, keep smiling, and don't stress about what anyone thinks. You are wonderful just like you are and don't you forget it!
@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
16 Apr 07
thank you came_love, you really cheer me up!!
you sound like an opmistic person, and I'm sure you will be the RIGHT person who makes a change to my life! :)
@mithiladarpan (131)
• India
14 Apr 07
Its very common and you are as normal as anyone of us.Each one of us do mould our behaviour of ous,according to the surroundings we live in.The best way to improve your self esteem is that,you just do things you want to do.Start it by doing little things.you will carry the confidence of your accomplishment further and you will be transformed within a few months.
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@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
14 Apr 07
thank you, mithiladarpan, seems that you are a confident person, I just feel that I have difficulties in being normal when talking with others. I'm afraid people will be unhappy because my words, SUCKS...just like you said, 'just do what you want to do.' I will do what you told me, hope I can be more sophiscated!:)
@lizeri (533)
• Philippines
15 Apr 07
You know, I have also experienced that before and my situation has just improved when I entered in an acting workshop. But upto now, I still have inhibitions.
I should say, just be yourself. Don't mind those people who reject you. There are other people who more deserve to be with you. And you can find them somewhere (but who knows if there is just someone near you?).
If you still have problems, just send me a message, ok?
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@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
15 Apr 07
Thank you, Lizeri, you are so sweet!
As I always feel depressed, though I've tried my best to do, I'm not that happy, I used to want to run away when I was being with others, now I feel better and get more easier to be myself, but I still wondering if I have some kind mental problem. It's sweet to think that there is really one who are waiting for me there, I will wait. But I still want to thank you, wish you good luck!
@lonely_f16 (2146)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
Just think that when you express yourself, people would be intellectually stimulated, a good argument would be a nice front of expressing opinions. Start by talking and then things will just flow. It's not nice to be shy because as they say no one earned a lot by being shy
@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
12 Apr 07
U are right, i tried to get some interesting topic to talk about, but people still keep a distance from me, and i can't tell why, maybe i'm not humorous enough, i'm always curious about whether everyone has this kind of feeling, i mean whether people are not confident about themselves. should i go for a shrink?
@kishusia (1066)
• India
15 Apr 07
You have done a detailed study of yourself. It is good. It will help you in improving your personality. Remember, 'Improvement starts with I'. You should not give any undue importance to what people think about you. Once they get this impression they try to force you to change according to their likes and dislikes. Also don't give others an impression that you are after their company or friendship. Friendship is on equal terms. Also start learning to say NO whenever you feel it is required.
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@maggiesunjuan (561)
• China
15 Apr 07
Thank you, kishusia, you have a very clear defination on FRIENDSHIP, I like your words "Friendship is on equal terms", I should attract others with my own charm but not just follow others, anyway, thank you for your advice! :)
