What Would You Do If You Saw A Mother Hitting Her Child In A Public Place?

@wachit14 (3600)
United States
April 12, 2007 7:04am CST
I rarely see this sort of things and my kids are much older now so I don't ever have to have a confrontation with them in public, but I was shopping at the mall one day and I saw a mother just go balistic with her son. Of course, he was a little guy and he was probably just very tired so he was whining and crying. The frustrated mother smacked him and told him in a very loud voice to "shut up". Part of me wanted to go over and say something to her, but very calmly so as not to frustrate her, but then I thought she would take it out on her son even more so I kept my mouth shut. What would you do in this situation?
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@punchery (67)
• China
12 Apr 07
Last time when I was on the bus i saw a mother with two sons.When the bus started to move ,the little son fell down and cried,then the mother hitted her elder son saying he didnot take good care of his younger brother.I didn't think that the boy was to be blame for it.I did have thought to say something to her but I did nothing in the end.She was not likely to be a acceptive one.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
Oh snap, I could not have held back. I would have had to say something. But you are right, if she was already in that mindset she was not likely to take anything anyone said well to begin with.
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• China
12 Apr 07
As a matter of fact it is rather common here.The child himself will think that it is his fault.He will think that his mother is always right.Thus,Hhe will say nothing when he's being hitted
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@jmathen (112)
• India
12 Apr 07
I would like to help the kid out in such a situation, telling the mother something regarding the situation in a calm manner. But I dont think i can do such a thing in a situation like that. When I step up to say something either the mother will get frustrated and finish the anger on the child or the mother might turn to me and say "This is my child. Why you are bothered about what I do to him?" So, I guess I just have to stay away from such a situation. I have to say, I dont think parents should be shouting at their children in the public. As parents, we should be able to cope with the situation in a better way. Well..Every parent has his/her own way dealing with such situations, right?
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I always tried to not take my kids out of the house when they were tired or hungry as I knew I would have to deal with them either crying or whining. I think if moms just think ahead before they run out to the mall, they could eliminate these kinds of situations. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
12 Apr 07
That is such a hard one. I would so want to say something but you bring up valid points. It is probably going to make her more angry and she'll take it out on him because you are a stranger. Of course, to say something soothing like "Poor little guy must be tired" may make her stop and think about her own reactions too. Make it not personal against her and she may take it and process it differently.
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I guess I was more worried that she would take it out on her kid and not me and that would be worse so I kept my mouth shut. Thanks for sharing.
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@mskzalameda (4036)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
i will feel very sad to the child's part and help him out on his mother's punishment. it is not right to spank your child and to give shame to him in public. Spanking him will only worsen the situation. i read that instead of spanking the child, talking to him in a nice manner will be the best thing to do. Punishing him like no tv or computer for a week or so will also be good. Spanking will only cause a rebellious mind to the child. He will also do that to his future family, his son and daughters and then pass and pass it again. when i see that kind of situation, i will stop it and maybe give the mother some little nice discussion. it is also against the law so why do that to her child. it is her own and why not treat him like her own. I will also say to the mom of the child that things will only come to its worst when this scenario continues. The child will feel bad when he is being put to shame by his own mother and will loose his self confidence and that will affect his entire life. I know what's the feeling of this for i have gone to this. I really am.
@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
12 Apr 07
You've made some very good points about the long-term effects on the child. These little scenes start chipping away at a child's self esteem and he winds up having bigger problems when he is older. Thanks for sharing.
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• India
12 Apr 07
i would go ahead and stop that mom from hitting the child. I intend telling her not to hit her child.Children are to be cared whatever naughty things they do. Just by hitting you cannot teach them anything thewy will become more adment and stubborn if u start hitting them for sure
• United States
13 Apr 07
Honestly, I don't know what I do besides pity the child. I fail to see how hitting and yelling at the child is going to make the situation better when he is already tired and moody. Why didn't the mother just sit him down, and let him rest for five or ten minutes? A few years back I remember seeing a mother yelling and cussing at her baby for crying. I'm surprised no one did anything---this was happening in a fairly popular grocery store.
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
13 Apr 07
I think people are just afraid that they will make the situation worse by approaching the mother. Thanks for posting.
@aprilgrl (4460)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I know I would feel bad for the kid. It sounded like he was really tired but she should have not take it out on him. I really don't like to see this and haven't seen any in a long time I feel bad about it and sometimes I wondered if I should say anything but it might make it worse like you said she may take it out on the kid ...poor kid.
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@wachit14 (3600)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I was thinking the very same thing...that she would take her anger out more on her child if I stepped in and said something. Thanks for sharing.
• India
13 Apr 07
My reaction to the situation would definitely depend on the seriousness of the wrath of the mother over her child. If it is a simple case of rebuking, I would try not to interfere since it would be like getting into the personal life of the family. But if the case is of serious physical mishandling on the part of the mother, then my first reaction would be to safe-guard the child by moving it away from her/his mother.
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• India
13 Apr 07
Oh no!!! it is a certainely bad sign. No one should hitt a child on road for what ever reson may be? It is embrssing for child to be scold in public place.
• India
13 Apr 07
this is the situation that i didn't face in my life but if i would have seen than i will not go to her for that because i didn't know if i would say than it can be possible that she will bit me only so i would said to any relative standing before him and quite intelligent or rather i would have gone from there
• United Arab Emirates
13 Apr 07
That hurts me much cause I don't like to see that sence never ever. Sure, children must be learned the right and the wrong but not this way! Sometimes I talk to her quietly not to hit her child but, in some cases I feel that the woman is rough in dealings so, not to put myself in an embarrassing situation specially I'm a man not a woman like her, just watching the situation with broken heart.
@emeraldisle (13143)
• United States
13 Apr 07
There is a lot you didn't say in this so I can't say for sure. If she just gave him a smack on his bottom I wouldn't say anything. A lot would depend on the situation, how the mother was acting, and how she hit him. A lot plays into this. If she was abusing the child I'd go and get security. Let them handle it. If it wasn't abuse then I'd stay out of it. It's not my business.
@chryss (658)
• Philippines
13 Apr 07
its not good seeing a mother hitting her child on public place.i feel pity to that child.if i have a chance to say something, i will approach the mother to tell not to hit her child...
• India
13 Apr 07
I guess, i wouldn't say anything and just move ahead. Because mothers are the persons who would never think bad for their children. So, if the mother was thrashing up her son then her son might've done something wrong. Or if i knew everything about why she was doing it and it wasn't the fault of the kid the i would interfere and would try to convince the mother that it wasn't his fault.