relationship equality?

@bcote212 (1113)
United States
April 12, 2007 8:46am CST
I am a successfull 22 year old guy who works 40-45 hours per week. My Parner works about 60 hours per week because he feels that it is important to bring in around the same amount as I do. He said the other day that I should spend more time cleaning the house cause he works so much. Should I spend more time on the house? I mean its not my fault that I have a career, and he just has a job. Please clarify.
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6 responses
• China
13 Apr 07
Have a good living environment is everyone's hope.So are you,isn't it?Now that you have time,I think you should clear the room.On the other your husband spend time to bring in the same amornt as you,he is right.If he has time you both clear the house who do it who are free.I think thus is good for your relationship!May you happy!
• United States
12 Apr 07
It is not your fault you make more money than him. You should split the things around the house, that is what normal couples do.
12 Apr 07
Relationships are about sharing. Your attitude in saying he just has a job I have a career doesnt gel well with me. If he works 60 hrs a week and you do 20 hours less then that I too would expect you to do more in the house!! I dont see why he feels he needs to bring in as much as you do but clearly it is an issue in your relationship and there seems to be a battle going on in who can earn the most.
@luvreen (168)
• Philippines
12 Apr 07
Equality in relationship is really needed but in your case your wife told you that she has more time in her work and you should do the cleaning because you only spend 40-45 hrs which lesser hrs than her. You better talk to your wife because both of you are responsible for the house chores whether one has more or less time for it. Tell her that why are you both working? and who will benefits? and the answer is both of you and who will benefits the house is being cleaned? still both of you.
@KissThis (3006)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Since you both live in the home I believe that is both of your responsiblities to clean the home. Its not fair to either one of you to clean up after the other. If you make a mess you should be the one to clean it is what I think.
@SageMother (2277)
• United States
12 Apr 07
I think you should spnd more time cleaning the house simiply because it makes for a more pleasant living situation. Youa re available to do that where he cannot be. His working so hard makes it possible for hte two of you to have a standard of living that he finds acceptable. Just try doing a little more each tme you straighten up or mop and such. You might find it quite satisfying and his being more relaxed might imiprove your relationship!