Help, I don't know what to do! I've fallen in love twice . . .

United States
April 12, 2007 3:19pm CST
They, whoever they are, never tell you that you can love two people simultaneously. But I have . . . I do! My boyfriend/fiance and I have been going out for the past three years, give or take six months. We couldn't be happier. A mutual friend jokingly tells us that we are a match made in hell (he's a metalhead, what can I say). We like almost all of the same things--movies, music, etc. And we are intimate at least three to four times per week, sometimes more. The problem is his sister. He and his sister, while there are not twins, are like the same person. It's almost as though the two of them are halves of a whole. The three of us hang out quite a lot and do just about everything together, especially on the weekends. The problem is, I've fallen in love with her . . . I mean, ugh! I'm so embarassed by all of this, I'm contemplating deleting the whole damned thing. Okay, I've fallen in love with her, and I don't mean in a sisterly way. She has no idea, at least I don't think she does. I do silly things just to be close to her, to touch her and I hate myself for it, for every little thing. The other night, for instance, I suggested that we paint each other's toenails before a night out on the town . . . things like that. I don't know what to do. I don't know if she would even be interested in me, in that way. Is something wrong with me? I AM ENGAGED TO HER BROTHER! I'm so torn apart that I don't even want to get out of bed in the morning, let alone go to work and have to face an office full of people who keep asking me how my wedding planning is going. I know I must sound like a silly little girl, but maybe someone here has gone through something similar. Please . . . please, help me.
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
12 Apr 07
Awww hun i don't know what to tell you, you can for sure fall in love with 2 people, especially if their so alike, i've been there done that, and i can't tell you what to do, because i just avoided it, because i love my man and i couldn't love any other that way, just a fleeting urge kinda thing, you know? It's odd, it's harsh, but maybe just go with it, doesn't mean you have to forget the love you have for her, just means, you have your boi, or you can tell him and her what your feeling, and maybe try and work something fun out? haha sorry I'm dirty.... I hope things get better for you hun...
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@webeishere (36353)
• United States
12 Apr 07
Hmmmm? This is a sticky topic to say the least here on mylot. Anyhow did you ever think about sitting down and telling her your true feelings for her? Now as far as loving 2 people at the same time.. Thats entirely possible. But love has many seperate categories also. Would you want his sister to be your lifelong mate the love is that strong etc? See what I mean now? Love is a mnay faceted virtue that many don't see due to the feelings in our hearts. Think this whole loving 2 people thing over deeply. Compare the types of love felt etc. Then you and only you can decide what needs to be done. That's my point of view. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~