Comparisons?

Ok, you're not the only one that does this comparison! lol And yes, I too have done it, found pics of ex-girlfriends, ex-wives and done a self-comparison. And I don't know if this ever happened to you, but don't ya feel just a lil good when someone doesn't speak so well of the ex? I do I've been guilty of it, lol

Yes but I think that I have a jaded view and am unfair to her former spouse. I think we need to be fair and not to much ego involved.

I saw some pics of my husband's ex and there is nothing really to compare because am the exact opposite of these women. Probably my husband got tired of going out with the same type and he was looking for another kind. I am the jealous type but then that was his past. What concerns me is the present and the future. As long as he is loyal and honest with me, that is all that matters. I told him that I will stick with him thru thick and thin but the only thing that will make me leave him is another woman...and I really mean it. I will walk right out the door with no backward glance and I guess he understand that...=) But I do really trust him with all my heart and never compared myself to any of his ex's.

oh no...youre definately not the only one. I have done it with all my boyfriends exes and my husbands as well. The two I was most jealous of was my old fiance's ex girlfriend, because she was SO pretty! (but I found out later than she had some major personality flaws) but I'm also pretty jealous of my husbands ex wife for the same reason you are. She is an uber woman too! really athletic, likes to wake up early like my husband does, (I'm NOT a morning person), she never was overly emotional or jealous or insecure, (which I am at least once a month) She was very thin, less than 135 pounds and even 10 years ago made more money than I do now, AND she's 9 years younger than me! oh yeah AND...she left him...he was devastated when she left and went into counselling for 2 years. ANYWAYS...my husband is very open with me and tells me that although she was all that I just said she was, she was also emotinally cold, he never felt loved, she hid her anger inside and let it all explode the last month they were together, and that as soon as he started dating other woman after his divorce he was shocked at how much "life" other women had. His ex was so emotionally cold. So trust me, there's a reason your boyfriend and his ex aren't together anymore. Maybe he hasnt' told you (yet) but it's there. I'm sure he's happier with you now than with her.

Nope, I don't compare myself to my husband's ex. There is no comparison. If he wanted to still be with her then he would be, but he is with me. I'm the one he loves. I wouldn't let it bug you, he is with you, not her, right?

With one of my exes I used to do that and wonder how he had ended up with me because I was so different from his normal type of these tiny little things with long blond hair. I am tall and dark and I couldn't figure out quite how that had happened, and we were equally different personality wise! My husband now has NO photos of any exes for me to comapre myself to, but he did have some letters lying around before he had the sense to get rid of them!

Yes. I have done that. When I first seen my boyfriend's ex wife and an ex girlfriend I immediately did a comparison. They weren't that good looking so I think I look better and the one was really trashy looking and she still is. I've never heard anything good said about his ex wife. Just his ex girlfriend, but I don't have a problem with that because she was a nice person and they just didn't work out. She found someone else that is better for her and I have my man now. I guess if he had an ex girlfriend like the one you described I'd be jealous too. I don't think he cares about what she was in to or how she looked because he is with you now. You're definitely not alone in this.

I try not to do the comparasons becasue it jsut makes things more confusing and start looking for problems in a relationship that are nto there the main things to me are Are you happy, do you share morals and values, respect for your other and yourself,Trust, and that when they are happy you are happy fo them otherwise you are not only in a relationship with them but everyoen they have ever been in a relationship with. And if those relationships were so good or seem to be better than yours why are they not still together and what do you have that they do not.

i did it compare myself, too and got jealous whenever my bf would talk about her. but seeing that these things did more harm to my self-esteem, i decided to avoid comparing as much as possible and remain secure that he loves me for who i am.

Interesting! Haha, i did comparison also. During my first visit to his house, i saw the gift that he hand made for his ex. He is still keeping it inside his drawer. Honestly at that time i was quite stunned that I never realised he is such a romantic guy who will make handycraft to a girl, haha.

You're not alone. Heck I think everyone does that. It's just a natural instinct. Everyone is a little bit insecure about themselves I guess. Don't worry, I bet your boyfriend never tells you to worry, you're the only gal for her. ^_^

I think most people do comparisons to an extend. Its quite a natural thing to do. I for one have always been interested in partner's exes and knowing why they split etc. I dont believe in secrets and like my partner to know about my past and past boyfriends mistakes etc as well. Like you said, what looked like the perfect couple didnt work because personalities didnt match. You and your bf do match personality wise. Not having the same interests isnt a must in relationships. Sometimes even total opposites attract.

according to my view no body is perfect and every person have own propperties so we can't compare between two..