people who are addicted to lying

United States
April 14, 2007 10:04am CST
What makes them feel like they have to cover everything~ even small things that don't matter.. Doesn't lying usually just make matters worse? And cause distrust in a relationship? Why would somebody sacrifice the trust of there partner(,ect) over nothing? I do not understand. --- --- --- For example~ my boyfriend was going to church with his dad one morning~ and he lied to me and told me some weird story that made it seem like he was cheating on me or something. Now, we're both christians~ I don't care at all if he goes to church and he knows that~ I'm actually glad he is. Why would he lie and say something else? Why can't he just tell me "honny, I'm going to go to church for a little bit"? insted of his ridiculous stories? --- --- ---
2 responses
• Australia
14 Apr 07
I think some people expecially men are either stupid or scared to tell the truth. They lie because they think women cant handle the truth, either that or they lie because they dont want to argue. I have no idea why they do this, as all men are different and have different thought patterns, i just wish they could tell the truth no matter what the situation and that way there would be alot less arguements and confrontations if they did.
• United States
14 Apr 07
I think it's funny how you said that they probibly lie to avoid arguements~ but if they told the truth there probibly wold be alot less agruements~ =o because I agree with that actually~ And think that same thing all the time. =|
• United States
9 Aug 10
Sometimes people can get addicted to lying. Its called pathological lying. Its usually caused from low self esteem and the want to make ones life more exciting. if you think about it, its not very hard to believe that lying can be extremely addictive. Have you ever told a lie and felt like this adrenaline rush? And everyone knows that one lie leads to another. Sometimes people can tell a lie and actually fully and completely believe that its the truth. its called confabulation and can be more serious than any other type of lie because it can completely consume their life. Also these people can become very isolated because others realize all the lies and when the person denies lying they get fed up and leave. This is devistating to the person because they believe the lies so completely that they don't understand what they did wrong. And soon they are completely alone. Compulsive lying is more like what you are explaining. When someone just lies for no reason because they just cant tell the truth, they fear what people will think and how it will affect their relationships yet they are thinking about it in a different and not-so-logical way. When a pathological liar realizes that they are addicted to lying and try to change, it can be much harder then you would think. People can think they are a horrible person and can come to hate themselves and become desperate to not let others realize their "ugliness" on the inside and end up telling even more lies, keeping them from getting the help that they need.