Don't you hate to be told "thanks"?

@missak (3311)
Spain
April 14, 2007 11:17am CST
When I do something helpful to someone, it is just because I like to, or sometimes because I have a hidden interest on it. So when this person says thanks in return, I feel like she doesn't understand I enjoy helping her, or sometimes she is being hypocrite and says thanks for nothing.
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10 responses
• Canada
14 Apr 07
I have always believed it was nice to say thank you , so feel that I should say it in return . I never feel that the person has some kind of hidden agenda in helping me out , I just feel that they were decent enough to help me and the least I can do is offer my thanks . I actually get more upset when I take the time to help someone out and they don't bother to even say thanks as it was my time and although I did do this to help , I believe good manners should at least reward with a thank you . I see som many of the younger generation today and they feel that they should be helped out all the time , no matter what it does to your day and find it rude when I take the time to help someone and don't get a thank you in return for my time :)
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
15 Apr 07
I was not talking about the feelings, just about the word. I am very gratefule and inclusively I always say thanks. But when I do something for someone, I preffer to see his feelings on that another way than hearing the word we have been told to say.
• United States
14 Apr 07
Yes I don't want to be said thank and it is the worst part of time when I have to listen to "thanks" by smiling and then saying "welcome" or "it's my pleasure" in return to friends. But in some formal cases it is ok.
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
14 Apr 07
hahaha at least one that feels the same!!! :)
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• United States
14 Apr 07
Now that I think of it.. I don't care for a lot of thanks.. but then again, if there's no thanks.. that might not be good either..
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• United States
31 Aug 07
I agree but not for friends.
@crazy_me (588)
• Philippines
14 Apr 07
I do not hate being told that. Being told "thanks" makes me happy. It just shows that the other person appreciates me and what I did for him/her. If you are the one on the receiving end, would you not say "thanks" too?
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
15 Apr 07
I always thanks to others, for the case they think like you and that makes them feel happy. But I ment for me this word worth nothing, because it is a mechanical answer that we learned, it doen't demonstrate a real grateful meaning.
• India
14 Apr 07
i dont feel shame to ssay thanks if sombody really helps me it is minimum manners to say thanks if sombody help us
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
15 Apr 07
I alway say thanks, don't worry for that. But I don't like good manners, alghought I do them, because they are too mechanical.
@flowerchilde (12534)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I hate it if I do something.. and they don't say thanks.. My daughter does this, which is why I hate it, as I feel surely I raised her better. At Thanksgiving Dinner this year, her cousin went out to the kitchen and poured her a coffee along with his and then handed it to her, and she didn't say thank-you! [Still shaking head, here!} :)) - what does sometimes get under my skin just a little, is if I cook a good meal (yes, they're not all good:) and then when someone says it's a good meal.. I hate saying thanks! Is that weird or what? So when the roles are reversed, I always say "great food, or meal, etc, thanks!" :))
@missak (3311)
• Spain
14 Apr 07
I just meant there are other ways to say thanks but that word... as to be helpful in return, or just to smile, or saying something more original.
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• United States
14 Apr 07
why on earth do you feel that way it is only the polite thing to do to say thank you i would much rather someone do so than to feel they are ungreatfull!
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@missak (3311)
• Spain
15 Apr 07
I think polite thing means mechanical thing. I wish we were more original in this kind of expressions.
@charms88 (7540)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Some people like me can easily uttered "thank you" anywhere we go. I don't think there's anything wrong in saying those two words. I would be more grateful if a person even remember to say it. I say thank you when a waitress handed me a menu, a tissue, a cup and even my bills. It's endless. Just shrug off what you're feeling about this friend. She may really mean it or not, just be gratified with it.
@jbrooks0127 (2326)
• United States
1 Sep 07
Hasn't someone ever done something really nice to you and you are truly grateful for their thoughtfulness? That feeling then should I think prompt you to at least let them know you appreciate what they did. For them to say nothing can mean all kinds of things. They really rather you hadn't. They were glad you did but it was no big thing. Now they feel like they have to pay you back and that grips them. So with no comment you have no idea how they took it. Thanks, or thank you very much, only expresses their appreciation for what you did. It does not obligate you to respond to that. You have done your part.
@JUNGLE (1157)
• South Africa
1 Sep 07
I feel the same way that you do and I sometimes lose my temper.Some people dont understand this.
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
1 Sep 07
I hate when someone don't say thank you. Espacially at my job. When you helped someone for 30min-1h and don't even tell you thanks at the end .... The thank you is like my salary for me. I'M always happy to help the other and happy to feel that they appreciate what I've done.