Do you ever feel like your responses aren't appreciated?

There are times when some of my responses are evidently not appreciated. To support this claim, very few come with odd remarks. I understand that there are some who will take time to acknowledge the responses they are getting for some reasons. This happens to me, too. Whenever I get hold of the computer, I try to make some responses to my friends' discussions first before going into mine. However, a visitor may come and cut my stay in the computer or my kids will ask to relieve me. When this happens, I can no longer read the responses I get and thus I get to them only much later still. It's odd how those two lesbians joined together to nail you during the discussions. I hope this will never happen to me. I cannot recall having responded and come across that discussion of yours. Maybe I will have to see if I really did not. You got me curious there.

I do understand how you feel, we do not put our best minds into a response just to have it bashed. But once we have let go of our thoughts we must treat it like parents treat a newly wed child, they are no longer in our hands. Once we have published our thoughts it will be subject to criticism, irregardless of how knowledgeable the critic might be or how valid their arguments may be. Especially when we respond to a sensitive topic where we could hit anyone's nerve without even knowing what we have done. There will be different types of people who will read your response, and that is actually a good thing, it means that your response has something in it, something that sparked an idea, whether positive or negative, in someone else's mind. These people come from different continents, different cultures, ways of life, upbringings, and experiences. They will have varying reactions and responses to our ideas as much as we think the same of their ideas. That though is the good and bad thing about mylot. Although, personally I would like to treat it more of a good thing and a necessary evil. Mylot enables a global interaction of ideas, this is where looks, age, and everything else physical will not put a predisposition to how your idea is appreciated, or in other cases, bashed.

I suppose sometimes I do feel as if my response has been unappreciated or misinterpreted but that's life I suppose. Online forums are like that aren't they? I would say myLot is actually more polite than a lot of others I've seen or heard about. Most people on here are ok but there are also quite a few idiots and troublemakers which is again I suppose just a fact of life. These people are everywhere and I've found it's generally best to treat them with the contempt they deserve. I also think it's important to keep these things in perspective. I've noticed a lot of people seem to get very emotionally involved in myLot and really when all's said and done it's just another online forum. Does it really matter so much whether others on here appreciate you? Do their opinions really matter that much? Actually you hit the nail on the head in your own post when you said these people that ganged up on you "only made themselves look stupid". It's often the case that the more people try to make others look stupid or bad the more foolish they make themselves look to others. Just ignore them.

I have encountered this on a few occassions, but fortunately it is not a frequent thing here at Mylot. Like yourself, I would not pass judgement on others and never post derogatory or unkind statements, but there is always someone who will jump on their favourite soap box to preach their pet subjects, even if it means having to pretend that you have been offensive.

Oh my lord, welcome to the real world of forum. I have my fair share of members attacking me. I just leave them and move on. There's no sense in trying to stoop down to their level. I'm not a confrontational bunny and I always emphasized to everyone that I respect their opinions. I recently posted a discussion about homosexuality too. When the poster marked me as best response, I tried to check my response. To my amazement, four members had attacked me and I have no idea about it. Just shrugged them off. We can't please everyone.

I always reply to the responses I am given on any discussion. I hate when people try to be rude just for the sake of being rude. I saw your comment and the others. I am not saying whether or not I agree with you or them, I will however say that everyone is entitled to their opinion and there is no need to bash on anyone for being honest and stating their honest opinion. That's why you see so much rear end kissing here. Best Response to whoever thinks exactly like me. No one wants to go against the grain because of exactly what happened to you. I always answer honestly, and if someone doesn't like my point of view, than too bad for them.

I sometimes feel my discussions are not appreciated either. I always feel that mylot is a place where people do not come to discuss but more take the pi$$ out of people and throw slander than to actually rightfully earn a bit of pocket money and have a good, decent convasation. Im very sorry to hear that those girls where like that towards you but you also have to remember that you are mocking them by starting this convo (I dont mean that in a harsh way I was just pointing it out) although I too have been subjected to people having a go at me. I recently started a discussion entitled 'do you read the entire discussion or just the discussion title' I think you replied to it extremely well for me. But there was a certain person who just wrote, 'I think this is a stupid discussion I have responded to'. Obviously others had a go to asking why he/she had responded to it if they thought it was stupid. The next day though they started a new discussion saying something like - put your question in the title if you want people to respond. I was livid. Although I have done this to one other person (Id like to point out he was scum) I didnt see any harm in my discussion? People on mylot are strange (many are lovely I am not branding it as weirdlot or something lol!) But I have also noticed that if ONE person disagrees with you many will. I have learnt NEVER to express my opinion unless I back it up well. Again - Sorry this happened to you. Hope it doesnt happen again! Fliffy

im sorry to hear that Lordgregor. i didnt see this discussion. might come across sometimes i hope. i did realize the same about no ansers to our posts. but i dont mind, because i am very careful now where i post. there are lots here, who post one discussion after another and never go back to check. they are not interested in talking, only in money. and some might have forgotten about the older discussions. i think these are the reasons why we dont get many responses.

These things happen to everyone, one way or the other. I stay away from posting controversial topics, but still see some respondents giving me surly remarks. I think it's because we don't really see each other here, and all we could do is predict what's in the mind of the poster. Sometimes, we often conclude about the point of the poster without trying to understand the whole thing. As far as responding goes, your friends should be at least responding to your discussions. Perhaps like me, some of them have problems with their notifications (mine would always be "off" even if I turn them "on"). Some people get tons of responses because they have tons of friends helping them out, too. Happy myLotting!

It happens to me most of the tie my discussion never get moer than 10 responses well thats the highest i hae ever got. And the lowest is zero. now talk about that. It feel very bad when you go unnoticed. ABut, i have got usedn to it Now dont care how many responses i get to my discussions.

I think friend even you were rude expressing your thought. youdontsay and valyushah never misbehaved in their comment. I am sorry if you feel that I have got something wrong from what you were trying to say. These people were just trying to protect themself and were advocating their community . I think you should go back and have a look at comments again . http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/980928.aspx?p=2

I've never thought about that even if I've been here for a month now.. :) I think it's a matter of how they understand our response in their own way, but it's quite hard if one is not open-minded and does not really understand what we really mean.. Don't think about it that much on the responses that you get, I sometimes experience that also but don't worry that much..

I can relate to you. There was one time that I replied on this post about blonde jokes. The one who started the post apparently didn't like me spoiling their fun because he/she replied to everybody except me. I don't remember being rude, I even said her/his joke is funny and I liked it. Oh well, I guess we just can't please everybody, right? Just don't let negative thoughts creep into you buddy, mylot is still a place for sensible discussions, it's just that there are people with "bad habits" no matter where we go...

Oh LordGregor, they are foolish peasants to mock a Mighty and powerful member of the Sith. As your humble servant I will race to fetch your lightsabre and you can administer swift justice to them. It surprises me that with over 85,000 members there aren't more that reply to sensible discussions. I bet this one gets lots of replies.

I think we dont really see each other here, and all we could do is predict what's in the mind of the poster.

Sometimes, I always go back and check my responses, most of the time there is a comment, but sometimes there isnt. If I start a discusion I always respond back, with some sort of comment, if there is no need for one well then I would just thank them. But I have not come across rudeness as yet, but Im sure it is out there.

No I have never felt like my response are not appreciated, but on a contrary, there have been great response to my discussions. I think for you discussion to have a good response, your discussion must have a positive heading. Thanks and have a nice day.

Most of my discussions get really low number of responses. I even have one discussion that still has no response up to this time. I thought maybe i don't make good discussions enough to get the attention of other mylotters. Even with this, i still strive to make good discussions and answer posted discussions satisafactorily. My advice is to not feel bad about it, and not get affected by others' opinions. We're here to give our opinions anyways and i think not everyone has the same opinions about a certain subject. Accept that sometimes we will be criticized (or mocked, for that matter). The good thing we should do is to consider it a challenge or another lesson learned. We're here to earn anyways, not mind other people's affairs...

erm... sometimes.. i do feel my responses are not appreciated by the person.. but.. we're here to give opinion isn't it? we are willing to give our opinion without being asked isn't it? so.. why should we care if they were to listen to us or not? they do have their rights to choose whose comment is the best right.. all we can do is.. try our best :) ..