Should I give my children an allowence or pay them for the individual jobs?

It is more like you pay for some jobs and then the others they do because they are good citizens. You are preparing them to become adults that can fend for themselves. So as they get older you should have to do less. That is how I have raised my kids and they do pretty well. Good luck with yours.

i pay my kids for certain chores they do. i give them each jobs to do and if they are done then they are paid. if i end up having to do them they have to pay me. we keep track of it day to day and at the end of the week they get what they worked for. sometimes i will tell them ok if you clean my car i will pay extra this much. or if you go pick up all the trash that has blwon in the yard i will pay you this much more. every saturday i make a list of what they need to do and how much it will be to do it. like one has kitchen and trash and one has laundry and bathroom they both have there room. each day i check and see if ti was done if so they get a cash sign if they dont do it they get a minus sign. friday night they get paid and so forth. my kids know you have to work for your money nothing is handed to you. they know what a dollar is and how far it will go. if one wants extra money for something then they ask the other kid and if the other kid says yes then they write out a paper saying so and so borrowed this much they have to pay it back by this time and they have to pay back this much. like if oldest borrows 2.00 she has to pay it back in 1 week and she has to pay 2.20. lol if she doesnt have it to pay back cause she didnt do her chores then she to pay 2.40 the next week and if she doesnt then she can repo something of her chioce from her. lol. it seems to work really well to. my youngest is 9 she has 64.00 right now she has been saving for a few months now for a guitar. my oldest has 17.00 she is saving or getting her clairinet recorked cause she let it get messed up.

When our kids were growing up, we gave them an allowance and they had a list of chores they were expected to do every week. If they wanted to earn extra money we would give them other chores and other things they could do to earn. We didn't just hand them money. We didn't feel like that would be teaching the right lesson. After all, we have to work for our money? We felt the kids needed to learn that too because that's the way it would be in their adult life.

Too funny, I just asked this question today because the past 2 weekends have been like the money pit! I have 3 teens and it's just getting out of hand. They want $10 for bowling, $10 to eat out after, $10 for a movie, $5 to go with friends for a Starbucks and so on. By the end of a weekend I'm beyond broke and not to mention, have done nothing myself in the form of entertainment (unless you classify pulling money out of a purse until you get shoulder pain entertaining! LOL). I've decided to go back to handing out allowances and if they don't give me a reliable effort during the week for their chores they don't get it. I'll give extras for big extra projects (cleaning out the garage, the basement, etc.) I'm thinking $15 each, that covers either one night of glow bowling and a cheap sandwich after or a couple movies, etc. If they don't spend it they can hold on to it and spend it how they like.

I would give them an allowance if they behaved and helped around the house. Thats what my parents did. Probably alot like you.LOL

Well, it depends. In some families, the "reward" system works out well. The kids study harder, and learn how to earn money and save it as well. As for others, this system doesn't work in that the kids would think that it's easy to get money, then. They just have to help out in the house. They could be spending the money on things that they wouldn't need much, because the access is there. So, if you see that your kids have the capacity to save and spend wisely, then go for it. Perhaps try and see if it works at first. In my family, my mom would give us a 'reward' for school achievements, but not for housework because she said that's part of our responsibility. It really depends.

I think you should pay them for doing individual jobs. My mom would do this for me. I got 50 cents for sweeping the kitchen floor, etc. I think in the long run it will help teach your children that they need to work for their money.

I would propose three ways of paying to the children: (a) Subsistence Allowance (b) Paid for jobs and (c) Milestone payments Subsistence Allowance is an assured money they know is available to them and they can plan their expenditures based on this. Paid for job is when they do something useful and of sustantive nature. Milestone payments are for occasions like coming First in the class, becoming 13 tears old, doing an act of good samaritan, giving up a bad habit and the like. I hope it helps.

My parents had a chart, I'll try and remember it but I think it was 25 cents per chore, with a certain limit so we wouldn't make them broke! So when we completed a chore, it was marked off on the chart. At the end of the week, we got paid. I think that taught me a lot, although my sister was lazy and didn't make much money!

I have a set amount a week that I give my children for getting good grades at school. They can even get a bonus for getting 100% on a test. I don't pay them for doing chores because that is their way of doing their part for the household. If they do an extra job then I do give them another bonus.

My oldest gets an allowance now. He came home a few weeks ago and mentioned the kids in his class (2nd grade) do things around the house like take out the trash ect ect and that most of them get $10 a week. So I sat down, and made a chart of his chores. Like on certain days he does a certain job. Sometimes it's empty the bathroom trash and put a new bag in, or help clean the living room, stuff like that. He also asks to do the kitchen trash even though it wasn't on his chores list, I do let him do this. I pay him $6 a week providing he gets all the chores done. SO far it's gone very well. I decided not to do it based on behavior, because I think he should behave reguardless of getting money or not lol. He has been very happy with this situation.

When my twins became "of age" (where I thought that they could benefit and learn from an allowance). I instituted a point system. First of all, they were responsible for making their beds and cleaning their rooms. This was a given...no points were given, but points could be taken away if they neglected this area. They were given points for folding and putting away laundry, sweeping, vacuuming, feeding the dog and even putting on their seat belts. Whatever I felt was an important lesson for them to learn was available for points. When they brought home exceptional school work, they received points and if they got an A on a test, double points. OK..the points were tallied at the end of the week, with offending points deducted. Now, here is where you and your child can have some fun. You should sit down and decide what the "prizes" are: here is what we did 100 points: Ice cream in town 200 points: Lunch date with Mom 300 points: Movie or video game rental 400 points: 2 hours at the park 500 points: Skating rink / bowling / fun event 1000 points: Friend stays overnight This worked so well that I continue it today, but responsibilities have increased and so have point values...nice thing is, so has the ante! Cold hard cash can be a real motivator at 9. The point is to sit down as a family and decide what to do. Make a chart and display it...make it fun with smily faces, stars, whatever you want to chart progress. Good luck!

I sort of do both. They get a base pay with the udnerstanding that individual jobs must be done to earn it. If tose jobs aren't done, I start deducting. If they go above and beyond, I throw a couple of extra quid their way.