Moms, do you ever hide in the bathroom to get a few minutes to yourself?

United States
April 14, 2007 6:55pm CST
I saw a survey on this in a women's magazine, and I had to laugh. I have hidden in the bathroom just to be left alone for a few minutes to regain my sanity. ;o) I never knew it was such a prevalent thing, but I know I'm not the only mother to do it. Fess up, moms, how many of you have done the same thing?
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
15 Apr 07
My son will scream if I'm in there too young, so I don't get to hide. I often have to take a shower with the door open so he knows it's okay. He'll peak his head in every once awhile to make sure I'm still there! Like I can crawl out that two foot window that we have inside the bathroom.
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
15 Apr 07
oops too young means too long, see maybe I do need a break!
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• United States
15 Apr 07
It sounds like you have at least thought about crawling out the window and determined that you can't, LOL. My little one used to sit in my room and play and I'd shower in the attached bath, door open, and just talk to her every couple minutes. Is that your son in your avatar? He's a cutie!
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• United States
15 Apr 07
The bathroom is the only place I can usually find any alone time! It seems to be the only room in the house that my kids or husband don't barge into. On a good day, I can take a bubble bath and no one starts banging on the door, or fighting with each other and breaking the traquility of the moment!
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• United States
15 Apr 07
A bubble bath? Wow. I can't remember the last time I took a bubble bath, but it sounds really good right now. It's been cold and damp all day and it might help me shake off this chill. I don't get to indulge very often. It's not only hard to find time, but to find the tubs empty when five others have to shower. :o)
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@Willowlady (10666)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I never had to since I chose to be the at home mom, we homeschool also. They knew during the day when I chose to go get a shower after getting dirty housework done sometimes with their 'help' that they were not to bother me unless they were on fire. It worked beautifully and for those 10 minutes or so of showering and washing my hair, I felt better and often spouting about what I was thankful for. Good luck to you. Take charge and have a healthy mentality.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
I don't really need to do it any more, but on some those "Calgon, take me awaaaaay," days of the past, I was known to go in and lock the door for five or ten.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
14 Apr 07
I have done this so many times I couldn't count! Sometimes it still didn't help, I would forget to lock the door, my fiance, daughter, step-kids so on would come knocking or just barge right in! LOL, so, yeah, it is pretty prevalant for us all. In fact, I don't know a mom who hasn't done that. We used to laugh about that between me and my friends.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Did they slide notes under the door too? LOL That sometimes happens even when I'm in the bathroom because I need to use it. Or, you're hiding in there and the phone rings and they tell the caller you must be pooping because you've been in there a while!
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@chertsy (3804)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Wish I could hide in my bathroom. My kids are quick to find me and begin to bug me. If I lock the door, they will sit right outside and stick there fingers under the door. What's even worse is when they start asking Mom what are you doing. So my hiding spot is my husband's closet. They know I hardly ever go in there, except to put his clothes up or hide things from them, lol. So I go in there and sit on the floor and basically just think. So that's my hiding place, lol.
• United States
27 Apr 07
Thanks for sharing. We all need a breather! :o)
@shoelover (896)
• Australia
15 Apr 07
I do that quite often. I also find that hanging out washing will also give me time to myself. Nobody in this house likes hanging out the washing so I know they will leave me alone while doing that otherwise they think they will get roped into helping me.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Yes, I would think doing chores they don't want to help with is another good option. Good idea!
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@Savvynlady (3685)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Yes, I have done it more than once; most recently, I done it this past Monday night; To be honest, I had to take a bath, but had my portable cd player, and started playing some blues and all; and of course, my kids started coming in there and talking about using the bath; So yep, I sure do it.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
Music is good. It does sometimes make you lose track of time, but alas, the children will get you back on the clock in no time!
@gabesmom (1246)
• United States
15 Apr 07
Yes, I do this, too. It's the only place that I can claim my personal space. Unfortunately, my bathroom door lock broke a few days ago. My toddler opens the door wide to see what's going on in there. So I am using a rubber band and a piece of stick to "lock" the door until my husband finds the time to fix it.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
That SO sounds like something I would do. They say necessity is the mother of invention. If you have to McGuyver the lock with a rubber band, that's cool. Whatever it takes, right?
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@KissThis (3006)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I have never hide in the bathroom. If I thought that it would work I certainly would try it but my kids don't allow me to be in any room alone for more then a couple of minutes before the start looking for me.
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• United States
15 Apr 07
That's the beautiful thing. They think you need to be in the bathroom so it buys you a couple of minutes, LOL.
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@carlaabt (3505)
• United States
4 May 07
You get peace in the bathroom? I wish that worked at my house! My little one is 15 months old, and has just learned to climb over the baby gate. If he's not closed securely in his room, he's in the bathroom with me by my own choice, unless Daddy's home to keep an eye on him! We only have one bathroom and it is located right at the top of the stairs. I wouldn't want him to come looking for me, and get sidetracked by the stairs and take a tumble! He's also going through a really clingy stage right now, so he doesn't let me out of his sight for long, unless he's in bed (or supposed to be, sometimes I hear him get out of bed and he plays for a while before he lets me know he wants up for the day). Even if my son is asleep, I still have the dogs and cat to contend with. My lab can open the door and just walk right on in. My terrier scratches and cries and barks if she is closed out. It's not really worth it, to try to get peace in there. If I lock the door, I just have to listen to sad dogs, and then my cat gets in on it and meows, too. She sticks her paws under the door. The terrier tried that the other day, and got stuck! It was funny once I knew for sure that she was okay. Maybe when my son gets older, I will be able to use it to get some peace, but the dogs will probably still object!
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• United States
7 May 07
Cute story. Thanks for sharing. I can certainly understand why this option doesn't work for you with the stairs right there...
@horsesrule (1959)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I had to do it in the past when I was with my ex and my daughter was a little girl. All I wanted was just a few minutes with no one needing something from me. So off I'd try to casually walk to the bathroom to "go pee" or some such. I did have to tell them I was leaving since they "needed" to know where I was going, you know? LOL. So I would go, get to the bathroom, shut the door and LOCK it and sit down for a little peace and quiet. I usually kept a book stashed in there to help me relax. And then it would start. Usually the first ones to get things going were the dogs. The two little dogs were mine, they were Pomeranians and they were both needy, especially one of them. I couldn't leave the room without her so I usually carried her around with me but sometimes I needed a break from her too! So there I am and then I'm hearing scratching noises and whining [No, not my husband this time LOL] and then there would be a little black nose under the bathroom door and then there would be an entire black Pomeranian front leg under the door. It was funny! The cats used to do the same thing! Animals are so funny sometimes! Then would come my daughter, "Mom, where's the (whatever she needed)?" and then my husband "I'm hungry, are you going to cook something?" I would give up and come out and feed everyone, give them what they wanted and then try again later! Nowadays I live with my adult daughter and her three kids, all boys under 8 years and guess what? She can't go to the bathroom without her kids following her! Especially the 2 year old. He will barely let her out of his sight at any time anyway! I have to laugh about that. Payback, you know? Gotta love family, they're the greatest!
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• United States
30 Apr 07
Thanks for sharing this great mom story. I'm still smiling after reading it. :o)
• Philippines
29 Apr 07
Yeah, I do these oftentimes. I feel like it's my "hiding place" =). When I am irritated or super sad or just want to have some solitary moment, I go straight to the bathroom. Yeah, you're right, just to keep my sanity, too.
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• United States
29 Apr 07
I am so glad to know I'm not the only mom that used the bathroom for a hide out. :o)
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
28 Apr 07
I have tried, but my kids are always right behind me. I can't even use the bathroom in peace. I better invest in a lock. I do admit, when their father gets home from work, I will try to jump in the bath and just relax, but then sometimes my husband finds it hard to keep the kids intertained for a fricking 10 minutes. MEN! So I always have to cut my baths short. LOL! But hey, those few minutes do help. :)
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• United States
29 Apr 07
Yep, sometimes just a moment can make a big difference but it would be nice to stretch that time out a bit. I may have to start a support group called "Moms who need longer baths."
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
21 Apr 07
hahaha, i did that once when the time that i feel so exhausted and feel so tired..really, mothers really do that? ohh..most mothers are the same right?lol well, sometimes, we need to take a few minutes, need to be alone if we get tired of being a mother..it's not that easy to be a mother, right? you done all the house chores, take good care for kids, that sometimes, i cant even comb my hair because i'm too busy..but we need a break...lol
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• United States
21 Apr 07
Yes! We all need a break sometimes. Everybody gets tired and overwhelmed at times (I think it happens to moms more than most others!) :o) I usually manage to comb my hair but I have had the kind of days you're talking about.
• United States
21 Apr 07
Yes, I do this also. But, I didn't do it until our son, who has ADHD with impulsive behavior disorder started really showing signs of having a problem. This was actually one of the managing techniques that our psychologist gave us to do. If Trav was in a mood where he would be hurtful and disruptive instead of giving in to the behavior and making it seem like a good thing, we were to lock ourselves in the bathroom until he quieted down. It has always worked and was one of the lifesaving techniques when his impulsive disorder was at it's peak. I think that a lot of parents do this, it is funny though to think of your bathroom as your retreat for sanity! LOL.
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• United States
21 Apr 07
Thank you for sharing your story. I don't do it too much now, but I definitely used to. I'd just get overwhelmed by my four kids and some days I felt like they never stopped saying, "M o-o-o-o-o-m!" I didn't know it was a recommended technique! I guess we moms are pretty smart. :o) It is kind of funny, but I also see that it is all too common (I used to think it was just me and kinda feel bad). I'm glad I'm in good company.
@chiyosan (30194)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
wow! really? if i needed to be left alone (by my parents) i would just act busy reading books in my room.
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• United States
17 Apr 07
Yes, really... Moms actually do hide out for a few minutes sometimes when everything is going crazy. My kids figured it out though. They come to the door and ask, "Are you really using the bathroom, or are you hiding?" LOL Well, do you leave your parents alone if they act busy? ;o)
@vanities (11410)
• Davao, Philippines
15 Apr 07
nope i have never done that in bathrooms? i hate that part of the room..if ever i think i like in our room instead..
• United States
15 Apr 07
I agree that the bedroom would be more comfortable and a nicer place to relax, but I think sometimes people just need a minute to themselves to regroup.
@emeraldisle (13145)
• United States
15 Apr 07
I confess :) I've done it at times as well. Not just at home either when I'm ready to strangle someone if I don't get a few moments alone. I've also done it when I've gone over to families houses on the holidays. It's the only place to escape then. It does help at times just to have those few moments of peace and quiet without someone getting into your face about something or another.
• United States
15 Apr 07
Yep, sometimes escaping from the hustle and bustle for a minute or two to catch your breath can reduce stress greatly. A moms gotta do what a moms gotta do!
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
15 Apr 07
If it weren't for my bathroom I may have hurt somebody by now! LOL I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who uses it as a hiding place. When my kids or hubby start stressing me out I'll go in there, lock the door, and turn on every faucet just to drowned them out for a few minutes. When we bought our house the majority of the reason I wanted it was because the master bath has a jacuzzi tub. Almost every night after dinner I lock myself in there and chill out. The jets drowned out the noise of my family beautifully! I think it had to have been a mom that wanted indoor plumbing!
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• United States
15 Apr 07
I have a nice garden tub in my master bathroom but no jets. I'm jealous of your Jacuzzi!
@brokentia (10395)
• United States
15 Apr 07
With seven kids in the house, there is no place I can hide! Even if I go to the bathroom, someone is going to walk in. No matter how many times I will tell the little ones that they need to knock first, they will knock and THEN enter. ha ha Or if I tell them to get out, a child will be just on the other side of a partially open door talking to me. Why? No peace! LOL Heck, even when I go into the shower I will be asked questions or listen to someone tattling on another. ha ha There is NO place to hide in my house!
• United States
15 Apr 07
Seven kids, wow! Yes, I guess you count your blessings if you have time to shave both legs during one shower. Put a lock on the door woman... see post #7. ;o)