I Love You.. Goodbye...

THIS IS AN EDITED AND CENSORED ANSWER: Yes i have been in a similar situation. I was in love with a girl, my relationship with her lasted for one, two, three, four, Five Years, we were in love deeply, but i had some circumstances and she had some circumstances. She wasn't willing to cope up with the circumstances i had, it was too hard on her, several times she tried 2 break up but we always got back 2 each other. Five years of love, pain and fights, we used 2 fight and argue all the time. She believed in breaking up as a solution and i believed in doing the best you can 2 make the relationship work even if chances are slim. But because we didn't have a common method by which we handle our relationship, things broke apart in the end but the Five-year period shows how deep and how strong the bond had been. (There's much more 2 what i mentioned but don't want 2 make it real lengthy 4 u here, that's why i called it an Edited answer) As for your question: I do believe lovers must do their best to make it work, and i believe in what they call 'Make the best of what you've got' sometimes in order 2 make a relationship lasts, solutions wouldn't be ideal but if both lovers are keen to maintain each other, they may have to cope up with the solutions. I don't believe in break-up unless the damage is severe and someone will get real hurt. Thank you for the nice post.

hi morningdew! thanks for having this discussion..im into this situation right now. I have a bf in CA, we met through Friendster 2 years ago, we became friends and by now lovers, his family particularly his mother and his sister is not in favor of our plans together, by the way he's a model and a business analyst of a famous magazine in the US so they belong to the upper class of mass and i do live a simple life here in the Philippines. Lately, we rarely chat and send emails and ecards, he told me he's confuse because her sister is acting weird and she even look for his brother ex gf to patch them up with the previous relationship and so the exgf went back. He's thorn between me and his family we're in fact he doesn't need to choose since he's already 27 and in the right age for him to decide things on his own its just a matter of his family understanding his own hapiness. We have plans of seeing each other and get married soon, but it's been a month that i havn't heard anything from him yet. But his friendster account is still the same and he oftentimes logging on his account..i really don't know what to do..it seems that ill gonna say Ilove you..goodbye..

It's called sacrifice. I cannot share any details because I've set my mind on forgetting. But yes, I have been in this situation and It's like a scar that will not go away. Believing in an idea is one thing, fighting for it, surviving it, trying your HARDEST to make it true, is TOTTALLY something bloody else. It's what caused me to let go of the whole idea of couplation. When you BOTH realize it's effortless, meaningless to fight, no matter how BAD you wanted it, it is time to...LET...GO. sometime the circumstances are stronger than love. You have to put down your weapons, take off your armor and surrender. "we can make it" does not apply anymore. for the love has gone cold and everything that was, never been.

Some people who are in a relationship would believe that whatever fight or problem that they had, as long as they talk about it and worked it out, they believe that their love is forever. In some cases, some people who had a misunderstanding in their relationship would give up and find a new one to love. As for me, if we fight for our love and not give up.... it would only mean that we really love our partners that much.