have you been accused of something you did not do?

my family - christmas......
Philippines
April 16, 2007 1:15am CST
We have this house in a suburban area, and we don't usually stay there since accessibility is our main problem. One time I told my mom of me and my friends visiting the house, I made sure everything is locked and everything is in its right place. Earlier this morning, my mom woke me up, she said that I left the house open, then some of the appliances are missing. I answered he in a soft voice since I was still in bed and not in a mood for a fight or argument. She was forcing to tell me the word " I did it" well, she didn't really but you know people, they tend to say they did not make it that way but you can read minds, she wanted to blame me. Well, I felt bad about it, got up in bed and argue with her. I'm now struggling, I hate fights. And I hate her for accusing me. I think there are things that will mark my mind forever. Thins like this. To think that they are your family. They should be the one supporting you, believing you. But I guess people are really so imperfect.
2 responses
@lyndee22 (1210)
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
Yes and it hurts. This happened last all saints day. In the morning my husband & I went ahead to visit our departed love ones. In the afternoon it is my mother in-law and sister in-law's turn to go to the cemetery. When they've gone, i locked the front door and closed the kitchen door. I stayed at the laundry area which is adjacent to the kitchen and I could see who comes and pass the house. When they got back home, they ask me if somebody had entered the house and I answered back none and I myself had not entered because I'm washing our clothes. My mother in-law insists that somebody has entered the house because her jewelry case was missing on its place and she kept on murmuring. I called my husband to come inside and helped locate the missing box and he found it just infront of her at the cabinet where she last placed it. I got mad and hurt and I cried on that situation, blamed of a thing not done. Until now it still fresh on my mind. Before, I don't even go to their rooms much more now that I don't touch their belongings even if it is scattered. I'll let them collect and fix it.
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
Kagigil nuh?... It's really hard saying sorry on our part, since it's really not our fault. I cried i while ago, and it really eases the pain a bit. I think I'm just too weak. thanks for the reply... :)
@lyndee22 (1210)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
My anger last for a time and they know it until my mother in-law talk to me and told me she is not blaming me for her carelessness but eventhough she had done it I could not return back the full respect that I showed them before.
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
You are right people are so imperfect, thats why your mom blame you without thinking that thief can be good at getting inside the house, they are just shocked and psychologically they want to ease it by blaming someone. Don't get mad at them its human mechanism. If you are sure that you really locked the door why don't you investigate the house of any possible netrance like upper windows or garage, or maybe forced entry at the door. In that way you can attain justice against accusation. Lots of people experienced to get blamed, not just you, its really hurt thats fact, just understand them, you can think of any bad things against your family, but never forget to forgive them. Even if its not your fault, just say sorry, it can calm their mind and heart.
• Philippines
16 Apr 07
It's a wonderful advice... I'm thinking, i havent eaten this whole day, just for a couple of cereals and lots of water. It's right to say sorry but I think it's not yet time. :( well, i don't know... thanks for the advice.... :)