Is it wrong to be irritated?

@4cuteboys (4099)
United States
April 16, 2007 3:31pm CST
My parents are here and they have 3 dogs. The youngest is about 4 months and acts insane. She has him in a crate sometimes and when she does anything with the other dogs the youngest one barks, screams, scratches at the crate, howls and just goes nuts. They dont really do anything about it, but today at 5am his barking woke up me and th youngest two kids. My mom acts like it's no big deal that he behaves like that. I find it very irritating and think they should be at least trying something. What do you think? Am I wrong for being irritated with this?
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
16 Apr 07
Puppies that young need so much attention that it is really not a great idea to bring a dog so small to someone else's house unless they are willing to take full responsibility for them. It's not unusual for a puppy to wake up very early (just like a baby) and wake up everyone else. You have every right to be annoyed about it and you might want to calmly discuss it with her so she can see your side of the story.
@Dana5881 (609)
• United States
16 Apr 07
I would be irritated too. She should have not brought the dogs over if she knew they weren't going to behave. Especially with that many kids around she should have been a little more compasionate and taken care of the dogs and keep them behaved or left them at home. I love dogs and we have 1 too. You should talk to her about this and let her know it's bothering you. It's your house after all.
• Canada
16 Apr 07
Oh My Goodness you are obviously handling it well if it was me i would be putting the darn dog outside in his cage so he dont' bother me at 5am. i have 2 kids and they are up by 8am as is i dont' wanna be gettin up at 5 i thinkyour parents are being disrespectful of you and your house to allow an animal that is not yours to wake you and your kids up. If it was me I would tell my parents to either leave the dog at home or leave it outside.
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@Calais (10893)
• Australia
16 Apr 07
No, I can totally understand your frustration. They could be at least trying to quiet the dog down and respect the other people in the house. Then on the other hand, it is only temporary. No its not wrong for you to be irritated.
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• United States
16 Apr 07
Our feelings are never "wrong". What you do to act upon feelings could be right, wrong, both or neither but the irritation you feel is not WRONG. I think you should seriously consider if your feelings are a legitimate problem and where that problem stems from. Are you justified in being irritated? Is there any way to change youself inside to not be irritated? Personally I think it's very understandable that you would feel irritated at this and I probably would be too. The trick is to talk to your parents in a mature, calm, nonaccusing manner so that you come out with a win-win situation. Use a lot of "I am" instead of "you are" type statements. For example: "I have been feeling a little irritated by how this dog is making noise and waking us all up. Is there something we can do to help solve this?"
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@kodie420 (872)
• Canada
17 Apr 07
Well all I can really say if its your parents house then I guess its totally up to them what they do and how loud it is. I would be irrated as well and I would personally try to establish some kind of control on that dog. Dogs are'nt hard to train you just have to stick with it and be firm. If your parents dont do something soon then that dog will be out of control forever.
@4cuteboys (4099)
• United States
18 Apr 07
It isnt my parents house, it's my house I am talking about!
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
17 Apr 07
Three dogs are a bit too many and it likely that one or two will be a nuiscance. If that should happen, then i think it is only normal to be irritated. We all get irritated dont we? Not just by dogs but sometimes by our own actions.Once I got terribly irritated by my own mistake, i got out a Thamos Flask and put it on the table. I was watching a football match involving my team Arsenal playing with Manchester United. Arsenal scored a nice Goal which made me to punch the air! As I brought my arm down, it met the Flask and it was shatterd on the floor! This action of mine irritated me very badly! So friend, it is not wrong to be irritated and I can tell you even your own actions can irritate you!
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
17 Apr 07
Oh my God i would have lost my mind. Your mom must be a real pet lover to not be bother by that stuff. My mom is the same way. We have a dog which is about a year old now and all he does is chew things up. He loves to chew my daughters dolls up and when I approach my mother about it she says that thats what puppies do. But he is no where near a puppy.
@lafavorito (2959)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
I would be irritated too. Dogs tend to be really nervous while travelling and staying in a another person's house that is why they act like that. I think your mom should do something to make her dogs comfortable especially if their actions are bothering your kids. Hope everything will work out fine.
• United States
17 Apr 07
of course not... its a human thing... its depends from person to person on how easily one gets irritated though.. i feel short-tempered people get irritated pretty fast !! people who are very calm cool n composite, its very hard to irritate them because they take it very lightly and in a sport... one should take care that by getting irritated he / she should not indulge in any activity that would cause harm to others !
• India
17 Apr 07
do its not wrong...tell ur parents that they are creating problem....not every one is supposed to love dogs and if they are r troubling u ...u can atleast see to it that they dont cause u disturbance...
• China
17 Apr 07
The little dog is lovely.And don't be irratated by it, for that it barks means it exists. And it as well as a baby does some exercise by doing that.
@mari123 (1861)
• China
17 Apr 07
i think you don't be angry with that,beacuse animal'innate likes bark,if you prevent ,that is too cruel for animais.and you parents like raising the pet too much,this is their hobby in their life,you should understand them
• India
17 Apr 07
I dont think Having dogs is bad, but Its good to have pets at home than big dogs. We too have a pet dog at home , my dog is really cute and sweet, she will bark slowly when we say her to stop ,she will certainly do that. But early morning she will never bark, i think it needs training. It should be maintained too...
@gemini1960 (1161)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
yeah you have the right to be one..especially if it is disturbing your sleep including the kids..your mom should do something about it .
@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
17 Apr 07
You are never wrong for being irritated, because for one to be interrupted from sleep at such time is irritating, most especially the one cause be animal, but just excercise patience (I know it's not easy). Try to let you mum know how important human is compare to animal. Thanks and have a nice day.
@Gemmygirl1 (2867)
• Australia
17 Apr 07
I think your Mum should have left the dogs behind - LOL, seriously though, pups do act like that sometimes but the fact she bought them with & the pup isn't in it's usual place with it's usual routine, it will think it can get away with more. Usually, if you let a pup do that & ignore it, it will realise it wont work & then eventually it'll stop acting like that but it doesn't help being in a strange place & i think you have every right to be irritated. Although there's nothing your parents can do about it anyway without encouraging the behaviour. Maybe next time they decide to visit you should ask them to leave the dogs behind & have someone else watch them coz it's not right that they should expect you to put up with a puppy acting out like that. Hopefully your parents wont be staying with you for too long so you can have the pup out of your house & back to being annoying at his own home!
@sallyxu126 (1184)
• China
17 Apr 07
I don't think you are wrong. For me,if I meet this, I will also irritated. However,try to be quiet and find some method to settle it. Irrtated means nothing. right?
@piropos (312)
• Philippines
17 Apr 07
I like dogs only when they are sleeping. That means no barking dogs for me or else I really get irritated. One barking dog is too many and 3 barking dogs, well I can't imagine how you can cope with that. I guess the only thing going for you there is that the owner of the dogs is your mom, and if it were your neighbor, then you wouldn't be that tolerating. Good luck!
@wladnsf (28)
• China
17 Apr 07
If I'm in your situation I should be irritated.In my own house,I can not have a good rest because of a dog.That's so funny!You should tell this to your parents and they will understand you and do something to stop the similar ones.To make others feel fine first you should make yourself happy.