quarrels between mom and wife. need advise.

This is very hard for you I am sure. But, by the bible I try to live by it says a man will leave his father and mother and cleave unto his wife. I think this is the pattern we must follow, while you love and respect your mother there should be no doubt left to either her or your wife that if you have to choose you will choose your wife. If you [and I'm sure there is] have things to say to either of them, insist that you say it to them privately. You might tell your wife that you think she was wrong about something, but also make sure to tell her you will always stand by her.

hi! if the 3 of you lives under the same roof, i do suggest especially if this case is rampant to both you and your wife to settle down and move out. It's a normal scenario that inlaws doesn't get along well. But it will be better if you can fix it first before settling down or moving out. Just point to your wife that as a sign of respect, she can extend some patience to your mom. Im sure, you can make it. Just Pray to HIM because everything is possible with HiM and this is just a trial.

That's really a tough one since we don't know the facts, but I would have to say that YOu would probably be best to stay out of it. If you take sides you are going to take the wrong one no matter what. They are adults and should be able to work it out among themselves. Be patient and have a little faith in the women that you love! Good luck to you!

there are really times when things like this happen. i think the first thing that you can do is to let them cool down first. when they start thinking straight, they'd be able to find reasons with the things that had happen (especially your mom, since she was the one who said unpleasant words). ask what was the cause of the argument then try to analyze who's fault it really was. then try talking it out again, hopefully by that time they will be more civil about the talking. it is very difficult to be in your situation. i hope you'd manage to fix it soon.

In your case nothing unusal happened, centuries this is repeated.Don't worry, tell your mother you love her what ever be the case you will support her. Tell your wife you lover her at the same time you have obligations to your mother, and forgive her, and you are the main star so you have to cop-up with the present situation. Once this is established it will be fine.