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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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rhinoboy I have another relative (a balanced, sane one!) who has pretty much just drifted away from the 'family' and only keeps occasional contact. They're really emotionally tough though. When I was in my late teens, my grandmother who I had been close to as a child...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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TerryZ ask your wife If she feels the same as you. If she does then gradually drift away from them. You both have to be in sink with each others feelings. If you tell to stay away that will cause more of a problem for you guys. Just be polite to them when you both...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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rhinoboy Thanks. I know that this is what I must do. I can't really help much anyway in any practical sense, but it's really hard to watch someone you love so much drink their life away.

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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mansha You know family is always family no matter how bad they are.I have been coping with mine for so many years now.I have been loaning them finances for so long and have been rebuked recentlyt that we do it for our own freewill,they could have coped without our...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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Bevsue One of the hardest lessons I have had to learn is that your really don't help people by taking care of them. It seems cruel but often the best thing to do is refuse to help them so that they learn to take care of themselves. The more you help them the more you...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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rhinoboy Thanks willowlady, that's a really constructive suggestion. You must be (or should be) some type of family therapist! It does worry me a little though. Let me tell you about last christmas. I'll try to summarise, # Hostess so disorganised, my wife must...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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Willowlady you may not feel fortunate however you are fortunate to have a family. It is all about boundaries and perhaps you could maybe after a great, hopefully not drama filled family meal where you are all together. You and your wife and you leading if it is your...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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rhinoboy I feel that way, but i would feel terrible leaving them without support. I keep thinking that we'll find one of them dead one day.

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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hizzle13 You can only take so much negativity before it takes its toll on you. i think you need to gradually distance yourself as much as possible from them, until you are at a level your comfortable with.

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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jeffaim I agree with this advice, and would possibly take it one step further. Since you have been emotionally supporting them for so long, maybe it is time for you to try to lean on them for emotional support. If they are complaining about money, you can shoot it...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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rhinoboy Thanks for that. The alcoholic one has been getting help from the doctor and counselling, but it doesn't seem to have done any good so far. I've already been doing as you say for a year or more now. The thing is that they really never talk about anything...

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rhinoboy @rhinoboy (2129) 14 Dec 06

My extended family seems do dump all of their problems on my wife and I. They have various serious troubles like alcoholism, debt & finance trouble, mental health issues etc. My wife and i don't have these problems, but only...

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krankies Your family views you as a dependable, stable couple, with their heads on straight. They come to you because they trust you and look up to you. You need to encourage those with problems to seek proffesional help. The others listen to and cut the conversation...

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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Idlewild Doesn't happen too much in the U.S. Maybe you'll see one company go on strike, but usually not an industry or an entire region or public employees. I've heard of it happening in Europe more, especially France. They seem to love having strikes in France.

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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saim4u yeh unfortunatlly it happend to in country (Pakistan) aswell and i have seen it happend. It was a big strike on a religious issue when the Danish news paper issues cartoons of our beloved prophit Muhammad (peace be upon him) which is prohibited in Islam and...

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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LordMike not in my country (Romania). but my parents told me that it was something like this about 20 years ago. If your car had odd number you can drove 2 sundays a month. In the other 2 sundays were driving the ones who owned cars with even numbers. Now, every time...

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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fairplay10 this is not only happens in india it happens all over the world and one can find this happening mostly in asian and european countries .

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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GlaciersofIce We certainly don't have declared strikes from ruling parties...but we do have union organized strikes in sectors of business and of course holidays...but over here you can find cars on the road somewhere at any moment.

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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cowboyzfan Yep. It probably happens anywhere you can think of. A few months back, teachers had a strike here about them not being paid that well. A couple lost their jobs :0

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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jaisalpk Till now the people are not aware of this foolishness. Those polticins have nothing to loose except we people with a day's salary or a business loss..........We've to act for this ASAP

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jaisalpk @jaisalpk (224) • India 14 Dec 06

Here in India for everyone it's an undeclared off today, bcoz one of the ruling party has called for a full strike ( NOT A SHOP IS OPEN AND NO VEHICLES ON THE ROAD) today, n that too for 24 hours. And this is for the second time...

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milott This happens only in India. As we (espeically government employees) are more fond of taking holidays and not work. This is being done by the political parties to stop the work and stop the economy of India. This is all done to gain political mileage and...

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