Lies, lies and more lies...
April 17, 2007 8:56am CST
HOW MANY of us can say with hand on heart that they have never lied? Why is it that we try to distort the truth so often in our lives, and what benefit do we get from it? There are many different types of lies, and we all have or own way of concealing them. Imagine a whole day without lying. Can it be done, I wonder? Your friend telephones you, and after talking about her problems for an hour, she says "sorry, I must be boring you," to which you answer: "Oh, no. Of course not." Or your friend turns up with a new hair style, and despite the fact that it shows of her big ears, you say "wow, it looks great." These are lies when you think about it. Small or white lies dominate our lives, and they are often so spontaneous that we tend to forget that we say them a lot. How many times have you started a conversation with words of flattery? We think that lies make our life easier, and sometimes we lie to avoid trouble, or to please and impress. Sometimes we say things because we know that the person wants to hear it. Lying is a verbal coin through which we buy time. Often, it is more economical to say a small lie, rather than spend hours arguing with someone about a fact which may cause controversy. In fact, lying has become a habit. Our everyday life is made up of them, to such an extent that when we want to say the truth, we have to start our sentence with a prologue like "Frankly speaking," or "I am sorry but.." Lies have many forms. They can be good or bad, strong or weak, and pleasing or hurtful. Lies can wound a person, and corrupt a nation. Our parents teach us from the very beginning not to lie, but we all know that it is very hard to practice what they preach. The success of a lie depends on the skill of the liar and victim's innocence. The skilled liar learns how to control his body language so as to not give away the lie. Only the very best liars can get away with this. Normally, there are tell tale signs that a lie has been made-physical clues like irregular movements of hands and legs, or turning the eyes away from someone's stare. We humans have even come to enjoy lying. All I ask is that please make them 'white lies,' which have no real effect or impact on those around us. Do you tell lies? Are they small little white lies, or are they lies that can really effect someones life? I must admit, I do lie everynow and them, but not harmful lies. How about you?