Unmaried at age 30? How do you cope with the pressure?

Nigeria
April 17, 2007 9:33am CST
Everygirl's dream (I know it was mine)is to be happily married by the age of 25years. that is when life for a woman is at its peak. But when you have passed the age and beyond without any prospect in the near future, the pressure mounts. From your inner struggle with yourself not to act desperate and marry any available man. And not to forget,friends and relations are ever ready with one eligible man or the other to entice you to marry. In this situation, I always try to remember that not everyone married is happy and it not the act of getting married that is utimate rather being with somebody who cares, loves and understand me. Developing other aspects of my life that I have not accomplished much also help to take my mind off the situation. I know that there are lots of folks out there with similar situation, how do you cope?
2 responses
@cipher2004 (1183)
• United States
17 Apr 07
I like you wanted to be married at around 25 also.I am glad now that this never happened.It does seem that when you are looking for a relationship it just doesn't seem to happen.I too was being pressured by friends and family to "find someone to settle down with".I finally got to the point where I felt I was just fine by myself.Then when I was 42 I met the most wonderful man.We dated 2 times then he moved in with me.We have been together for over 2 years now and I am finally married.Be patient it took me 42 years to find true love.
• Nigeria
17 Apr 07
Hi, thanks for your comment. I have heard stories like yours and they always help to reestablished the fact that God's time is the best and it not how far one raced but how well. I believe in true love and I pray That I will experience it.
• United States
19 Apr 07
I am sure you will.But it sure did take me a heck of a long time.But even if you do not find true love I am sure you can be happy with all the friends you have.I was happy and content for years and even did not want a relationship when we found each other.It just happens.
• Indonesia
23 Apr 07
Everygirl dream to be happily in a married. But sometimes, the happen is out of the dream. Our husband often disturb us in order to make a relationship with a man. I know it is hard for a girl who common hang out with the friends. However, a girl is a human who need interaction between her community. In this case, all of us need a man who can understand us and be patient in face the things of the life.