Why is it so easy to love others and not yourself?

Philippines
April 17, 2007 11:29pm CST
I'm sure you've been told, "In order to be loved and accepted by others, you must first love and accept yourself." It's easier said than done. But why is it so hard to just accept and love yourself as you are?
3 responses
@jillann (780)
• Philippines
18 Apr 07
That's easy... It's easy to love other people because we can see in them what we can't see in ourselves. She has fair skin, you don't. She has perfect lips, you don't. Stuff like that. Reason why it is hard to love yourself is simply because you are hopeful that you can be like them or be someone more. This is just my opinion, at least that's how I feel.
• United States
18 Apr 07
That is a very interesting question and it is very true that people are very hard on themselves at times. I think maybe people have a hard time finding the distiction between accepting and appreciating themselves, from being egotistical. And I think life is so pressuring and alot of people feel the point of life is to be more succesful, more EVERYTHING and the cycle of just wanting to be alittle better never ends. Its sad. But I think that when other people accept in love you for you, it can open a persons eyes up to themselves and they realize that they are great and they begin to value themselves.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
11 May 07
it is because we are in denial .we are embarrassed with ourselves but so selfish.how could we love if we are selfish , how could we sustain that love if we do not love ourselves. it is more of understandng and acceptance as to who we are.how? just let it go , just let it flow.it would come from within then to without. a deeper understanding of ourselves would come from a deep breath and a slow exhalation through the nose with your eyes close and know who you are, you will know when you reach that plane of existence. you will and you can now be ready to love someone because you became THE right person.