Can it be done, is it even possible I really need help on this one.

United States
April 18, 2007 11:58pm CST
Is it possible to live peacefully and speak your mind. I typically am the guy that people get mad at because I speak up. If I don't like ya, you'll know. If I think your an idiot you'll know. So tonight I was thinking about what things I want to change and living peacefully was on that list. First of all I was thinking more in the way of knowing the bills are paid then I realized that I would like to see that in other area's as well. And then I got to thinking about my ex, because if anyone could possibly throw a monkey wrench into the works I promise you it is her. She is just one of those people that you simply can NOT reason with. Hence I speak my mind and there we go, But it is not just with her. People ask for your opinion and then when you give it to them they're pi$$ed off.
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@nelltx (277)
• United States
19 Apr 07
Maybe it isn't the fact that you speak your mind, but it is the WAY you do it. I have told people off & even called one woman a female dog, but by the time I was finished speaking my peace, they were either thanking me for my insight, or agreeing with me. I am not saying that I have done this every time, but you may want to consider how you talk to people, not the message that you are sending. Remeber the old addage, you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar. Good life to you.
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Hi nelltx. Well said, I am in total agreement with you :)
• Singapore
19 Apr 07
Sure, of course. There is nothing wrong with speaking your mind. It is good to give honest and candid views. Just make sure you are diplomatic and sensitive enough if you don't want others to be annoyed with you. If you don't mind their opinions, why, do whatever you want. Anything. :P
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• Philippines
19 Apr 07
Hi! I believe it is possible though it may take a lot of work. Our family used to live together in one house. There were like 10 of us, parents included. Plus an assortment of cousins and visitors. Fifteen at most living in one house. Well, when minds start speaking up, it's difficult for peace to stay, I tell you. But then someone always manages to calm everyone. We manage living peacefully, most times. I have to agree with Nelltx, it's the manner I think of speaking up. As I used to say to my family, if you want to tell someone off or want to say something that you think might offend some people, do it in a way that the person will love you more for what you have said. I actually try to do that all the time. Sometimes succeeding, sometimes not. But that's life. At least I did my best. Thanks and have a great day
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• United States
19 Apr 07
In answer to this question...well, I am the type of person that doesn't lie, and people can not always handle it.Most people would rather you agreed with them and scratched their backs with comforting remarks that they want to hear.That's not the real world.I believe it's black or white...there is no gray...if you know what I mean.I don't believe in b.s.'ing, that's a waste of my time & theirs.So in answer to your question: Is it possible to live peacefully and speak your mind? Yes & no...it just depends on if people are mature enough & can handle the truth.It's not wrong to be truthful.I would just advise to try to do it tactfully (I have a problem with this myself...because I have been known to just blurt*....lol)
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• United States
21 Apr 07
Gosh...shucks...Thanks for best response...I have really never been rewarded before for being blunt & blurting...lol...just kidding ya...Thank you :)
@Hart57 (359)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I generally avoid discussing emotional topics with people -- especially those I don't know very well. My motto is I'd rather be happy than right. I prefer peace of mind over conflicts. If somebody solicits, my opinion, however, I will definitely offer it. If they get offended by my response, then so be it. If this kind of reaction were to become habitual, then I would cease to offer my advice to the person in the future.
@onabreak2 (1161)
• United States
20 Apr 07
Are you talking about in everyday life or here on my lot. Because if your talking about here there are people that really don't want a truthful answer unless you agree with them. They ask for advice but don't want to hear it. In real life I guess it is the same. But if people don't like you giving them your advice then I don't know why they would continue to ask you for it. It is sometimes a no win situation. Some people are opinionated and feel it their duty to give their opinion when no one really wants to hear it. You mention people generally get mad at your for speaking your mind which maybe means you tell people what you think when they haven't asked. Maybe holding your tongue would be better for you all around..Especially to keep peace.
@gemini1960 (1162)
• Philippines
19 Apr 07
that is very true, you cant really please everyone here on this earth, but it is possible to leave in peace if you just ignore all those people and live your own .Not exactly detached but you have to be neutral to all things or situation that if you can hold your temper.
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
19 Apr 07
Nope, there is absolutely no way youll live peacefully AND speak your mind. I dont mean to burst your bubble dear, but no matter what you say, youll ATLEAST offend one person. You can never make everyone happy.
@yinyang (244)
• India
19 Apr 07
Yeah, i think it is possible. Dear mad friend, :-) , u have to control ur mind first. Then the actions will follow. All the problem is the negative aspects of ur mind. Please go to mysticweb.org . they have a free online course for making a mad really really good.
@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
19 Apr 07
maybe try to speak it in a different way, like "I know what you mean, but..." or "No offense, but.." if it's logical and done the right way, people won't get offended and true, sometimes we do have to keep our opinions to ourselves. Plus there are also people you can't reason with maybe because they are overwhelmingly sensitive people or they are just not in the right mood at the time or even worse they just don't want to give you a chance. Don't lose sleep over these types of people, you know that you are voicing your opinion the right way. if they can't live with it, I guess they shouldn't.
@byfaithonly (10716)
• United States
19 Apr 07
I think it is possible but not very likely. As you said, people will ask your honest opinion but very few people really want the truth, more likely they want a sugar coated version or for you to simply agree with them. I've seen it even here on myLot - start a discussion but rather discuss do what they can to make you look bad for your opinion... Oh well, I say speak the truth and others in the world need to grow up. p.s. I have an ex-spouse who is the same way as yours it sounds.