How to handle a child that wants things there way....
By usmcprincess
@usmcprincess (299)
United States
April 19, 2007 10:35am CST
I have a child, although she is not mine, she has to have everything her way. I have been watching her for a while and I am at the end of my rope. I have tried everything from talking to her and telling her there are rules to getting what she wants to sticking her in timeout. It wouldn't be such a problem if she didn't get physical with everyone who doesn't give in to her "demands", but I don't know what to do to fix this problem. Any advice on how to deal with this?
1 response
@okn0tok (569)
• United States
3 May 07
Never give in to her demands, especially if she is abusive.
Try giving her choices that make her not feel so powerless though.
Also ask for her idea about what she thinks she should do to get what she wants?
Use the.
IF, THEN approach.
IF you do this, THEN you can have this.
or the
WHEN, THEN
WHEN you do this, THEN you can do this.
Stick to it.
Set rules up.
Write them down.
Not to many but basic rules. You can read them and then post them.
When they are broken the punishment must always fit the crime.
Do not take television away for not picking up the toys. You would take the toys away for a day or two ect.
Also, it could be that she needs some counseling.
You can also establish a reward system, keeping a chart or other way of tracking good behavior. When the child sees that they can benefit more from good behavior than bad they will start participating.
Contact a local child therapist about the violent tendencies and make sure something else isn't going on.
Above all else don't shout and always hug them.
