an honest opinion badly needed

Sorry you had to go through that. I think it's really hard. You should try to talk to your boyfriend about that. Tell him how you feel, don't overreact or speak in a loud voice coz he would think you're nagging. But I always think that, what other people thinks doesn't matter. What matters is that you love each other. Maybe your boyfriend does know about how his family doesn't like you and maybe he has talked to them about it but he just couldn't change their minds.

Wow! Overreacting? I don't think so. If I had a boyfriend and he treated me the way you describe, it would be grounds for a break-up! There is no way I would accept that kind of disrespect from anyone, much less the man who is supposed to be the "love" of my life. I think this man obviously does not care very much for you, despite how he may be towards your children. If he loved you he would tell his family they need to treat you with respect and not ignore you because he would know that their behaviour would be upsetting to you and he would care about making you happy. The fact that he*joins* in their behaviour, also ignoring you is very disrespectful and not at all the way I would expect a loving boyfriend to behave. I don't know. Maybe I have different standards but I think there is no way he really loves you. Unless he doesn't have a clue what real love is...and that, sadly is a very distinct possibility. If you love and respect yourself, you cannot (and should not have to) accept that kind of behaviour in your own home no matter who pays the bills. If you are at the relatives' homes and they treat you like that, then I suppose there is nothing you can really do even if you try to complain to your boyfriend, but in your own home, you have a right to be treated with respect and your boyfriend should expect and demand better behaviour from his relatives if he really loves you. I would really like to know what is his excuse for treating you with the same disrespect that the others did...did you call him on his behaviour or did you only complain about his sister? I think they are clearly seeing that your "man" will not stand up for you that's why they know they can get away with anything. You need to stand up for yourself and tell this man that he cannot treat you like that and pretend to love you. If he continues his actions, then you may have to think about getting out of his life or getting him out of yours. He does not deserve you if he cannot show you love and respect.

no you are not over reacting the pain you feel is what I went through with my ex and it does hurt The only advice to you that I can give is top let his family know that you are part of it and the least they could do was except youasa part of the family if nothing more just talk to you I hope that every thing works out for you

Hey you are quite right and you ain't over reacting. I myself am in a relationship and I know how it feels. Sometimes when you are not taken seriously... it really hurts. Sometimes partners start taking you for granted and as they do so they start giving more value to others. Its really difficult to not to act in such situations, and if you really don't act then you will forever be take for granted. But you should always go to it easy and in a loving manner, than a panicing manner. Panicing will always give different visual. So take care on how you approach the matter and show him what value he holds in your life and then show him what was wrong.

Dont let them not see you for a start get in their face say hello put your hand out to be shaken. Ask them if they want a drink something to eat etc. When they start talking be there and put in your opinions. If they are staying state the fact you have changed the beds and put clean sheets on etc. Tell them you are happy to see them etc. If he sees you making all the effort and them not he will probably take a stand. If he dosent then say something to him.