Friends spouses

United States
April 20, 2007 9:25pm CST
has any one ever had a friend that there spouse was just untolerable? my best friends hubby was ok in the beggining but once she started standing on her own two feet and was able to not let him get to her as much he suddenly didnt like it, and for the past 3 months has caused such a rift in my and their family that my hubby said no more and told them the friendship was over. Now me and her can be friends he tells her if that is what she wants but she is afraid to cause conflict in her house and I can understand that too. However it crushes me and its killing her too, but we did tell her if she needed us or anything to let us know or to call we wont abandon her or her kids.
1 response
@avonrep1 (1863)
• United States
21 Apr 07
Not knowing more of the situation it is hard to give advice. But as having have a friend that has had a boyfriend that was very controlling, I got to say you are doing the right thing, by letting her know that you will be there for her and her kids if she needs you. She has to make the decision if her relastionship is worth all she is losing.
• United States
21 Apr 07
it hurts when you see someone suddenly in last two years blossom I mean went back to school despitwe what he thought we had a tshirt business together we watched each others kids etc they had a really rough patch and he demanded to myself a friend and my hubby that we needed to stay away or he would move her away and she has been married 10 years and only had one other friend who ened up murdered. She has aquaintences and neighbors she speaks too but other wise she was all alone and in many aspects so was I. If she wants her marriage to work thats great too I dont want to brak up 10 years but I dont want to see her in her shell again either.....
@avonrep1 (1863)
• United States
21 Apr 07
I had a feeling it was a control issue. That is not good. Most of all it is not good for her kids. It is sad. I hope she can find the strength to stand up to him and on her own if need be. Blessed Be.