It's hard to be the eldest sibling...

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@juliefaye (1214)
Philippines
April 23, 2007 5:01am CST
that when your parents are old and can't handle the situation you tend to be the "heirs" to handle it and find the solutions. Its ok if you don't have your own family to attend to. Sometimes its really hard to stand in-between them as we don't want to hurt anyone and decision or solution to problems should be in a win-win situation. Have you been in a situation where you are being sandwiched by the people you love? What did you do?
4 responses
@Gemmygirl1 (2871)
• Australia
23 Apr 07
I didn't think being the oldest was such a problem, growing up everything was fine & things now are ok except that i have a daughter of my own which means my Mum butts in a little too much but other than that, i haven't found being the oldest to be so hard! I guess it depends on what you mean by this question, my brother & sister aren't that much younger than me so we all handle about the same i guess. The only difference is, i'm the only one with a family of my own & i don't think my Mum likes the idea of that. She loves my daughter but seems to think her spending time with my daughter is more important than my partner & i spending time with our daughter - especially over holidays & special occasions.
@demo3424 (599)
• India
23 Apr 07
it is hard to be a eldest sibling.it is very difficult to hate the one you love that is when your heart ache begins.the time and patience are the only solution.
• India
23 Apr 07
yes it is and i am one. You are always the first to experience anything and its nice that your younger is able to gain knowledge of everything before she/he is into anything.while thats not your case/my case. only by incidences we learn whereas the younger ones are too fortunate to learn from our experiences no doubt wish i ahd been an younger one
@coolmailraj (2461)
• India
23 Apr 07
I am not so old that I should speak when important decissions are being taken and nethier am I the eldest among my brothers and sisters but one thing that I am sure about is that it is not easy to be the smallest either. In my house I am the smallest and when ever one has to say somthing rude it eventually comes to me and I can not do the same.