My baby keeps crying, kicking & doesn't want to drink her milk- whats wrong?

@catcai (1057)
Philippines
April 23, 2007 8:09am CST
Im a first time mom, and I've been having some trouble lately with my newborn, it seems that there are times that shes so irritated- she just cries and cries and kicks her feet, but when i give her her formula, water or breastmilk she doesnt wanna drink it- and i try to cuddle and carry her- but she still cries!, i dont know whats wrong, i change her position in bed, put some pillows, sing to her... but to no luck she's still crying until she gets tired of crying then she dozes off.. I really dont know whats wrong and i dont want her to cry that much because i can see she's in some sort of pain, but it frustrates and hurts me a lot that i cannot do anything about it.. is it Gas? or something? have you experienced this before? If it is gas- how can i deal with it?
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@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
23 Apr 07
You know it could be gas. If you put her on your legs stomach down and bounce her and she stops it probably is. You might want to look in her mouth and make sure she doesn't have thrash. Just look in her mouth and make sure she doesn't have any white. If she does then you need to call the doctor and take her in.
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
hi, what do you mean white? like milk residues? thanks for responding by the way... =)
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• United States
24 Apr 07
It could be thrush-the white in the mouth
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@kooora (116)
• India
23 Apr 07
may be your kid doesnt like milk ... certain kids do have problems in digetion of milk so they hesitate to drink it .may be its better for you to consult a docter .and if thats the problem then special milk are available in market
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• United States
24 Apr 07
That is true it could be an allergy to milk...so consulting your doctor would be the best.
@magikrose (5426)
• United States
23 Apr 07
1 way to tell if it is gas is when she is crying and when she is kicking if she curles up in a ball then kicks her feet out then it is definately gas. The worst thing you can do is offer more to drink. That will only give her more gas. Try burping her while holding her upright, then try putting her on her belly on your lap and patting her back that way. I have enen placed my kids face down and cradeled them on my arm and patted there backs that way. If those dont work you might want to get the infant gas drops. If all else fails she may have acid reflux and you should take her to her doctor. Hope this helps.
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
oh my, when she does that, i usually give her more milk...sometimes she calms down , but most of the time she cries the worst. Thank you for telling me its the worst i can do- by the way, how can i tell if its acid reflux? does she tend to spit out the milk? thanks in advance.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
23 Apr 07
Take her to the pediatrician and see if she has reflux, this can cause a lot of pain. If it's gas, try some mylicon. If it's colic, try gripe water. Sometimes my son had a lot of gas built up, I'd lay him on his back and make his legs go like he's riding a bike, peddling them towards his chest. After a bit, he'd fart like an old man!
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@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
I will try to to this! thanks for this advice! happy postings! =)
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@wachit14 (3603)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I have included a link to a PDF file which has some great information about how to deal with just such a problem. I am guessing that it might be colic in which case there are a number of ways to deal with that. If it's just gas though, there are other things you can do and you really need to discuss this with your pediatrician to make sure that there isn't any other underlying reason for her discomfort. Good luck: http://www.fha.state.md.us/mch/pdf/When_Your_Baby_wont_Stop_Crying.pdf
@catcai (1057)
• Philippines
23 Apr 07
Thank you so much for this link! i really appreciate it! thanks for the response! have a great day!
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@ktwags (51)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I agree with alot of these mother's on here, it could be any of these things or even colic. Try hyland's cammomile until you can take your baby to the doctor, it will calm your baby down and if it is reflux ,gas, colic,or any thing else it should settle the little one down enough to eat or go to sleep. Also don't be afraid to ask someone to come over and help you , babies can sense if your tense and sometimes someone calm coming in and holding the baby will settle them and you down enough to sleep(I found this out with all three of my kids).
• United States
23 Apr 07
Definitely check out the suggestions you've gotten here so far about gas etc... But, you are aware that babies also have a fussy period sometime during the day. It is a way for them to get rid of some of their excess energy and usually occurs around the same time every day.
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@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
It sounds like it could be colic. My son had it when he was a baby too. It doesn't matter what you do for them they just cry and fuss...However...you need to take her to the doctor/pediatrician and discuss her behaviour with him or her...and get a diagnosis...
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@mummymo (23709)
23 Apr 07
Well catcai My personal opinion would be colic - both of my kids suffered from this and one in particular was really bad with it! _ I was going to send you a link to a website I found but I see others have already done this so I just wanted to let you know that I hope your lovely little girl is doing much better now! xxxx
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• Canada
23 Apr 07
It sounds to me like it's Colic. My sisters son suffered from it too. It's a very common thing, and unfortunately, there isn't too too much you can do to try and soothe your child. The good news is that it usually wears off by the time they're three or four months old. http://www.cfpc.ca/English/cfpc/programs/patient%20education/colic/default.asp?s=1 The important thing to remember is that it isn't your fault. Try not to worry too much, it does wear off, although it's a very trying time without a doubt. To be sure though, you should take your baby to the Doctor. He/she will have a better idea of what it is and will be able to give you a proper diagnosis.
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@raven9595 (101)
• United States
23 Apr 07
It is probably acid reflux, ask your doctor for Baby Tagament. My son had it and the medicine helpd tremendously. Also, you can try Mylicon (spelling?) that should help if it is due to gas.
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@Mamaof2 (574)
• Canada
23 Apr 07
Defanatley sounds like something is wrong! I would suggest taking her to the doc...at least you will know and you can feel better about it. If she isnt drinking very much as well...that is cause for concern! I would say that it sounds like something is wrong with her stomach. Maybe gas or an intollerance to what she is drinking. Another member mentioned thrush as well...that is a possibility. Please take her to the docters. They can tell you what is wrong and also tell you what to do with her to make her more comfortable!!!
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• United States
23 Apr 07
I agree with the response from mememama, it could be reflux. My child suffers from severe reflux and has to be medicated and was placed on a special formula. That is the way he acted before being diagnosed. If you notice that she is arching her back and turning her head to the right then it probably is reflux. There are a number of things that it could be, it's hard when they can't tell you how they feel, and it's frustrating. Just remember that as long as she's safe in a crib, etc.. that it's okay to let her cry so why walk away for a few minutes and take a breather.. I would take her to the pediatrician, as we aren't doctors and can only offer opinions and advice. Good luck and I hope you get the answers you need, so you both can be happy and enjoy your time bonding and not pacing the floor. Congratulations on the new baby.
• United States
23 Apr 07
My friend had this problem with her baby. Sometimes it was gas which was relieved with the bicycling of the legs or some gas drops. Sometimes I would have to put her in a front carrier and walk the hallways with her untill she fell asleep. I did this for her mom because she had just had a c-section. I would call your doctor during regular hours and see if what they suggest. I hope you get this problem solved soon hon! Good luck!
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@mnflower (1306)
• United States
23 Apr 07
I would seriously think about getting your child to the doctor for a checkup it could be something that you just can't cure at home. I could be jandus which is comin in newborns.I would at least call your nurse and talk to her, she may be able to tell you something that she can do.
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
After feeding her, you burp her. That should be always, burping after drinking milk. It might ease her if you caressingly pat her back, belly, and wherever. While patting, listen to unusual sounds - somehow there's air or vacuum inside and concentrate patting on that place until the sound disappears. Carry her and embrace her letting her feel that she's well protected and dance while singing. Talk to her lovingly even if she does not understand yet to let her know you're there. Babies are helpless and their only weapon is their cries. Discover what makes her cry and give remedies to the problem. May be she doesn't like pampers, etc.
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• Indonesia
24 Apr 07
play some music and dance infront of ur baby! that could help too.. make some jokes. i know she just a baby . but iam sure that baby likes joke . that can make her smile and laugh. go try it. good luck :-)
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@tim_un (355)
• Malaysia
24 Apr 07
Hello catcai, i have no experience to take care baby, but i have seen how my sister or friends take care their baby. Sometime baby cry when they feeling "NOT Comfortable", for example if their stomache, or they hungry, or they want to sleep ,or they want to pee. You need to fulfill the baby's NEED, so that he/she dont cry anymore.
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24 Apr 07
As a first time mom, for sure u will be frustrated and confused by lots of troubles with your baby. Even if they're in sort of pain, they are not able to tell you why and where... It's hard to take care babies. It's better for you to take her to the hospital and have a body check. Don't be upset and frustrated, every mom have her first time~
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@alchemistrx (2606)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
Maybe she's having lactose intolerance with her milk. Just check it up with your pediatrician.
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