How to deal with the suicide of a loved one...

United States
April 23, 2007 12:01pm CST
With my ex fiance's suicide, I was so distraut. I HAD to find a way to cope. Here are some of the ways I have used to cope. Let's say you're spouse, child, parent, friend, or another person close to you has just committed suicide. What can you do to make yourself get through each day? It will still be hard, but there are some things you can do to help yourself, in the short run and the long term. Know that this person had a mental issue. Even though it may not feel this way, force yourself to remember that your friend did not die to "get rid" of you. They felt they needed to die to get away from themselves, not you. If there was a suicide note, you might want to think about it when you feel they 'did' something to you. Talk to others who knew the person, or others who have experienced the same thing. Strength can be found in numbers. The key is to talk about it and get every emotion -- sadness, anger, and others -- off your chest. While your desire will be to stay strong, it is OK to cry. Remember that someone died. It is natural to grieve them just as you would anyone else. The fact that they committed suicide is just an extra factor to your bereavement. As you slowly come out of the darkness, try to start remembering the good times you had. At first, this will seem to plunge you back into despair and grief. But as time passes, you will look back on these times with some sadness, but happiness too. Have you ever had to deal with the suicide of a loved one? Like I have said, I have and I know how hard it can be to heal. How have you managed to cope?
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@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
23 Apr 07
That is the most wonderful thing I have ever seen on here. You are so strong and such a wonderful person for sharing this with all of us. Thank you so much I cannot tell you how proud I am of you. You are really a beautiful person. I know this does not answer your question but you moved me with this and I just needed to let you know that. Again thank you.