When enough is enough? What are the signs that it's the end?

Philippines
April 24, 2007 9:03am CST
when do you say enough is enough in a relationship? what are the sure signs that it's really the end of it all?
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• United States
24 Apr 07
I began seeing the beginning of the end about three weeks ago. The same things were happening and he couldn't see his responsibility in the problems we were having. Finally, he pulled his fist back to hit me, then threatened to kill me. I knew enough was enough. I quietly packed my belongings over the weekend, and when he left for work on Monday, I packed my vehicle and left. Yesterday, I drove for 7 hours and put two states between us. I don't think he knows where I am, but if he finds out, and he shows up, enough people, locally, know the situation and will come running. Kentucky justice can be fulfilling.
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• Philippines
25 Apr 07
in your case, i even uphold for what you did. the exhilarating freedom will be well worth it once you are released from the excruciating prison of an unhealthy relationship. always keep in mind: When someone makes you feel ugly and unneeded, say goodbye to him immediately and close the chapter and open a new one!
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
when you feel that the respect is gone, you feel trampled upon. if this is how it feels in a relationship, it is best to end it up. you did it right, artistmel, i know that when things like this happened to me, there was no possibility at all of a make up, ever.
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• United States
27 Apr 07
I think a lot of people tend to call it "quits" before they put real efforts into a relationship, especially a marriage. I think there are different levels that are appropriate for giving up a relationship. First off, there's a difference if you're just "dating or boyfriend/girlfriend" and "married or husband/wife". Marriage vows mean that you've made a strong committment to God to create a relationship. This means through good and bad, tough and easy. A relationship with boyfriend/girlfriend is different. That is a preface for building up to the marriage and while it takes efforts and time to build, it's also something that SHOULD be walked away from if you've found yourselves or even just yourself and not your partner, being unhappy more then happy. If abuse is involved it's a given that in either case you should walk away. That doesn't mean permanently if you can work to stop the abuse but nobody should live a life of abuse. I'd say when your unhappy moments outweigh your happy ones you know it's over, especially if you've attempted to make it work over and over again to find that happiness you once had. I used to say that the minute I no longer looked forward to hearing his car come in the driveway I knew our marriage was over but tried over and over to keep it going. Unfortunately my marriage became abusive to both me and the children so I walked out, as I think everyone should when abuse takes over. But I really do think that the truth came to me when I realized I no longer looked forward to him pulling in the drive. My stomach no longer did flips in anticipation to see him. I knew then that things simply were not the same.
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
married for several years and had kids grown up would be a more difficult situation to handle as compared with other kinds of relationships. many things have to be considered. but the bottom line is that relationships marred by abuses and devoid of concern or sympathy and if attempts to make things work fail, anyone (be it a woman or a man) has to make a final stand...call it "quits".
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
it just so happens that the feeling is finally gone at last. this happens after so many times that the guy has intentionally crossed me, disrespected me, and treated me badly. there are some men who disregard the feelings of women or they make some women hurt with words uttered without care. maybe it is because, they start to take women for granted after having been into the relationship for sometime. this is a bad sign for me. it means that if we go on, the man will not respect me after all.
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
mostly who answered in this discussion, as you noticed are women. and everybody is pointing their fingers to men or husbands as the real culprit, forgetting that they,too, have their inadequacies. i supposed the relationship should be a two-way process, a give and take arrangement and a mutual cooperation. and to think that not only women are being abused but also men. but the bottomline here is WHOEVER was used, abused, became unhappy and lonely must take a decisive stance and say ENOUGH is ENOUGH, it's time to move on.
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
so simple, when love is lost and when patience had gone up to the ceiling, and when chances and considerations had been given and still became futile, then enoug is enough. Dont let the situation becomes worst.
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• Philippines
27 Apr 07
i think this applies to both men and women who are in a relationship. while it it true that women are mostly affected by this kind of intricate relationship, there are also men who suffered and were hurt by women and finally leaving their partners.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
When the relationship you have is no longer healthy for the both of you. A relationship is supposed to be healthy if you make each other happy and if the other gives out the best of the other and vice versa. It's not supposed to be destructive, It it already came to a point where you no longer feel happy and you feel like you have become a better person because you are being loved, then it is time to end the relationship.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
if one or both of you aren't quite getting your needs met anymore,'though it is a painful and upsetting experience for both, don't let a relationship take over your whole world, when you know the best thing to do is walk away.
@subha12 (18462)
• India
26 Apr 07
when there is the problem happening again and again. also when both of u understand u are hiding something from each other. also it is the case that u understand on ur own. Also when u get fight very often.
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• Philippines
26 Apr 07
yeah, i may say that these are some of the signs of unhappy relationships.
@cybrsef (19)
• Philippines
24 Apr 07
i've been asking that question many times to myself.. sometimes i've been telling other people that i've had enough and that will be the very last time i would do that but as long as i love that person for as long as that individual is in my world, i cannot say that enough is really enough.. but u know what?? for as long as u gave everything, u sacrifice that much and u gave all ur best to make things work.. it's enough.. coz one day u'll realized that ur selfless and worthy to be loved.. one day u'll wake up and u feel like ur free.. free of obligation, free of pain and free of everything.. that ur not that person u used to be.. coz even a good day have their own sunsets..
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• Philippines
25 Apr 07
Where is love after all if one is always hurt? you have sacrificed and gave all the best you can to make things work, yet you have a growing feeling of frustration, inadequacy, and emptiness and you get down in self-pity and your self-esteem crumbles down because of the person you "loved". Ending a relationship is never easy; it always hurts especially for the one being dumped or rejected. But when staying in it causes more pain than joy, it is time to take a decisive stance. Make your mind up when enough is enough.
• China
27 Apr 07
I think that Long live understanding