Are you the Insecure Type?
By Tsferrets
@Tsferrets (421)
United States
April 24, 2007 10:48pm CST
I am a people watcher. I can tell the ones that are in-secure. They are clingy, you'll find them standing outside the restroom while there mate uses it, instead of finding a place to sit down and wait. You know what I mean? All the times I've gone to amusement parks I've seen tons of the in-secure. I can watch people for hours. Do you want to be with your other half or friend all the time? Do you get affended when they want to do things with someone else instead of you? I love my alone time. I get tired of people around all the time, even my husband sometimes. I tell him that I stay up later then him because that is my alone time. After twenty years he finally excepts it. I mean its not an every night thing just a once in awhile thing when I feel like I need quite time by myself. Do you? Is your mate/friend the clingy kind? Does it drive you nuts sometimes?
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11 responses
@angelofdeath (345)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
no, im not. actually i really dont understand why some people get's so insecure with other people. can't they appreciate theirselves? it's such a pathetic human trait. i think these kinds of people lack tyhe viture of self-esteem and self-appreciation. they value self-deprecation so much.
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@Suzika101 (69)
• United States
26 Apr 07
Sometimes. I am the oldest of six girls, had my children young and am the type who likes to have people around me all the time. Now that I have empty nest it is good that I teach, but that is draining sometimes. When I finally get to spend time with my man I want attention. If I don't get it I do get insecure. He is more introverted and quiet. I am learning though and have lots of interests that keep me busy. The longer we are together the more secure I am.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I am 100% NOT insecure. Insecure people make me nervous. They make me feel guilty if I am not constantly trying to bolster their egos or self esteem. I know it is not very nice of me but I usually try to avoid them
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@candiec2005 (828)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I am not clingy and neither is my boyfriend but we both do have some insecurities. I think everyone has some sort of insecurity, whether they realize it or not. But because I am insecure in some areas, it does not mean I am clingy because I definitely am not. I enjoy having time alone too.
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@kitkat1 (1227)
• Canada
25 Apr 07
I dont find myself to be insecure at all. I am a loner so i really dont get offended if a friend chooses to do something with someone other than me i actually welcome it because i require a lot of me time and time to be a mom to my three kids as well. I like being with other but i dont cling to others like i am needy i dont like coming off that way to anyone. I do have a rather clingy friend but i have learned some skills to make her not so clingy and she dont even notice so that is good dont have to worry about offending her right. And i can drive me nuts.
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@lightningMD (5931)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I am not insecure. I do wait outside the bathroom though because my husband says wait here. If he says go find a seat then that is what I do. My husband and I live in a D/s relationship. As the submissive I do as I am told. I go to bed when told.I wear what he tells me to wear. I very rarely ever go anywhere without him. But I am secure in myself If something was to happen to him tomorrow I know that although I would be devastated I would be able to take care of myself and my family. I get my alone time while he is at work and our daughter is at school. We almost always go to bed within minutes of each other.
@TerryZ (22076)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Hi Tsferrets I like my alone time too. And Im a people watcher also. Sometimes my girlfriend and I will sit somewhere for hours and just watch people go buy and we talk about them.LOL We dont say anything bad.LOL I agree with you on people being in-secure you can really tell if a person is by just observing them. Im glad somebody else is a people watcher too.
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@Willowlady (10658)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I am pretty comfortable inside myself and also watch people. I have a girlfriend that is so much better now that I have positized her. We have so much much fun normally. However, now she is the strong one since our housefire she has gotten busy and is organizing some help and trying to help us get back on our feet to just live day to day. I don't know what I would do without her since lately I have been walking wounded and not quite so outgoing. I don't have the problem when my friends have something else to do besides run with me. My online friends also have lives of their own and so therefore don't always have time to respond to my email right away. Tis ok, we are adults and it all works out. Communication is the key, people can learn and relationships can be nurtured. Good luck with all of your interpersonal relationships.
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@zjenikka (292)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
I for one is not an insecure type of person but my bestfriend's boyfriend is such a headache... Goodness!!!! HE is always with her, guarding her.. my friend would sometimes confide to me that she hates it but the guy keeps on clinging on her.. I am very irritated already....
@laiza14 (593)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
wel im pretty much happy for the change i have made for myself now.. before im the insecure type, because i see many perfect humans.. but know ive came to realize that we should all be happy and contented for what we have.. :)
@moonlitpriest (293)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
not my friend, but me, I just have a lot of insecurities, when I walk in the crowd, my head is down. when someone get near to me, I froze!, this is not nervousness, because I wasn't nervous at all. I don't know! I just love to learn to increase my self esteem, but I don't know how!
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