Is being bullied part of growing up or a crime.

United States
April 25, 2007 8:32am CST
It's another Monday. You really don't want to go to work but you are an adult so you get on with your day. In the parking lot the person in the car next to you gets out and spits on your car then laughs and walks away. You go in and open up your locker only to find someones old lunch in there. At your desk your neighbor pushes you off of your chair. Finally you go tell your boss. He says "fight back, they're just jealous, find a new job." What would you do? I know I would be speaking to a lawyer at least. Why then do we expect our children to deal with this daily behavior at school? Is this just part of growing up? Tell me what you think.
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
25 Apr 07
Bullying, no matter the age, is a crime. If an adult does something like spit on your car, it's a form of vandalism. If someone goes into your locker and takes things or even puts things in there, it's breaking and entering. If they push you off your chair, it's assualt. Yet, when children do the same things, most parents and teachers say "they are just being kids". No, they are committing crimes. They should be punished. I am not saying put the kids in jail, but there should be consequences for picking on each other. Growing up, my teachers didn't tolerate bullying of any kind. You got sent to the principal's office, your parents were called and then the REAL punishment started. These days bullying goes to whole new levels and it can get really scary. I think parents and teachers need to work together to stop it.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
You are so right. We need to work together on this. The only thing stopping us are parents. They don't belive their child is a bully or don't care. Then they are the ones to threaten to sue the schools. When we actually make it a crime that is punishable with more then detention or a phone call to the folks, then people will stop. Hit them where it hurts, give the parents a ticket. Losing money always gets people's attention.
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@vokey9472 (1489)
• United States
25 Apr 07
One thing I have noticed is that the parents who say that kids are just being kids were usually the mean kids or bullies themselves when they were in school. They think it is funny or they say stuff like "well, tell your kid to fight back". Why not tell your kid to stop being a bully? Some parents are just blind to the whole situation as long as it's not THEIR child being picked on. As soon as it is their kid that is being bullied, they have plenty to say about stopping it and things like that. Those parents should have been teaching their kids to be nice to everyone from the very beginning.
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• United States
25 Apr 07
I meet one of my bullys a few years ago. She was working at the service desk of a grocery store. She actually greeted me as if we were long lost friends. I wanted to do many things but simply did my business without being friendly. I just wasn't capable of it. These people abuse you for years and it's nothing to them.
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@uath13 (8207)
• United States
25 Apr 07
You don't act that way as an adult because you learned how to stand up for yourself as a kid. If it was completely taken away we'd have a generation of weak-dossil kids who would grow up to be weak willed submissive adults that could be pushed around. The first time a bully of an adult showed up they'd all run like rabbits or just give in. All this prevention is creating nothing but drama queens. I was the little kid that got picked on. Eventually I learned how to stand up for myself and corrected the attitudes of many of the local bullies. Its part of what made me the tough confident person I am now.
• United States
25 Apr 07
I was a kid that got picked on. I stood up for myself and got suspended for a week. People who belive this are part of the problem. What happens when your child comes home every day with torn clothes, or ripped books or a black eye? You will just tell them to stand up for themselves? Preventing abuse is not making weak children. Being thrown in the water is not the best way to learn to swim. You should NOT have to learn to protect yourself from abuse. You will not run into an adult bully at all if they are shown when children that it is not acceptable. It is the same as being an abused wife. Should she have to learn to protect herself from abusive men?
@uath13 (8207)
• United States
25 Apr 07
You don't just throw them in, You take the time to teach them. Thats "your" responsability. Your not going to be able to fix all the deranged criminals out there so why not prepare yourself and your kids to deal with them? As for your argument about the abused wife, YES she should. An abusive relationship dosen't just happen. There are warning signs all the way through. If she'd have been more prepared she could have prevented it sooner or avoided it all together. Its not just the ability to fight, its the ability to recognize and deal with the situation. In nature your either predator , prey or capable enough of defending yourself to be neither. In humankind its the same way. Predators look for the weak, unprepared , unallert and submissive. If your well prepared your none of these and therefore not the easy target predators are looking for. You can't shield your kids all the time. You also can't fix how other people raise their kids. When you can be the parent of a whole generation and make sure they ALL grow up right then it might be a posibility , but thats not going to happen. P.S. Might dosen't make right - keeping it in check however keeps things fair. The bullies don't want to fight if there's a risk of damage to themselves.