I am tired of feeling Alone!
By mostlysunny
@mostlysunny (21)
United States
April 25, 2007 9:14am CST
I am married with two kids however my hubby is gone a lot with job and all of the family stuff lies on me. If there were not so much going wrong lately maybe I wouldnt fee this waybut I am so tired of dealing with it al by myself. The finances, the school stuff, attending the school functions alone, hearing my son constantly say I wish daddy was here. Dealing with te day in and day out things and even bed time fights and trying to get them in bed. If I was single and new I had to do it all maybe I would be more accepting of the situation but I am not ...I am supposedly married but sem to be missing my partner...I have expressed my frustrations with him and the need for more support but I honestly feel that he just doesn't get i t or chooses not to do anything. Sometimres I fee like the only adult around here. Anyone else out there deal wit hthis stuff?
3 responses
@Akeela (2078)
• Trinidad And Tobago
25 Apr 07
What is his occupation is he paying for these things by chance dont get me wrong here because i feel you pain but these are the things mrn take into consideration was I put food on the table what is she complaining about and it pisses me off when the say that. Anyway to add spice to your relationship tex him or call him and just say I love you or how he's doing in a pleasant tone even if it hurts. Pray it helps St.jude and patience asked God for what you want and be patient....
@mostlysunny (21)
• United States
25 Apr 07
He has a good paying job and all of his expenses are covered by the company (no out of pocket expense) but we have accrued some medical and other bills that have come to a head and have almost made things completely unbearable. I know that if I want change it has to start with me but on the other hand I have been making strides for a while and finally want to be reciprocated ..I guess i am a little bitter
@Akeela (2078)
• Trinidad And Tobago
25 Apr 07
no, not really your human you like to feel cuddle and loved and not love and stressed but one day he wouldnt have to work overseas and you'll be a family agin and sometimes you might wish he was back there it's life . I have one child and I need help so far less for you. So for now if you child is old enough to reach the sink introduce chores or teach them in the mean time. Someone told me when the are overseas and their wife is only complain makes them feels like what the point so once in a while just call to say babes love and how you do.. Good luck to you and take care...
@papinprincess (40)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I had this feeling two years ago when my husband was always at work we started to argue but not bad I told him I was a single mom before we got married and had a child together and I thought I should go back to one and we just date because that is what it felt like we were doing. After seeing the son we had together had learned so much and he had missed out on it, also seeing that the son that he helped me raise getting more knowledge and him not knowing when they learned and also after expressing my feelings above more than once he got it he took a big pay cut and we struggled for a while but it was all worth it so that I have some support to do things around here especially with two boys and after that test I think our love is stronger than ever.
@moodycow (42)
• United States
25 Apr 07
I know how you feel. My hubby works a least a 12 hour day 5, sometimes 6 or 7days a week. Our daughter will be a year old next Tue so I'm not having to deal with the same stuff you are. We just moved to a different state and I don't have any friends here. I spend all day with someone who can't carry on a conversation with me and I can't wait for my hubby to get home every night. When he finally gets home, I'm usually in a pissy mood after dealing with my cranky baby and having to put her to bed without her seeing her daddy. Then I have to compete with the tv and computer when he is home and I usually lose. I feel like I don't have a husband, but more like I have a roomate for a few hours a night. I keep telling him I never thought I'd be a single mom and I'm not enjoying it. He's in the military so he can't do anything about his hours and we have great benefits and he makes good money so I feel bad complaining about his job. I knew when we moved here that he would be working long hours, but I guess I wasn't ready emotionally. I don't know if I can take three years of this without going completely over the edge.
