Jealousy

@s_bala (75)
India
April 25, 2007 1:36pm CST
My gf is extremely jealous. She does not like me talking to any girl. If she comes to know that I was speaking to a girl then she thinks that I love that girl and not her. She does not trust me at all. I am frustrated and feel like breaking up. What should I do?
6 responses
@zjenikka (292)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
Does your gf knows that you feel frustrated already and you feel like breaking up? Talk to her and tell her what you want and what you need to tell her...Maybe she is not aware that she had hurt you already... Maybe she just needs to be alerted that she has to do something about her attitude. It is just a matter of communication. Talk to her please if you really want to save the relationship.
@zing_i (269)
• United States
25 Apr 07
i guess every girl to some extend is jelous of her man talking to other girls, and i guess somewhere down the line she feels this cause shes insecure about the relationship and does not feel that u completely love her or are open about everything, if u share with her everything and are open with her then she will never feel insecure about anything
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
25 Apr 07
The question is do you love your gf? I mean, if your feelings for her are not strong enough that her jealousy frustrates you and makes you feel like breaking up, then go ahead! Jealousy is a normal feeling. I am a jealous person too. Every now and then, i get jealous about girls around who even just take a glimpse at my fiance. But he knows this. He is aware that I feel this way, and since he loves me very much, he wants me to feel secured about our relationship. He doesn't want me to feel hurt or upset about anything. He avoids doing anything that may hurt my feelings. And that feeling is mutual between us. I know he gets jealous too, at times, but I do my best to avoid situations that can arise jealousy between us. Love Jealousy is a shallow reason for breaking up with a person. True love is a give and take thing. If you truly love someone, you will want her to be happy in your relationship, just as she would want you to be happy in your relationship with her.
• United States
25 Apr 07
Well for one how long have you two been dating. to me that is always a factor. because if you two have a nice amount of time built up then you should truley try to work things out. A relationship is based of of trust with out it you have nothing. maybe you should let her know that her jealousy is causing problems and if she can't be more secure then maybe we need a breif break to figure out if this is really what you want to do. but remember relationships is a struggle... its not suppose to be pleasent all the time... GOOD LUCK :o)
• Malaysia
25 Apr 07
this is just simply some kind of jealousy.. you don't have to feel frustrated and break up... why not you hava nice talk with her? telling her how you felt.. don't keep it too yourself.. you do love her right? and.. first of all, let me ask you.. without jealousy.. is there any caring and love? i think jealousy is also part of caring.. if your gf didn't love you.. why would she be bothered to jealous of the girl talking to you? ever try thinking of it? erm.. yes.. i do agree.. she seems like lack of trust towards you.. but.. it takes time my friend.. you just have to explain to her.. and if she don't understand it.. .. i think it's best you settle it in a nice way.. don't be harsh to her =)
@gasmas100 (585)
• India
25 Apr 07
well, its funny as i too had this one girl who was quite jealous if i spoke to anotehr woman. its fun as u know she really loves u.its bit of insecurity, dont break up-youll regret it.........but make her feel loved mate.