Are You Her ,,Er..Umm...Mother??

It does seem kinda weird but I would definitly take it as a compliment. I am 35 years old with four kids and I get stares and remarks as well. People tell me I look 25 and cant believe I have four kids. I smile and tell them thank you and go about my business. So enjoy the compliments and think about how young you will look when your fifty.

Being 19 & having a baby isn't so bad you know, i know plenty of others who have had kids younger than that - my sister in law, for example - even though one of her pregnancies was twins, she'll be having her 4th by C Section on her 22 birthday. You might be young looking too - like, not looking 25! I am a little confused though, your schooling systems must be pretty different to ours here in Australia. A 6 year old would be in Grade 1 here - reception (introduction the primary school) is age 5 & we have kids aged 4-5 in Kindergarten, isn't that odd? I guess some people are still a little old fashioned with what's an acceptable age to have kids. I'd just ignore it but still, it is a compliment if they think you look younger than 25!

I can understand how frustrating that would be. You deserve every bit of respect as their mother you would if you were 35. Judging by your profile picture, you also look young for your age so that probably makes the situation worse. They might take you for 22 on first glance. Y'know? But regardless, it's frustrating to not be taken seriously. Coming up on 24, I still have people who call me "sweetie" and pat me on the head. What the hell?

I think you should just take as a compliment and move on. You know, because your daughter at 19 which is a bit young to have a baby but that's ok since you felt that you were mature enough to take care of your child. One of my cousin sister is 30 and she has a 12 year old boy so she also gets the kind of reactions you get but she says she has gotten used to it.

I get this alot too, especially when I was pregnant. For some reason I look pretty young. I was 21 when I was pregnant with my son and people thought I was 15 and I was 27 years old when I was pregnant with my daughter and I had people thinking I was 21! I got dirty looks and stuff. It bothered me at first, because I wanted to look my age at least. But as I got older, I started to appreciate that people thought I was younger, even if they didn't express themselves very well.

You should definitely take it as a compliment. I know it was probably an awkward moment, but probably more so for the teacher's aid, she probably just didn't know how to respond when you said yes. Years from now, you'll appreciate that moment even more. I still get the comments, that I don't look old enough to have a son 18, much less a daughter that's 22. Be proud that you look so young. Your daughter probably likes it too, they like it when they get attention from others about their mommy, my daughter used too. She doesn't so much now, because when they say we look like sisters, I always tease that she looks old.

I know what you mean. I had my first child in high shool and I get that a lot. She is ten now. I don't mind when it comes to kids but grown ups should know better. I was the first to know that I was young when I had my child. Still I just smile and let it go. Best wishes :)

Take it as a compliment. It means you don't look your age at all and she's used to seeing older looking parents. Who cares what others think about if you're too young or too old to have your children? It's not their choice! So just take it for the good of it and say thanks... I do look damn good don't I? LOL

Believe me I do understand. My sister and I are only 6 years a part, she's older then me. However when her daughter was younger many people thought I was her mother and that my sister was my mother. That we were grandmother, mother and daughter. My sister wasn't too happy about that at all. I found it funny most times but I do agree it can get a bit irritating at times. I've been taken anywhere from 18 to 30, depending on the person seeing me.

Hey..thats not a big thing to have kids at 25..! c'mon..! Atleast your not doing somehting illeagle or something like that..!huh.! Just stay confident..! and happy! People always have to say something ..! About EVERYTHING ..! mind it.!!

maybe it was not her intention to make you feel that way. i think she was having thoughts because if you are not the mother, you might be offended if she asked you directly if you're the mother. it would also be rude for her to call you the mother when in fact youre the older sister, right? if i would be in that scenario, i'd be more flattered because they mistook me as an older sister. because i know that i look younger than my actual age :) take it as a complimentary so that you won't feel bad about it.

You are right, there are 2 sides on that coin toss. Some would take it as a compliment because of how they look younger to other people. But you chose the more logical side the side where you assumed the teacher's aid thought you are a young mom. But then it seems like a compliment to me because not all family have kids with 6-25 years gap do they? So she must have thought you were 18-19. I'm 30 and everytime i go to casinos Guards always ask for my identification, I hate it but then I'm happy they did.

LOL. I understand that she thought she was complimenting you, but heck, as a TA, she should know better than to ask questions like that. I have been told I don't look old enough to be a mother before too, and to be honest, I found it embarrassing at times. I remember when my daughter was about a year old. I was stood at the bus stop waiting for my sister off the bus. An old couple were there too and the lady was smiling down at my daughter. Then they started making the little noises that they do, and before I knew it, they were talking to her. Then I hear the lady say "Are you waiting for your mommy?" and I couldn't hold back. I said politely "Excuse me, I'M her Momma!" They couldn't believe it, and of course I got the standard "How old are you anyway" question. I don't mind when people compliment me, but when they start implying that I'm too young to have children, it pi$$es me off.

This is happening every where. You must be looking too young. Therefore people are forced to think you are baby site or siter or mother etc., Do not give much importance. This sort of misconception is every where.

I think people use their mouths before they use their brains. There might have been a legitimate reason for her to ask that, but she did it in all the wrong way. I work in schools, and I see lots of young mothers on a regular basis. I also see moms who look like grandmas. Because I do not want to totally look like a fool, I do not ask questions that way. I would do something more like this "Hi, my name is Suzy Sunshine, I work in Lulabelle's classroom as a teacher's aid. It is so nice to meet you________________, as I extend my hand, then they almost automatically feel like they have to respond "I am Marybelle, Lulabelle's Mom" They answer the question I never had to ask.Lucky you to look so young.

Umm, I'm 24 and my daughter is 4 and in 3 months will be 5. You were not that young when you had her. If you were like 19 right now and had a 6 year old then I could see why people would say something. But that is all beside the point. Either way, it's your business and nobody else. If I were you, I would just take it as something good. :) Maybe the teacher didn't mean it that way? And who knows, maybe there are other parents in your kids class that are the same age, but just look old. :) I know in my daughters class in Pre-K all the mothers are around my age, some look like they are 30 and some look like they are 16. :) Just hope and pray you get this 10 years from now.. LOL!

I am 26 and have a 4 1/2 year old, and I have often been mistaken for the babysitter, especially because I am light skinne and blonde, while my son is racially mixed and therefore have dark hair and medium skin. I have come to the conclusion that it is better to take it as a compliment, and make it add to my pleasures of the day, instead of agonizing over this kind of comments. I am sure that you are proud to be a young mom - you definitely should be!

I look younger than I am too and I used to get it all the time when I was in my early 20's. Don't worry it will catch up to you. Look on the bright side it could be the other way around. My father was 50 + when I was born and he use to get in that your granddaughter and I use to get is that your grandpa.

i were you, i'd take it as a compliment. if what's bothering you is that they might think that you are too young to be a responsible mother, then dont mind them. they're wrong, as far as i could tell you are responsible enough that you go to your daughter's school to pick her up when some mother would just ask someone to pick their daughter up because they wont bother. so just take it as a compliment.

my friend's mother also very young.. son is younger than mother 17 years old only.. what happends to thier family was, they both play PS together, go shopping together.. everyone say they are just like brother and sister.. and they are also happy to hear this..