Rewards

@Modestah (11192)
United States
April 26, 2007 5:24pm CST
How do you reward you children for having done a good job at a task, their success or good behaviors? Usually mine will just get a big ole hug and a kiss and a word of gratitude. I mean, I expect that they should always do what is their duty and not get special awards for it all the time. On occasion (especially if they done something extraordinary and not required of them) I will take them to the park or out for a malt. It is easier to do that when they have been getting along well - if they have been bickering I do not bother.
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@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
27 Apr 07
We usually do the same thing. Sometimes he will get something he wants...like clothes or new shoes...etc. His dad may take him to see a movie...usually action....so I stay home and let them have there fun...as I am not much for movies...
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@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
27 Apr 07
It depends upon what they have done. Pickup there room...pat on the back Clean up after themselves...pat on the back Do something not expected without me asking...an atta girl/boy with extra priviledge extended (extra 15 minutes of staying up etc.) Take extra measure to ensure something is completed, so that I don't have to do it (special Mommy time...like lunch at Mickey D's) Bringing home A's...Expected. I know that they can do it and anything less would just be not like them. I do however, take them to a special place everytime they get their report cards. Lately that place is am indoor race track and lazer tag! THEY ABSOLUTELY LOVE IT! More important though...I expect them to treat each other with respect. Any bickering and all rewards are forfeited. We have to stick together as a family...and they need to know that they will always have each other!
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
13 Jun 08
a wonderful answer, I am sorry for taking so long to get the B.R. awarded!
@ladyljs (1303)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Thanks for the best response! Looks like you are doing a little BR housework too! I have been trying to clean mine up as well...takes a while! LOL!
@creematee (2810)
• United States
26 Apr 07
MY older two always get hugs, thank yous, and/or small rewards...i.e. computer time, ice cream or game time with mom or dad. The youngest gets to play the game with mommy..."gimme 5, On the Side, Cut the cheese, now give me a squeeze!" She lOVES this game! (much more so than "cut the pickle, now tickle, tickle!") If they argue about the chore or fight with each other, nothing is given--especially the small rewards.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
26 Apr 07
aw, that is so cute! I forgot all about those little games. hehe. The only one hand game I've done with my 5 year old was lift my thumb, put your finger in, twirl it around.... whoops, that one is not so pleasant, is it?
@creematee (2810)
• United States
27 Apr 07
HAA HA! I know that one! I haven't shown it to my kids, yet. They are still a little young, yet. :)
@chetlog (624)
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
The best reward ever in my opinion! First of all it connects you to your child. Second, it makes your bond even stronger everytime you hug them. Third, its totally free! It no only benefits the givee, but the giver also!
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
26 Apr 07
aw, thanks for that...now I do not feel so cheap, lol. I think you are right on.
@villageanne (8555)
• United States
29 Apr 07
When we were raising our daughters, we rewarded them according to what they did. When it was straight "A's" in school, we took them out to eat. They loved to go out to eat as we did not do it except when they made the grades. They were never in a restaurant until they were in first grade. When they cleaned their rooms or did their chores without me having to tell them to. We bragged on them.
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
i think it depends on the tactics of the parents.. mostly, to rich people they usually reward their kids material or food stufs to their kids who have done great achievement like for example topping the exams (which is the most common case of giving a reward) lol... hugs and kisses could be great, too..
@Maxturvy (114)
• Philippines
27 Apr 07
" How do you reward your children for having done a god job at a task, their success or good behaviors?" If I may have my own child, since I'm still single, I will appreciates or give an appreciations for the job well done. I might pat his back and be very thankful of doing so.For the best thing he had done, I mean his initiative for doing it. I will buy something as a token of his great performance and give it to him as a presents.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
27 Apr 07
Well, my sons are 32 months and 7 months. THe seven month old, when he starts doing something new, crawling, waving etc, we clap excitedly and he loves it. With my oldest, he has begun cleaning up after himself, putting away his dirty clothes, dirty dishes, cleaning up his toys, "helping" make the bed, getting dressed by himself etc. When he does, we give him a big hug, and tell him thankyou. He says "your welcome momma, I love you so much!" (: When he first started putting his b.m.'s in the potty, we went to the store and bought him a special toy, after the first time, we switched to small candies. Once he gets it down better, we will switch to stickers, then it will just be high fives and verbal praise. (that's what we did for pee as well, minus the special toy)
@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
27 Apr 07
My kids get a big high five from Mom and hugs & kisses. I take them for "treats" after report card time. If they have improved or maintained what I consider "good" grades. I don't normally give my kids treats for doing every day things. If it is something extra special, then maybe a trip to DQ or something. I do sometimes tell them if they behave while I sleep, we'll do something fun. As sometimes my husband works, and I have to sleep in the day, so if I am especially tired, I'll do something nice for them if the let me sleep.
@mememama (3077)
• United States
27 Apr 07
I clap and say "yay", and give him a big hug. He's starting to pick up after himself (1 1/2 years old), so this encourages him to keep it up.