Disipline

United States
October 21, 2006 3:41am CST
How do you guys disipline your toddlers? I have a two and a hlaf year old and she is now testing everything I say.
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@Tanya8 (1733)
• Canada
26 Oct 06
I saved a list I put in another post on discipline, so I'll add it here too, along with a few extra points. I found the best way to stay sane with a 2 1/2 year old was to remind myself that testing was what he/she NEEDED to do in order to learn (rather than to just drive me insane :) ) Here's my list of favorite tools: - Teaching children what you WANT them to do rather than what you don't want them to do. - Walking right up to them, crouching down to make direct eye contact and telling them in a gentle tone what you want done, rather than calling out from across the room (which can make it appear like you're not serious). - Looking at every opportunity of misbehavior as an opportunity to teach, rather than getting upset about it. - Showing them how to make things right & expecting them to do so, if they behave in such a way that they break something, spill something or harm someone. -Preventing misbehavior in advance as much as possible, so I don't need to react to it after the fact. - Making sure I model the kind of qualities I want them to have.
• United States
25 Nov 06
The advice here is great - however I also use the 3-count rule. I will ask twice to do something. When I have to ask for the third time, I start to count to 3 very firmly...ONE - please do such and such. Give time for child to start doing it. TWO (slightly louder) - I asked you to do such and such...If I say 3, you will get (give consequence). If you have to reach 3, GIVE THE CONSEQUENCE. This is where most parents make their mistakes...they don't follow through, so the children don't believe they mean it when they are told to do something.