Dad Forces Son To Wear Sign saying "I Abused And Sold Drugs"
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
United States
April 29, 2007 1:25am CST
To Read Full Story: http://www.firstcoastnews.com/news/strange/news-article.aspx?storyid=80465
After reading the story what do you make of it? Do you think even though it helped his son stop doing such things, do you believe that humiliation is the correct way to get a child to act the way you want them to?
I understand that no child should be abusing or selling drugs. But I think other methods could have been done to makes this kid see the error of his ways. I know that sometimes drastic measures have to be taken to make certain people understand things, but that is just something I wouldn't subject my child to, I would try and help my child in a different way, like putting them through rehab and possibly not letting them out of the house without a trusted escort. I just don't think very highly of humiliation being a tool in a parents arsenal of things to do when enforcing punishment.
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@Largecar (56)
• United States
29 Apr 07
We also have to look at this from the father's point of view. He may have tried other methods of punishing his son, in which his son didn't listen to him and didn't know what else to do, other than humiliate him. I don't condone such a thing myself, but it surely sounds this father was at the end of his rope with his son.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Well it's true we'll probably never understand where the father was coming from unless we lived the life of this person. I am not condemning this man for what he has done, though I find that there are other ways to get a child to listen. Than to go about humiliating him/her.
@Largecar (56)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Yeah I do agree with that humiliation should never cross a parents mind when it comes to their kids, but on the other hand kids are really getting out of hand these days and parents are really at their wits end trying to come up with things to straighten up their kids without being called out on abuse.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
29 Apr 07
I think this parent should wear a sign saying "I need to learn how to be a better father".
There are many ways of parenting and this is certainly not something easy to learn or master. But what he did just screams wrong. How can you intentionally humiliate your own child like that? Do you remember that he has a life to lead later on? How is he going to stand tall and teach his own children in future?
He needs to read that ebook titled "Parenting 101".
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
30 Apr 07
You raise very good questions my friend wizard. It's a shame that this parent did such a thing to his child, and it really does make a person wonder what sort of things is he teaching his son for in the future when he has his own kids. I just hope he doesn't subject his own kids to the likes of what his father did to him.
@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
30 Apr 07
It's a sad thing that the knowledge of parenting is not embedded in our genes.
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
29 Apr 07
I think that was a bit over the top but if it worked then I think that was the most important thing. The kid was probably very resentful but it maybe stopped him in the future from doing things that he would be ashamed of having to wear a sign telling the world about.
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
30 Apr 07
Well let's hope that it works. Just seems strange to me, especially since I know I wouldn't and most people wouldn't like to have their mistakes and flaws known to the world. I'm thinking more on the lines that the kids now may tease him for this, and that in itself can be a lot worse than what his father did to him.
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
2 May 07
I definitely feel that humiliation is NOT a good way to discipline and get a child to stop doing something. I think that is horrible that a parent would put their child through that. I personally would have chosen rehab if it were my child. Things like that exist for a reason. their are a lot of great services out there, people just need to learn where and how to find them.
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@deepti15 (1190)
• India
29 Apr 07
No, I just dont think that humiliation is the right way to make your child walk on the correct path. Children are caled children, because their minds re young, not of experts or mnature people. They cannot think like mature people and tend to make mistakes, remember it is a mistake not a crime and elders should help them out to be a better citizen, a better decision maker in future. Humiliating yoiur own kid, will only make him bitter, not better. You should not do this, just try help him undrestand the pros and cons of what your child is doing.Make friends with your kid, help him understand what is right and what is wrong, What he should do and what he should become. It all depends on you, only you can shape his future, dont ruin him, he needs care, understanding and attention.
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
30 Apr 07
I agree humiliation isn't the correct path to go on. I believe in the correct punishment for such a thing, that doesn't deal with the abuse of a child. I could never see it in my heart to make my child wear I sign showing the world that he/she had made a mistake. That's all it was, and there are better methods at stopping such acts without being overly drastic about it.
