Which would you prefer,,, the one you love? or the one who loves you more?
April 30, 2007 2:13pm CST
Sometimes we love someone and yet that someone dont recognize that feeling. While we're loving that person, someone is loving us more than we do. Someone who's willing to give you everything that the other person can't. I believe that we would be able to love someone eventually. how about you?
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• United States
30 Apr 07
I suppose I would have to say the one I love. Though hindsight is a wonderful thing and I am not sure those more cynical moments in my life I say I should go for what I can get out of life. I was dating two men both knew I was dating two men. One man wanted to marry me, had his own business, as well as worked for a prestigious company, and owned his own home. He felt that I should always get my own way, would dote on me, and indulge me, and I would rule the roost as it were. I would get my own way and have what I wanted. I would be spoiled indulged pampered. The other man had a steady job, had issues in his life, and was living back at home with his parents. I owned my home so that wasn't an issue. I know how it can be when your parents get older I took care of my mom. He told me he loved me, that eventually he would like to get married, but when he had the money to do it right, he was caring, and honest, and kind, and patient, and tolerant. While he was sharing, he wasn't overly indulgent., and there was much more compromise needed. I feel in love with and was very mad at the second man, because I didn't want to fall in love with anyone. So I am with the second man, who has issues, gets tired and cranky, doesn't always indulge me and in fact though we discussed the need to work on our relationship at times he just withdrawals. This drives me nuts. I am a talker he is not. On the other hand he has taken good care of me, and he is still the man I fell in love with. I knew going in that we would learn to drive each other nuts the day to day living with another person is like that. Should I have chosen the one with financial security, who would have indulged me in all ways, and who loved me as well? I don't know I followed my heart, and I am with the man I love. Money is tight, sometimes bills have the late fee added on to the payment, and we don't always go out when we want to in order to save on the expense, but I still think I made the right choice for me at that time. I was true to myself. I don't think I have ever trusted another human being more than I do this man, and I wonder if I would ever be able to feel so secure emotionally with anyone else. So is it because I choose the man I loved rather than the one who loved me? maybe, or is it that I loved him because I felt so comfortable with him, because I felt I could trust him to see the darkest side of me, and not judge me? To hold me when I didn't feel well, and to be there for me, regardless. I don't know. I don't think it was a matter of love, that made my choice for me, it was a matter of trust, and the feeling that goes with this kind of bone deep trust.