Virginity...Does it really matter... At All?
By kcrysea
@kcrysea (195)
Philippines
May 1, 2007 12:12pm CST
I have a friend who called us and cried. She was frustrated at that time and need someone to talk to...When we're together we all asked her what happened and we made a wild guess... and we're right. She lost her virginity and after that, she and her bf broke up. She was told by this guy that no guy will accept her with that condition (not virgin at all). We said no, thats not true... if the guy loves you, he will accept you for whatever you are including the mistakes that you've done even before you met him...
For guys, does it really matter if the girl is virgin or not?
and for girls, if you're on that same condition how would you react if the guy tells you that no one will accept you at all...hmmm
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17 responses
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
2 May 07
Here in sweden almost noone is a virgin when they get married and we also marry late - in our 30´s more or less.
I am sure that if she finds a guy that really loves her he will not care. Times are changing and we all need to change with it.
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@SACH4ISHA (1163)
• India
1 May 07
when you talk about love anything does'n mateer and if she loves me and she had some past then i am ready to forget that past
and short to sum up it does't mateers to me at all
@jene1985 (224)
• Australia
2 May 07
hun I am sorry for your friend quite frankly I wouldnt want to be with a guy who doesnt accept me for who I am virgin or not should make no difference and to someone who does love you genuinely it doesnt matter make sure you tell your friend how wonderful she is and she didnt deserve the way she was treated some guys and girls for that matter can be quite selfish and not nice most importantly she know its not her fault
@gabb88 (29)
• Philippines
2 May 07
does virginity matter?? for me hell no!
if you really love someone.. accept him/her fully..understand his/her whole being..
don't ever fall for a guy who demands a virgin girl.. he only wanted to take away your virginity.. love is not like that..for real..act mature
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
2 May 07
Well ..to me losing virgintiy is a not a small thing not because of some guys will not accept me ..but because I don't want to lose my virginity!!
Thats it..!!
And If a guy is not accepting me just because I lost my virginity then it is such a lame excuse...!!
I would never force him for this neither cry over the fact that he rejected because I am not virgin anymore..!
Oh comon..!He is not meant for you if he wants you just because your virgin.
@cuteyasoi17 (155)
• Philippines
2 May 07
it matters a lot to me..i dont know why i value virginity that much..but I believe its holy and should only be used in marriage
@lovelydame3000 (1577)
• India
2 May 07
First of all, I am sorry about your friend who lost her virginity. I am a person who gifted my virginity to my Husband and he told me that he felt on top of the world to have me as a virgin. It is unfortunate that your friends relationship broke but it is not true that she won't get a guy at all because she is not a virgin. These generation guys only bother about the present and not the past. Your friend is better off such a guy.
@darklord22 (34)
• India
2 May 07
Virginity is no longer dignity, its just lack of oppurtunity !! kidding
gettin down to the point, Your friend should not feel bad about what has happened , what happened was by chance and not totally a choice. it happened cause she thought she was in love witht the guy.
for guys , it really does not matter if his girls is a virgin or no. as long as he loves her these minor things should not come between any relation
@simple_joy1587 (232)
• Philippines
2 May 07
yeah I beleive that's virginity is still best for a guy if he would be your husband.. but in a case that if the girl lost her virginity and if a guy would accept her... That's a true love can make them bind together...
For me.. my perception is, Virginity is a sacred thing... because if we save virginity before marraige is pleasing to God.. and also be proud of your/our future husband....
I'm not disappointing anyone/anybody.. but just my perception... thanks
@nurhoney (1123)
• Philippines
1 May 07
Nah...thats oldie already. Although there are some men that prefer virgins but most of them don't really care...as long as they love the girl and accepted her as who she is, then its no big deal. Your friend lost her virginity because she loved the guy...just like i did. I got nothing to be ashamed of, its not like i did it for fun itself but for the reason that i loved him that much to give it up to him. My hubby now is not the person who i lost my virginity with...guess what, he doesnt care about it coz he loves me for who iam. So tell you friend, if she finds a guy that is just looking for girls that are virgins, tell that guy to get lost coz he doesnt deserve her.
• India
2 May 07
To some guys virginity does matter but on the otherhand there r some guys who would accept gals for wat u r and not for wat u hav done(mistakes).
I would not agree with the guy who say's tat no one will accept a gal who lost her virginity.
@vampirestonez (1181)
• Pakistan
2 May 07
Well everyone has different perspectives on this but though I will admit that I would want a virgin girl but if I truely love someone that this is not an issue or an obstacle in my path.
I think it is unfair to think lower of the girls who have lost their virginity.
@mrangelique (232)
• Philippines
2 May 07
It doesn't really matter for me. Narrow people are bothered by this.
@Necmi7 (19)
• Australia
2 May 07
If girls should be virgins when the boys find us, they should be virgins too! Too me if a guy doesn't accept you for your past, including your mistakes or experiences, then they're not worth your time!! I can't emphasize that enough. It's not love if he can't accept you for who you are. That guy had no right to say that to her, just because he doesn't want a girl that isn't a virgin (fair enough that's his opinion) then he should only speak on his behalf. Not on behalf for every single guy out there.
Not all guys are the same. Tell her she will find someone that will love her and her past, and not to believe in what that certain guy said. His one guy, but there's many more men out there.
