Unconditional love making....

@liranlgo (5748)
Israel
May 1, 2007 2:39pm CST
Okay. We ar all adults here and each one of us have their husband/wife, our partners and our recent bf/gf. My question to you is: Do you make love spontaneously, or do you usually have conditions. An example: I will make love to you if..you will wash the dishes today. I will make love to you only if you promise me you will call that person now and tell him _________. Are you one of those people that makes terms to your partner when he wants to make love to you. Or do you just go spontaneous?
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16 responses
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
2 May 07
firstly, i really appreciate this thread, it's pertinent and apt. for me, love has always been unconditional and without any tags. i have always believed that true love is but irrespective of anything or everything on earth. so, obviously, it is more sane and natural that i would not want or make any conditions before making love. i never had, it had always come unplanned, naturally. however, the only terms in making love, i believe, is to be in love from within. i would not want to woo or make love to someone just for the sake of it. i love, he loves and we make love - it's simple philosophy. so, LOVE is the only pre-requisite to make love in my case. thank you.
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
5 May 07
Lol mimpi and thank you. I like your reponse very much.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
7 May 07
i am glad you did. thanx liran.
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@jenalyn (675)
• United States
3 May 07
Spontaneously only. I would not make demands and I would not accept them either. I like to feel like the feeling is mutual, and that is the only way I can enjoy it. I know people that make deals with each other, and it seems like their relationship was in trouble anyway. I guess that is the only way they would have s3x with each other. I am not them so I don't know. If I am not happy in a relatiosnhip I would rather abstain from s3x than to make deals. I guess to each his own.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
5 May 07
I agree with you. Thank you:))
@dpk262006 (56482)
• Delhi, India
3 May 07
Lira, I think it is not good for the partners to put conditions for making love. It is not fair...I think to make love ....is a matter of understanding and personal equation between the partners. Nor my spouse neither I put any condition for making love...we just go spontaneously....whenever the opportunity arises.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
5 May 07
You are 100% right. thank you:))
@easy888 (10405)
• Australia
2 May 07
Hello,liranlgo,I do not have a boyfriend now so i have to tell you based on my past experience.I would make love with my ex-boyfriend spontaneously, it was something about feeling,sometimes I felt I had physical needs,and I would love to have it then,it was something natural. I would not ask him to do anything for me,all i would ask was to make love with me and nothing else.:)
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
5 May 07
Thank you easy:))
@skbadhan (881)
• India
2 May 07
its really hard to love any body without any conditions in a broarded sence as every one has expectations from each others regarding wether it is social responsibilities of diffrent kinds every one expect from his /her partner to be a kind and honest , loving,caring ect. its human nature what i think. but i don't love my wife just on conditions whether she will do like that only then i will love her or not ect. as love is a feeling and we can't put conditions like this
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
5 May 07
i do agree with you. Thank you:)
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
2 May 07
I would never make any terms. If you start making terms...hmmmm...there is no love anymore...love should be very spontaneous and unconditional.....I don't know anyone who would do it....Does it mean that all of my friends are in love?
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@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
2 May 07
Wel.. i do not know..Maybe..:))
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@kathy77 (7488)
• Australia
1 May 07
When I make love with my husband it is always spontaneously I do not have any conditions there are no terms and my husband does not have any either. It is wonderful to make love to my husband and I think that people that do otherwise something must be wrong with their relationship.
@liranlgo (5748)
• Israel
2 May 07
Yes. I think you are right in some aspect. Thank you for this response kathy:)
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@docaru (28)
• Qatar
3 May 07
Making love spontaneously would always be the best..and most if done with surprises..going by schedules and conditons was absurd..going freely with the flow brings excitement to both partners especially when they have the flexibility to experiments out of the basic.
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@SheliaLee (2738)
• United States
2 May 07
For me and my husband it is always spontaneous. I don't think lovemaking ought to be given on conditions. I'm pretty sure with my husband that if I said we will on this condition that he would be extremely upset about it. I would never want to do him that way and I wouldn't want him to do me that way either.
@arvee17 (730)
• Philippines
2 May 07
the only condition i give my husband before we make love is to clean himself first and go to bed really fresh and clean... That way we will really enjoy the process...
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• Slovak Republic
2 May 07
i would definitely rather be spontaneous than setting rules.. like we'll have it every 9pm on every second tuesday or something.. it restricts the idea of love making i suppose.. and lovemaking should be something to enjoy spontaneously and not to be scheduled or something..
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• United States
2 May 07
Never, but maybe I should! LOL I would not tie something so special to something so mundane.
@jhoanee (598)
• Philippines
2 May 07
for me s*x is one way of expressing how much you love your partner. it shouldnt be given with conditions or whatever. i think its mutual understanding between two people who loves each other.
• New Zealand
1 May 07
For me its combination of both ...it depends what works on that particular situation...If I have to do..i will try to to convince her and once i get green signal from her i make out .... All bribe and promise which u made before just naturally gets ignored ...and she didn't even realised it ...May be she got the jot which is more important than fulfiliing the conditions
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@wolves69 (756)
• United States
3 May 07
For us, its always spontaneous. I think I know my better half well enough to know when its best not to try anything. So far, I haven't been wrong with her. Love should come with strings attached.
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• Kottayam, India
5 May 07
Love can all do things, it bears all.