Just walk right in, whydocha?!?

@lisado (1230)
United States
May 1, 2007 3:48pm CST
Do you knock before entering a friend's house or do you just let yourself in? I have a friend that often shows up unexpected and then just lets herself into our house if the door isn't locked. I hate that! I feel like I have to lock myself in my own house so people don't just walk themselves in whenever they want. If you just went out to your car or something I don't expect a knock, but when you just stop by out of nowhere isn't it the polite thing to do by knocking? I don't even walk into my parents house without knocking! If we are staying with them while visting I don't knock every time, but I always do when we first get there. I was taught that just walking into someone else's house is rude. Do you think it is or am I just being anal?
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@mememama (3077)
• United States
25 May 07
I agree with you, it's common courtesy to knock on the door if you are first entering! I would be so mad if I had a friend doing that. I even prefer to have a phone call beforehand so I can look halfway decent and put on a bra lol.
@lisado (1230)
• United States
29 May 07
Yep, same here! If I know she is coming it isn't as big of a deal if she just walks in. I'm still not happy about it, but at least there is some warning there. If it's a weekend I lay in my jammies until noon, just because I can. If she shows up with her boyfriend in tow that is NOT the way I want to be seen, ya know?
7 May 07
I would never just walk into someone's house, not even my best friend. It is just plain rude and ill-mannered, I always knock and wait for them to open the door. Apart from the fact that it is very rude, suppose you barged into your friend's house and they were, erm, *busy in bed* - lol
@lisado (1230)
• United States
29 May 07
She has almost caught us in this situation, as a matter of fact! Luckily our bedroom was upstairs and she hollered when she walked in the door, but still! Talk about a mood killer! lol My husband was less than pleased, lemme tell ya! Both of our sons were taking a nap (which seldom happens, espcially at the same time) so we figured we'd take some mommy and daddy time. Guess not! It's like she has some kind of radar or something!
@cjthedog64 (1554)
• United States
4 May 07
I was taught the same thing. My DH's family is the opposite though. We walk into his parents house all the time without knocking or calling first. It's been 12 years and I'm still not used to it. People do knock at our house though - we have 2 dogs who bark and they can wake up DS if he's napping.
@lisado (1230)
• United States
29 May 07
Same here. My husband's family is the same way. We've been married over 10 years but have been friends for 18 and I'm still not used to it either. Even if they know we're coming I knock first. My inlaws ask why didn't I just come in and I say because it's not my house. Just the way I was brought up.
@freak369 (4779)
• United States
2 May 07
I can't stand that! I keep the front doors locked all the time but the kitchen one is usually open and it scares the poop out of me when someone just walks in. Even when I go to one of my closest friends houses and she knows I am on my way, I still knock and she laughs. Like you said .. that is the way we were raised :]
• United States
15 May 07
You are not being anal. That is your house and should be given the respect of knocking on your door before entering. That doesn't mean knock and than walk in without waiting for a response either. I had a person do that to me and when I told them about it all they said well, I did knock. That was not the point. He did not wait until I said it was alright for him to come in. I knock when I go to my moms house, sisters house and my son knocks when he comes to my house. Everyone should knock before entering someone elses house. That is as it should be.
• Slovak Republic
3 May 07
i am so ever guilty of doing this most of the time.. one because i have really close friends and i felt like they are my family.. though i know that shouldn't be done even to your family... sometimes it's just that people get overly excited on seeing you or something that they bump right into your door which is sometimes quite rude i suppose... maybe we just have to set rules.. even friends and family have them right.. just talk to your friend i know she will understand you...
@crazynurse (7510)
• United States
1 May 07
I don't think that you are anal to expect the common courtesy of knocking! What if you had just gotten out of the shower? What if you were on the phone, having a very personal conversation. There are myriads of reasons that one would not want immediate unexpected company. I guess I was just raised that it was polite to knock.